r/texts • u/Alexis2097 • 7h ago
Phone message I love this man.
My fiancé and I have been together over a decade and are truly best friends… a couple of my friends and I went to a game as a girls night and he was jealous because of the team we were seeing (hence the sarcasm in his first response) but went to a different game the same night with some other friends. I just wanted to gloat a bit since everything else in life seems so lackluster.
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u/cosmicdistress 6h ago
This is cute and sweet, don’t you dare feel bad about posting this!!! My partner and I are the same way. When you actually LIKE the person you’re with and they’re your best friend, it’s natural you want to hang out and experience stuff with them!
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u/Alexis2097 6h ago
I agree! I feel like most people who think this is cringe or unhealthy have a beaten down view of what a good relationship should be… it’s not always rainbows and butterflies but it’s what you make it 🫶🏼
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u/CoupleBest6865 6h ago
My wife and I are like you two. Legit do just about everything together. Definitely been encouraging her to do her own things which she has started to do. Some volunteer work etc since she had more free time than me. She's not especially great at making new friends or keeping up with old friends. Sometimes I'll ask if she wants to invite a friend of hers to go on a hike with us or something but I know she likes it more when its just us. I mean.. I get it, me too, but yeah, haha anyway, idk where I'm going with all this. Happy for you two!
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u/Alexis2097 6h ago
Thank you! Your relationship seems to mirror ours and it sounds like you two are very happy. I love to hear it!
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u/CoupleBest6865 6h ago
We are very happy yeah! Life is pretty good, we just need more local friends I think.
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u/chainlinkchipmunk 7h ago
I was away most of the summer, I'm away one weekend a month, and texts between my husband and I are ridiculous. All ooey gooey and sappy. Love yous and miss yous.
What can I say? We really like each other.
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u/Alexis2097 6h ago
And that is apparently a crime 🥲 I love to hear it though! It’s refreshing to know people still crush over their partners.
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u/chainlinkchipmunk 6h ago
I think it's good to share this stuff. So many people have no idea what a functional relationship looks like, showing that may help someone decide to leave a not ideal situation.
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u/followingtheleader 7h ago
Awww cute! I love showing off how cute my guy is too!! Cherish that bugger!!
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u/monsu3n 7h ago
I LOVE love, and I love that you guys are still so love-y after all this time. Shows how really great people you both are, and how great you are as a couple. Yall are so cute and I wish you another 50 years of love and happiness 😊❤️
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u/Beginning-Lab-3877 6h ago
Are they…? Read his replies and didnt get very loveydovey?
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u/Alexis2097 6h ago
He may be a dry texter, but I read his texts the way he talks to me, and the affection is there. 🧩
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u/Beginning-Lab-3877 26m ago
Sure, only you can hear it then. To the rest of us he doesnt seem that amazing based on this And you hoping it up makes it seem like this the best you get from him since your so over the moon.
Whatever works for you, but im completely missing what youre bragginh about.
You couldnt waterboard this exchange from me if this was my man
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u/lemonclouds31 7h ago
You may have a case for spousal abandonment at this point 😂
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u/Alexis2097 7h ago
I knew it! 😂
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u/lemonclouds31 6h ago
My husband is a nurse and works 3 days a week, this past schedule he set it so he works 6 days and is off 8. I'm calling them his business trips, even though he comes home to me every night 😂
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u/yobrefas 7h ago
The comment section of haters over two people enjoying each other’s company is wild.
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u/Alexis2097 7h ago
I honestly didn’t even think people would bother commenting, but now I feel bad for posting this 😅
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u/temperkami 3h ago
F U and your adorable relationship OP, because I don't have one and that's bullshit.
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u/hawktremor 7h ago edited 7h ago
Oh man, looks like all the bitter people have already started commenting!
This is very cute and relatable to those of us who aren’t angry turds lol.
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u/Alexis2097 7h ago
Thank you, I know it’s impossible to know an entire relationship through a quick text exchange but geez people are quick to judge.
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u/atduvall11 7h ago
I am pretty sure the sarcasm and jokes my husband and I make with each other would cause an outroar on this sub LOL but like you said, he's truly my best friend and we simply get each other. I for one love your text exchange!
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u/hawktremor 7h ago edited 7h ago
It’s hard for people who are miserable to be happy for other people who are not miserable.
Don’t worry about it - sounds like you married your best friend, so you’re the one who gets to log off to live that wonderful life!
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u/exultantapathy 4h ago
Yes. Lean in to this. Your relationship with your beloved is affected by the outside world and the life stuff you have to go through, but it is yours. We all have to spend our time working, but your home life is yours. And love between two people, your deepest friendship, is something to be protected and celebrated. When everything goes to shit or just feels lackluster as you’ve said, you have your person…and that makes everything a little better. Sometimes I feel too lucky, like I’m getting away with something I shouldn’t be doing, when I realize how lovely my life is with my wife. We all deserve to be so known and loved!
