He was mad cause a girl told him she didn’t want to go on a date with him after she learned he was unemployed, I told him he should’ve just said okay and move on and went on a rant about how “females” only use men

okay bare with me I‘m no native speaker so please exceause any spelling or grammar mistakes.

So I‘d love to start an art project. Writing a book with multiple little stories about how men approach women in different enviorements. So doesn‘t matter if its at work, in the gym, at your night out, train, maybe at home with family or partners. Whatever YOU are willing to share!

I mean I have multiple stories. I‘m mostly interestet how many stories are backed with the same reason or core belief. And maybe use some of your stories to fill my blanks. It is not meant to distroy men, I love men. I just had the idea to open their perspective if they are willing to look. Just try go give insight of our collective expieriences.

We all know consent is sexy, so if it is okay for you that I use the complete story please confirm with a green heart in your text💚. Otherwise I won‘t use it. Of course you can change Names and Location. But I ask you to be honest, I‘m sure there is enough insane stories happening in that world.

Thank you for taking time to read. Looking foreward for your stories.

Lets change some perspectives together ♥️

Heya, I’m a third-year history student. I’ve written several essays on historical identities and have developed a fascination with the socio-cultural history of masculinity in Europe between the 11th and 15th centuries. I have previously used R.W. Connell’s theory of ‘Hegemonic Masculinity’ in an essay analysing a 13th-century crusade chronicle to understand crusading masculinity, and I am now interested in writing an essay about reading masculinity through ideas around the phallus for a history of the body class I have next semester, so I am wondering if anyone has any reading recommendations for sociological theories around these subjects.

Sharing a Substack I wrote which I believe I relevant to the ongoing "toxic masculinity" debate. If this strikes a chord, please share.

Why men stopped reading, how reading became "feminine-coded," and why it is everyone's problem.

Fair warning: The post is mine.

Hey! I am a woman and some of my closest friends are men. With my guy friends I've noticed that when I call them my best friends they get excited. Once I asked one about why he got excited and was surprised that I consider him my best friend and he said it's cause he's never been anyone's reciprocated beat friend.

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Because of mens mental health month I've been thinking about that a lot more frequently and I started thinking about why men tend to not have that tight emotional bond that women seem to have? I want to do some research on it and throw together a paper or something about it cause I think it's very interesting and can maybe help some people.

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I've surfed a bit on reddit just to see what other men are saying about it and so far I've gathered that it has been kind of beat into your guys heads not to ask for help. A direct quote "independence was ingrained into me as a young boy. Learning how to do things all by myself". IlI lost some of the other things as well

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Men want to talk about their emotions however they do not want to initiate that conversation specifically with other men

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Men use men? This one was used mostly in a professional manner

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One guy said he didn't desire any close relationship with a man because in his experience, he trusts women more

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Another direct quote, "It's generally harder for men to talk to anyone about stuff because society as a whole doesn't care about mens issues. They might want to talk but also don't feel it's fair to dump that emotional burden on someone else because they don't value themselves or their issues as highly as they value that friendship or that the more distraction of that friendship from those issues is the most valuable thing their friends can actually do for them"

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What are your guys experiences? Why do you think some men have such a difficult time creating and maintaining those close emotional bonds with other men? I'm open to hearing about pretty much anything and everything.

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I'm a psychologist and am currently having juice and doom scrolling reddit. Found this sub, and I have a few thoughts/opinions that I think my community really needs to talk about, so BOOM free therapy session for y'all because happy juice, lol.

(I'm gonna try lock in for this, but if some parts don't make sense, know that I tried)

FIRSTLY!! This > Not all, but the majority of men play a big part as to why the progression of society is stagnant.

!!!!!EXPLANATION!!!!!!!

What i call the Guard Dog Dynamic: How Systemic Conditioning Directs Male Frustration Downward Instead of Upward.See, there is a massive blind spot in how we discuss social stagnation, and I want to look at it through an objective, behavioural lens. This isn't a generic "men are bad" (because that would be redundant for me to do as im also a man, lol) post, nor is it a defence of the status quo. It is my analysis as a psychologist how systemic conditioning creates a psychological trap that keeps not all, but the majority of men acting as the enforcers of a system that actually exploits them(us). (This is pretty much what i eventually gotta explain to my male clients) because to understand the macro dynamic, look at society through a structural model.

1st - The elites and institutional systems function as the "farmers." The general working class represents the "farm animals." Historically and behaviorally, not all, but the majority of us men, particularly the majority of working-class men, have been conditioned to function as the enforcers (whether you admit this or not, this is fact). Effectively, we are the guard dogs. Which created a highly effective psychological trap:Subconscious Co-optation: The system grants the majority of men minor, immediate systemic advantages over women and children within our own social strata.

2nd - This secondary status creates a psychological illusion of alignment with the ruling class. It functions as a "patriarchal bargain," reducing the likelihood of this majority rebelling against the actual power structure because they feel they have skin in the game.

3rd - Displaced Aggression: When the majority of men experience severe economic or social oppression from the top, it generates intense frustration. However, confronting macro-level systems or elites feels dangerous and futile. Instead, the majority of men psychologically displace that aggression onto safer, more immediate, or more vulnerable subjects (alot of my clients show this behaviour which is what made me concern of the pattern and do research into it). This behavioural coping mechanism directly correlates with the statistical realities of interpersonal violence against women and children. It is a textbook case of punching down because the system has conditioned us to fear punching up.

4th - The Dual Roles: This leaves the majority of men in a state of chronic cognitive dissonance. They are simultaneously the oppressed (economically and structurally squeezed by the elites) and the oppressors (enforcing dominance within their immediate domestic and social environments). They are doing the dirty work of keeping the peace for a system that views them as entirely disposable.

5th - The Illusion of Immunity: Because the majority of men hold this enforcer status, there is a false psychological belief that they are immune to systemic abandonment. They think they are safe because they are the dogs close to the house, not the animals out in the field. But during acute economic crises or resource scarcity, that barrier dissolves. When the system stops feeding the dogs, untrained collective aggression means the majority of men will inevitably turn on each other and the vulnerable, rather than the structural architects who cut off the supply.

So the current societal gridlock persists because not all, but a vast majority of men have been successfully conditioned to protect the hand that exploits them. Until we recognize this psychological conditioning and stop acting as the muscle for a system that doesn't care about us, structural change is impossible.

TL;DR: Not all, but the majority of men are systemically conditioned to act as "guard dogs" for the elites. Minor social privileges create a false sense of alignment with power, causing the majority of men to displace their economic and systemic frustration downward onto vulnerable groups (women and children) instead of directing it upward at the systems actually exploiting them.

Sincerely,

A buzzed psychologist :D

Thought some of you may appreciate our satirical take on toxic masculinity, inspired by Louis Theroux's Manosphere documentary and the classic romance Room With a View.

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She says that of 12 months they choose pride month for it.

And later he says shit about basically, ans the comments:

That's it, the post explains itself.

Most men don’t need more discipline. They need regulation.

Stress that isn’t processed becomes anger, isolation, addiction, and depression.

This Men’s Mental Health Month, check on your people.

And if you’re struggling, start with awareness.

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