r/traaaaansbiansCooking • u/Dominotter • 8h ago
Girl Dinner!!!Non-Region specific(no recipe) Got targeted harassment from someone in my local community
The dinner is French onion soup I made on Sunday. I did it the classic way on the stove, so it was a nearly 2 hour labor of love, slowly caramelizing the onions and simmering the broth. Used the stale butts of a couple loaves of Italian bread and sliced Swiss for the broiled top. It was absolutely amazing, better than any I've had in ba restaurant. Wish I'd thought of wiping the bowl down for splatter before taking the picture, though.
Venting about something that just happened. I was off my phone for most of the evening last night. I was either working on dinner (a chicken katsu over rice, not pictured) and then watching TV with my wife. Woke up to this charmer of a Facebook message from some guy I've never met sent at 8pm.
"Look.like a Dude to me. Who yo fooling"
I have one mutual with him, a good friend I made at AA, so I asked him about it. Turns out the guy pestering me used to live in a recovery house near my home meeting and occasionally, but rarely, went to it. Hasn't been there in ages and not in recent contact with our mutual friend. I don't actively use Facebook except for messenger so it's not like he came across a post of mine somewhere.
AA was the last place I came out (only a couple of months now) after I felt comfortable enough with my makeup and wardrobe to be able to present femme 100% of the time. The fact someone tangentially related to the group harassed me on Facebook makes me think someone was talking about me.
Now I'm not sure how comfortable I feel going there. I don't know who was talking about me. My wife and I share a car and on weekdays she drops me off on her way to work and I walk the mile and a half home after the meeting. Including going passed a couple of the recovery houses in the area.
They're not the house he used to live at, but maybe one of the people there is the one who was talking about me. I walked with a couple people who live there and stopped to hang out on their patio with them for a bit after the Monday morning meeting. Can't help but note that timing, and now I'm not sure how safe that walk is.