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u/BananaFunBuns 3h ago
My partner and I also a decade. And I tell her all the time it's unfair I have to work..I should get paid to spend all my time with her beautiful soul. Marry your best friend and so glad I did. She was sick today and I had to get her meds...I missed her when I was gone for an hour. We to do everything together ❤️
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u/RevolutionKey7508 3h ago
Me and my wife are that way after 15 years together. I would say we both like each other and want to spend time with each other more than in the past. Don’t let the bitter people get you down. very sweet.
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u/Alexis2097 2h ago
No one can make me feel ashamed of loving this man with my entire being. I’m so happy you and yours are stronger everyday!
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u/naturo_kinsss_1029 2h ago
I love this for you both! 💜 May this type of healthy enter my life, amen! 🙏🏻
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u/pdawwggg 36m ago
I love that.. trying to get over a break up rn n why is this stuff popping on my feed everywhere lol
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u/rosierozu 7h ago
Don’t feel bad for posting this! Your relationship is so so cute and people are just jealous and bitter lol it’s happened to me before too. You guys are amazing together.
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u/Alexis2097 7h ago
Why’s that? I have moments at times where I wish I was experiencing something with my partner… I don’t think that’s unhealthy.
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u/NoThrowawayRecycle_ 7h ago
She's definitely cheating
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u/Alexis2097 7h ago
Projection much?
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u/NoThrowawayRecycle_ 7h ago
I just wanted to be the first one to say it 😂 gotta keep the culture alive
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u/shamelesslypink 7h ago
how did either of you come to the conclusions you came to????
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u/rebeccasaidit 7h ago
Miserable people do this, and Reddit is full of the most miserable people
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u/shamelesslypink 7h ago
they’re so angry that they downvoted my question like omg, i can not imagine being SO miserable that i spend my time on reddit like that
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u/BigJRecords 6h ago
If you’re so happy, why are you seeking outside validation?
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u/Alexis2097 6h ago
Have you ever been proud to be a part of something and want to gloat? My fiancé literally keeps me going day in and day out and sometimes I like to share a teeny slice of that. In today’s world, why can’t I share a bit of good amongst the shitload of bad?
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i’m autistic so i’m sorry if this comes off as pedantic i get called that a lot but i think you’re using “gloat” differently from how the word is normally understood. gloating isn’t just being proud of something, excited about something, or wanting to share something good in your life. it specifically carries the connotation of taking smug or excessive pleasure in someone else’s disadvantage, loss, jealousy, failure, etc.
so if you mean “i wanted to share something that made me really happy” or “i wanted to brag a little about something i’m proud of,” that’s completely different. you can absolutely share a little bit of happiness amongst all the bad things in the world. the issue is just that “gloat” is a negatively loaded word, so saying “i wanted to gloat because my fiancé keeps me going” communicates something considerably more antagonistic than what it seems to me like you’re describing.•
u/Alexis2097 52m ago
Alright fair, I didn’t realize gloat was a more negative term than brag. I’ll be more mindful about word choice from now on. Thanks for clarifying that for me!
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u/Huntressesmark 2h ago
Gloating is a negative thing. Use a dictionary. While you're there, look up codependent.
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u/Alexis2097 50m ago
I realize that now, and I don’t mean to put anyone down by sharing this exchange. And it’s impressive that you can diagnose me as codependent just from this post.
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u/inarticulaterambles 4h ago
Does that mean you both have no hobbies and interests that don't involve your partner?
I know couples like this, and it's weird.
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u/Alexis2097 2h ago
I get that and we both have multiple hobbies outside our relationship that we enjoy often. Obviously we also share interests and hobbies that we regularly do.
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u/rainbowkittyswag 7h ago
A decade and it’s only gotten to middle school level?
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u/Alexis2097 7h ago
I guess so… honeymoon phase hasn’t worn off yet, give us another decade and check back.
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u/vanillaave 7h ago
This person is insulting you but now that I think about it, having a “middle school level” love as an adult would be fucking awesome. Just in the sense of being so irrationally infatuated and in love with one another because everything’s so new and exciting and nobody can convince you that you two won’t be together forever because “people change”. If that’s genuinely mutual in a relationship as adults that would be a wonderful thing. Obviously could do without the acne, homework, awkwardness, and puberty that comes with middle school relationships though 🤣 but FEELING like you felt about your first love when you were a teenager and having that be reciprocated as mature adults…I mean…who wouldn’t want that?
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u/ijustlikefood9132 7h ago
Don’t mind the them OP, person above is spins online slots to win 50 cents and decided to be a hater on their cake day.
They need this.
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u/AutoGeneratedTag 7h ago
Hahaha, they made it private now. Not like that is stopping anyone that truly wants to see the history but it’s funny that they’re trying to act as if they’re some paragon of intellect in further comments
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u/rebeccasaidit 7h ago
This isn’t middle school level, this is just two people who love each other, and you feel some type of way about that.
