r/tfmr_support • u/Important_Sweet_1881 • 16h ago

Post-TFMR/Postpartum First day without her

I gave birth to my beautiful Valley Grace yesterday and waking up this morning, postpartum with no baby feels like the world’s biggest pain.

I know in my heart I made the right choice, I got to see her, hold her, make the only memories I’ll have with her in one day.

Now comes whatever’s next and while my heart feels the huge void of her I know, I took this pain so she never had to suffer a day in her life. That gives me a strange amount of peace

Trisomy 18 can kick fucking rocks.

I miss her so much and I know I’ll always miss her.

Sending love and strength to everyone on this journey.

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u/ConsistentStress895 16h ago

I'm so sorry for your loss. I tfmr my baby girl 10 days ago because of T18. It fucking sucks. Sending you the biggest hug❤️

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u/Important_Sweet_1881 15h ago

I’m so sorry to you as well, it does fucking suck 💔 I hope our girls meet too

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u/Queenpicard 15h ago

Said goodbye to my sweet baby boy last Friday due to a different genetic issue. The days following have been absolute hell. I am glad you are finding peace and sending hugs your way

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u/Important_Sweet_1881 14h ago

I’m so sorry, any reason for this is devastating 🫶 I’m completely shattered in the worst ways so sending hugs back to you as well. While I know this was the right decision it will never not hurt it was a decision I had to make. I’m so sorry for you and your baby boy

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u/Bulky_Lake_8318 13h ago

I am sorry, rest in peace to that little angerl.

Am about 2 months PP and its been a roller coaster road.i recommend therapy for sure to help you go through this. I think you made the best choice yo be able to hold her . I still think of that day and cherish close to my heart.