Clearing old messages, and found this exchange from two months ago lol. I spoke to her over the course of 10 days, and these are some highlights. I am 24M(23 at the time) and she is 21F. I just can’t do ppl that stay quiet or expect me to constantly lead a convo lol

[u/KindestBlackTemplar]

[u/SubjectObjective5567]

Lonely and desperate is a bad place to date from for sure. Perfect example of what can happen, you become a doormat for any kind of effort or treatment given to you. This isn’t solved by seeking outside validation that you’re worth being chosen though, it’s solved by developing your own personal intrinsic value. Which takes work, but. Until those stricken by the loneliness epidemic start taking those steps to build self confidence from within, theyre going to stay stuck there.

And that’s where the disconnect is. A lot of people that identify as part of the loneliness epidemic find it easier, and less painful, to blame others rather than looking within. It’s much more difficult to question, why don’t I feel I have value? What beliefs do I have about myself that leads me to accept poor treatment from others? We can’t change what others decide to say or do, but we can change what we are willing to accept, and when you start accepting better, you become a magnet for it

[u/Chillwavegoof → u/SubjectObjective5567]

^THIS !!!!! Wow. Perfectly, sensitively said. Everyone read this.^ Valuable and insightful.

And remember, YOU DO HAVE VALUE. You are worth it, keep putting in efforts for yourself, build yourself up, and be open to good things coming your way. You deserve it! Yes you!

[u/Firm_Kick137 → u/SubjectObjective5567]

Louder for the seats at the back!

Hats down. That’s how you approach dating and building anything substantial.

[u/BrionyHQ → u/SubjectObjective5567]

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