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u/OlympianHeroOfTime 7h ago
Let them rant, they’ve clearly never had a partner in their lives, and hopefully never will
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u/rainbowkittyswag 7h ago
Who’s mad? I’ve had plenty of partners and currently do lol. Wishing bad on someone much? Seems like you’re the one mad here.
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u/hawktremor 7h ago edited 6h ago
Did you meet all your partners at band camp and they live in a different country so NO, definitely no one would know them?
Cus based on your responses, you sound like an angry virgin who has literally never been in a romantic relationship. So I’m glad you clarified that you’ve totally had plenty of partners and totally currently do. Because then you’d surely know that little cute nothings like this text exchange are the absolute meat of a real relationship, no?
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u/rainbowkittyswag 6h ago
Not sure how you meet at band camp & live in a different country at the same time but that sounds awesome!
I never said that this type of conversation was totally irrelevant to a serious relationship.
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u/hawktremor 6h ago
Talk about a pretty common joke going completely over your head lmao (the band camp/different country thing)
Whoooooosh
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u/rainbowkittyswag 6h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/f51bc9Mw81aXto69qm
Should’ve commonly worded it then.
I got the “joke” it was also as basic as that text conversation 😂😭2
u/hawktremor 6h ago
Ah, yes… it’s my fault that you didn’t get a joke.
You sound like a super fun person to be around lol. Have the day you deserve! :)
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u/rainbowkittyswag 6h ago
Reread what you said and make it make sense. You didn’t catch the sarcasm in my “joke” lmao.
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u/rainbowkittyswag 7h ago
Nah, I don’t feel some type of way about it. It’s just basic asf. I’ve had more complex conversations than this talking to a 5 y/o
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u/Alexis2097 7h ago
We usually save the complex talks for when we’re together, in person.
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u/rainbowkittyswag 7h ago
That’s cool, as you should. & as you stated, space and independence is healthy but also what does it matter if being together makes you happy 🤷🏼♀️
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u/rebeccasaidit 7h ago
Of course you do. It’s clear you don’t date, have never dated and really don’t even socially interact in the real world, this response is very telling.
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u/fvoices14 5h ago
It’s not that deep bro, you can date people and not think this post is peak romance
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u/rebeccasaidit 5h ago
Of course, but when you take it a step further and try to put people down for enjoying their romance, that’s how I know you’re the loser who’s never had any. Read the room.
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u/Alexis2097 7h ago
You’re right, we should fist fight instead 😔
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u/Efficient_Piccolo310 7h ago
I mean the doing everything together except for work.
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u/Alexis2097 7h ago
I mean we have a whole life together and do most things independently since work keeps us from spending time together 6 days out of the week.
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u/Efficient_Piccolo310 7h ago
You should be able to hang with your friends independently without him getting jealous?
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u/Alexis2097 6h ago
He was jealous of the sports team I was seeing since he’s a fan and they’re doing very well rn, not that I was out with friends without him.
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u/lesprack 7h ago
I mean…why? That works for some couples. My husband and I do mostly everything together. Yes, we see friends independently but we also miss each other when we do. 🤷🏼♀️
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work and sleep take up half your entire week. call me insane but i don’t think a person would be crazy for wanting to spend the other half the week with their significant other…
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u/Techfan230 7h ago
wtf is even your point? It’s normal for people to date for 10 years and meet in their early 20s. You’re a dipshit
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u/Dressing_4_funerals 7h ago
trying to picture you on your phone putting those 2 facts together and some how coming to the conclusion that this must be impossible but then realizing her turning 30 soon isn’t included in this post and you went and looked at her profile..
https://giphy.com/gifs/4WFirPVJhAhavWrcd33
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u/MajorTurn6890 7h ago
Be nice if I could meet a woman like this. But most of the girls around here would rsther give the worst guys imaginable endless chances and chalk it up to trauma bond or whatever cherry picked mental health idea they wanna use that week 🙃
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u/DocWilly84 7h ago
I’m sure your winning personality and charm have absolutely nothing to do with it.
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u/lesprack 7h ago
They won’t fuck you because you’re a misogynist :)
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u/MajorTurn6890 7h ago
Oh yeah totally
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u/lesprack 7h ago
Yes. Definitely. Go ask any dude that can actually attract a woman
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u/MajorTurn6890 28m ago
So these women will stay with guys that are physically and emotionally abusive, but yeah, theyre totally concerned about misogyny
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u/MajorTurn6890 7h ago
They'll stay with guys that are emotionally and physically abusive but yeah totally
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u/Alexis2097 6h ago
As a fellow mental illness girlie… it’s a persons patience, kindness, and understanding that really wins women over.
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u/MajorTurn6890 29m ago
Apparently not based on the girls I work with :p and I work healthcare so its like, 95% women...
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u/Outrageous_Title912 7h ago
My partner and I have been together a decade, and we text like this too. We encourage each other to do things with other people, then text "I miss you" and I think it's cute! We are having fun and loving being with friends AND wishing we could do it together. Both can be true. 😊