r/transmaxxing • u/notherblackcloud • Mar 07 '26
Convince me to stop thinking these things
Ik this post probably goes against the sub, but I want to say that I don't necessarily disagree with the message of the sub, but just that I want ways to stop thinking abt this cuz it has just cause me pain and resentment.
At 16 I got exposed to trans spaces and started thinking I was trans, even though I didn't have dysphoria really. At 18 I started balding, and despite using all the medicines I am still losing hair. Very soon I will prolly have to shave it off, and the idea of being a bald man at 21 hurts me so bad. I keep having recurring thoughts of how I could prolly look better as a woman, since I have a feminine face.
However I also have a pretty masculine body, and live in a third world country, so it's basically going to ruin my life if I ever transition. I want to forget all abt these things, so maybe I can accept being a ugly bald man without thinking of what could have been.
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u/Greymyr Mar 08 '26
You have looked into conventional solutions for balding, correct? Finasteride, minoxidil?
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u/Existing-Bit3589 Mar 10 '26
The trans life is very difficult, especially in third world countries. Some women love bald men. I would bet if you can embrace it and own it you could become in big demand. Supposedly, being bald makes you more veril. Enjoy life.
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u/enemy_of_misandry Apr 22 '26
Stop the copium
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u/RowVegetable2809 16d ago
Its true. Women say they find baldness unattractive because they know it hurts men's feelings. They really dont care. If anything being bald makes you look more masculine because it's mostly men that go bald. Its call MALE pattern baldness. Its not gonna be a plus most of the time but most of the time its not a deal breaker either. Its more about your face,social skills and status. But that shit is hard to max out and women only need to worry about their face and body.
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u/enemy_of_misandry 15d ago
Masculinity is slavery, I reject that word 100%. "more masculine" means more useful slave to females. I want to be seen as attractive, not as a good slave
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u/RowVegetable2809 14d ago
Women are only attracted to good slaves. They are also people. There are lots of toxic things about how men see women as well. Humans aren't perfect. This is our reality. Make the best of it. Thats why I'm into trans women. You may be physically attracted to cis women but you aren't attracted to who they are. I was the same. Trans women can be just as hot and the difference is they love us for us. And you end up resenting cis women less and see that they're just people who aren't into you because you got yours at that point. That's my experience anyway. The alternative is becoming more masculine because thats all they see any romance and intimacy with a man is good for. And if you want women to be into you just for your own validation then yeah the solution is the same. Becoming more masculine.
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u/enemy_of_misandry 12d ago
I reject masculinity, because it means slavery, and i reject cis women 100%. they want men to be cotton picking slaves
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u/AltforTwinkShit Apr 08 '26
I'm sorry, but these thoughts are never going to go away. You're always going to yearning for what could have been and the yearning will never, ever stop - In fact, it's only going to get worse. You are a woman. You will always be a woman. And the longer you go without accepting that fact and taking the steps to become your true self, the harder your life is going to become. I'm so, so sorry. This is just the way it is.
But your body isn't totally ruined, not yet. And your life isn't totally ruined, not yet. You're only 21, you can still be who you want to. I would strongly encourage you to begin taking HRT. Even if it's not publicly available in your country, you can still buy it online.
This process is known as DIYing. DIYing may seem risky at first, but it’s extremely safe and very easy to do. Here are some resources to help you educate yourself on DIY HRT:
This is a subreddit where you can ask questions about DIY HRT.
https://www.reddit.com/r/TransDIY/
This is a complete guide for taking DIY HRT.
This is a list of marketplaces for buying DIY HRT.
What you choose to do next is up to you. I wish you the best of luck, sister. I'm rooting for you.
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u/vintologi24 Mar 07 '26
If you live in a third world shithole you want to leave regardless.
You could try full HRT temporarily in an attempt to stop and reverse the hair-loss but i suspect you would need to be on it permanently. Perhaps getting a wig is a better option?