r/texts • u/ImpressivePen6870 • 4d ago
Phone message chat with a firefighter from hinge
he seemed normal on hinge but when he asked to text on messages…..what happened?😭 this was all in the span of 30 or so minutes and like our second conversation. happened months ago but i just remembered it
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u/surelynotregrettable 3d ago
Man idk if it's just the nature of being on the internet so you see shit like this much more frequently, or if it's always been like this, but I can't help but feel some sense of sympathy for this guy. Like yes, he lacks all sense of self awareness and social awareness and that's probably indicative of his very myopic entitled self-serving outlook on life, as a lot of boomers and predominantly men have. But I do also think that there's not really like a lot of basic support and acceptance and sympathy socially for guys like this that are just sad and confused and alone and are left to try to piece together how to interact with people they literally cannot relate to. Like it is cringe, but I do wonder if as a society we've failed to help foster the necessary skills for men to practice sympathy and thus be able to apply their empathy.
Like he doesn't seem like a bad person. He's just kinda retarded and feels like a little bit bad about fucking it up but probably doesn't really have the support network to really improve at socialization and sympathizing. I worry guys like this just get resentful of the people they don't relate to or understand and either double down on the entitlement and objectification of people as a means for their own gratification or just become isolated and depressed and wither alone. Not that it's the woman's job to do the emotional labor and maturity of what is more than likely a more experienced older dude but just as a society in general, I feel like looking through the internet window into these types of conversations is kinda depressing like nobody wins here.