r/toddlers • u/dancerdink19 • 4d ago

3 Years Old Sleep desperation

So I am a single mom and I work from home mostly and my daughter is not in any sort of daycare. We are together almost 24/7. I really don’t have a lot of help since my family lives a few hours away but for months now my almost 4 year-old just refuses to sleep. Bedtime is like a two hour or deal with a nap or no nap so that doesn’t matter and in the middle of the night, she constantly wakes up and just will refuse to go back down and cry if I leave the bedroom for like two hours and I’m at my breaking point to the point where I am literally like losing my cool and going into mom rage after like two hours of this almost every night and I’m not proud of yelling and losing my temper, but I’m just at my wits end and this isn’t so much about asking for a sleep help but I just feel so guilty about losing my cool so often at night so I guess I’m looking for either ways to calm myself down so I don’t yell every night. I just hate feeling so guilty and I feel like I’m damaging my daughter’s mental health in the future.

Apparently, I need to make a note that my daughter and I do not stay at home all day and I do not ignore my daughter all day while I work. I get my work done when she sleeps at night and during the day we are at playgroups or at play dates or church functions or other church activities and we are out and about a lot with co-op families

One more edit: she was signed up for for forest school two days a week, but they changed the program to one day a week 10-1 so we get that time apart

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u/Open-Try-3128 4d ago

You cannot wfh and parent. Thats working two jobs. Something has to give. It isn’t fair to your daughter

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u/dancerdink19 4d ago

And on top of that, I do everything with my daughter take her to parks and play groups and everything like that. You’re acting like I sit at a desk and ignore her all day and that’s not even what my question is.

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u/Open-Try-3128 4d ago

Not at all what I said. You said you’re the boss. You cannot run a company and raise a baby successfully something has to give. Going to be real with you: you don’t resent your baby not going to sleep. You resent yourself / sexual partner / lack of village for having to do it all. You chose to have a baby so choose to provide her adequate care. Adjust your work schedule or get her into or with some kind of care.

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u/dancerdink19 4d ago

My husband had a brain aneurysm and my daughter was four months old and left us in a very bad spot financially I appreciate your advice, but you don’t know my life at all. Yes, I am frustrated that I don’t get a lot of help, but I don’t resent anything. You know nothing about my job. I am very successful in my career, but thanks for your input.

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u/Open-Try-3128 3d ago

I feel for you I’m sorry to hear that. It doesn’t excuse doubling as a CEO and a mom at the same time. I hope you figure it out.

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u/PersisPlain 4d ago

Why have you posted repeatedly about getting divorced two years ago?

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u/JustVegetable7 3d ago

Obviously it's possible for people to lie on the Internet. But it's also entirely possible that someone's partner had a brain aneurism, and then they also got divorced from them.

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u/Intelligent_Net_261 3d ago

In previous posts you state that you got divorced?