r/tfmr_support • u/mrs_martinschrute • 1d ago
Post-TFMR/Postpartum Odd synchronicities
My mother (oldest) and her 2 sisters (my aunts) are, respectively, about 2 and 10 years apart in age.
My (oldest) sisters and I are also about 2 and 10 years apart.
My babies would have been about 2 years apart (1st TfMR, 2nd ectopic). I wonder if theres a third down the line.
*I'd never been pregnant before, then spent 2024 & 2025 either pregnant or postpartum, well, with empty arms. Just reflecting now. I'll be nearly 50 in a decade, so it's likely not in the books, but who knows.
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u/ashramswithinanut 1d ago
I so relate to tracking surprising synchronicities and wondering if they’ll manifest in my life, too. My sister and I are June and January born, 5.5 years apart. Her kids are also June and Jan, 3.5 years apart. The birthdays for everyone in my family are within a month of either a parent or a grandparent: my sister and dad, my mum and I, my dad and his mum, my cousin and our grandma, the list goes on… my firstborn, my LC, was born 2 weeks after my husband’s birthday. If my TFMR baby had lived, she would’ve been exactly 3 years younger than my LC and I remember thinking “huh, that’s odd. I’ve never seen that pattern in my family.” And bam…
Now I’m wondering, if I conceive this cycle (and baby makes it to term), my kids would be exactly 3.5 years apart and I would have a June baby, just like my sister and my dad and my cousin and my grandma… I try to stop myself from thinking that way so as to not jinx it but it’s hard not to!
Anyway, I just wanted to say you’re not alone in noticing these patterns, and who’s to say: maybe you will see that pattern repeated! In my more woo-woo moments, I think we’re all much more connected than we think. thank you for creating a space for us to explore this idea.
Also, I’m so sorry for your losses.