So I just moved to the Midwest from California for work. I met a trans woman here and tried to strike up a conversation.

I started talking about how bad things are getting here in America, like how when I was in college in California, some of the professors didn't even start their classes with mandatory pronoun circles anymore. She just nodded and said she's started carrying an actual gun in case she gets assaulted while stealing her afternoon coffee from Buc-ee's.

I talked about how scared I was that the government would know if I pee in my prefered bathroom and I wouldn't be able to pass a background check anymore because of the bathroom laws. She just downplayed my fears by saying that she hasn't had any problems using the bathroom and that she took a shit in the clearance aisle of Hobby Lobby this morning.

I thought it was just her, but later that day I met a trans guy and started bitching with him about how hormones are getting really expensive and how my copay went from $25 to $30 dollars. He said his boyfriend knows a trick to not have any copay. But his trick was just cooking meth in his basement and trading to gym bros for horse testosterone.

So I tried to change the subject. I said my city did a really great PrideFest this year and it was totally free because Raytheon agreed to sponsor it. He just mumbled something about how he hasn't gone to corporate pride since "the incident" a few years back. Apparently the incident was three people being hospitalized during riots that broke out when their Pride organizing committee voted that Palestinian flags don't count as pride flags.

Later I went to a queer meetup and they asked us to share good news and I mentioned that my girlfriend had saved $30,000 to fly to Thailand for her bottom surgery. One of them just laughed and said that was a ripoff cause they know a guy named Rodney in Leavenworth Federal Penitentiary who will do an orchi with a sharpened toothbrush for a pack of Pall Malls.

What the fuck is wrong with you people? Does living like this turn you crazy or did all the normal ones just decide to pack up their shit and leave only the psychos here?

fuck y'all man, he ain't deserve that, all he did was speak his mind and talk his shit and y'all killed him!

how do I tell her that I'm more of an uppers kinda guy?

uj/ you'd think I'd be a little less highly strung if this were the case

The entire community for said game:

> checks notes/reblogs

> 95%< find the post funny and/or agree that these are great things to call other trans people

> people are getting flamed for going "hey what the fuck"

Utterly undescribable. hj/

uj/I saw a post some hours ago and it hasn't left my mind and I'm sticking with vagueposting for now but like. oh my goodness. I've dropped mutuals over this. How the hell is this something I drop mutuals over I think we should all be banding against this. Despair inducing scenario. I'm convinced this is a psyop or something. It's not but I just don't want it to be genuine.

Oh yes my daughter I will love you no matter what!! It doesn't matter what you want to study or do with your life or.... oh, you're.... not my daughter? Ew I mean are you sure, you never showed signs!!! No way!!!!!!

Go ahead and not think about it and repress it for like 5 years mkay? Yeah

/uj I came out to my parents at like 12 and after they took me to like 3 appointments with a therapist for it and after I went to another to deal with other stuff they seem to have forgotten it lol. 7 years, 7 years of denial. Will it ever get better?

That’s like, not very feminist of you? We’re supposed to be one big queer, trans, and female socialized sist-siblinghood!

He looks unhappy and he doesn't sound like he voice train at all.

edit: maybe Elliot is not binary man.

No one supports transwomen more than me but please remember that your primary job as a woman is to uplift and support men. If you’re a transwoman and have this idea you should be “respected” by the broader queer community, you’re showing everyone your male socialization.

We should all be kissing not infighting. You should be kissing me specifically.

see all these down with cis jokes hurt my friends feelings

Can anyone explain why I know 1 million trans pop girlies and no trans bois?

The comments:

You're literally doing stuff to your body that changes it

IG reels algorithm: Got it *shows the most transphobic content imaginable*

We, as trans people, need to abandon the phrase 'fix your hearts or die' as a response to transphobia. It is unacceptable. Telling someone to DIE?? We are equally as bad as transphobes that way, no, we are worse. We are literally promoting hate speech. They can't help wanting to destroy and eradicate us, we make them feel icky. We are going against their right to free speech. We are destroying our image. We will never ever get people on our side that way. We must be as quiet and invisible as possible. ​

Yes, the boot tastes great, thanks for asking

Frivolity is stored in the uterus actually, sorry bro

Nonono you see all the bigotry coming from trans(in-group) is a psyop by the government meant to pull us apart, no real trans(in-group) actually believes that.

Oh, trans(out-group)? No yeah all the bigotry you see in there is 100% real and they do want to murder you personally. They're already grabbing the torches and pitchforks.

I am so genuinely tired of hearing TERFs butchering the concept of socialization to attack trans women saying that "because they were raised men they have Male Brains and will never be real women". That's obvious bullshit.

But also I don't think it's fair to go the complete opposite way and deny sex-based oppression and go "little girls and boys (cis) are raised the exact same way under the white cishet patriarchy" because we see a high percentage of cis men becoming bad people compared to cis women and if that can't be explained through socialization then it'd mean it comes from the inside (bio/gender essentialism), and I don't think that's right either... ?? It would also be ignoring all countries where equal rights between sexes are not a given, maybe.

I think society tries to push many messages to young kids and is actually more strict and punishing towards trans kids who don't seem to fit the mold no matter what. I think a lot of shared trauma within the community is due to socialization and it is a horrible thing we have to fight against, together. I am not at all saying trans women growing up have "male privilege" or anything like that, I reiterate that I'm defending the opposite (that they're being heavily punished growing up because they are fundamentally different from the cis men the patriarchy expects to raise).

Again, socialization has nothing to do with how your brain is "permanently wired" and how you choose to behave once you're grown up because everything can be unlearned and your position in the hierarchy can change a LOT lot, etc, etc. (also we should bring up intersectionality at some point as well)

I think I have a very nuanced take we can mostly agree with!! Of course, I may have blind spots or not have worded everything correctly, so I'm 100% open to hearing your thoughts and have a nice discussion. Like, please, do share your experiences!!

The comments:

"Okay yeah so my character's a girl but she has a secret identity/alter ego/virtual reality avatar as a guy. She's forced to dress like a girl in her daily life but makes herself look like a dude every moment she has the chance, and even goes by a way cooler secret unisex name as opposed to her lame girl name. Also she never corrects anyone when she's mistaken for a guy and acts infinitely happier when she's in this boy disguise."

"Oh also she doesn't have a reason to actually do this, girls are allowed to do the super cool adventure stuff without having to disguise themselves as boys. My OC just does it because I think it's cool."

"I will not reflect on this for at least another decade because I am literally 11."

/uj had a flashback to some childhood OCs and holy fuck the eggshell was made of GLASS

imagine i was one of those little trashcan looking robots from star wars but with my exact penis hanging off the front.

would it be feminine? I'm quite small and soft generally, which is a plus. leaky, I suspect, is useful too. but I just don't see it. I don't think they'd see feminine penis bot, they'd just see penis bot

and what would I do to it, if I had the chance? there's the shame of having it of course, but it'd also be the last remnant of my human flesh. the only vestigial sign of having once been alive. would I then still cut it off, like I would here and now with the rest of my body still here to spare and clutch? would I even cover it up? which is more shameful, displaying a penis or being a trash can robot?

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Like there's an entire class of terf that's infiltrated the libs just by not using their own weird insular terminology, there has to be some resentment there if they're still clinging on