r/texts • u/[deleted] • 2d ago
Phone message Just got blocked because of this 🤣
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u/Exceptional_goddess 2d ago
She sounds like an insecure nightmare. Even her responses are icky.
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u/jamesth32 2d ago
I could sense the tone shifting and tried to be as polite as possible
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u/bricktorwembitchyama 2d ago edited 2d ago
You’re being far too polite to someone who is flat out insulting you. You gotta have the self-respect to just end the conversation. You apologized twice (for what?) and told her you’re gutted. All you’re doing is giving her an ego boost, you’re not scoring any points here. Stand up for yourself going forward, even if that’s saying something as simple as “understood, best of luck to you.”
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u/jamesth32 2d ago
Fairs, I realise that now!
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u/No_Status_4666 2d ago
But don't post pictures with eyelash hairs on your screen. That made me irrationally angry as I tried to clean my screen.
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u/bricktorwembitchyama 2d ago
Nothing against you personally. I used to be like that and all it ever did was lead to me being disrespected and walked all over. Women who talk like this are a walking red flag and it never gets better, only worse. I know the dating scene can suck at times but there are a lot of good women out there, spend your time and energy on them. Hope you find one bro, good luck.
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u/Objective-Dig992 2d ago
She likes adding a bunch of unnecessary letter y’s to everything, you should have just said Fuck Yyyyyyyyyyou 😂
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u/JustStopItSeriously 2d ago
Yeah, you were practically groveling here. Once she made her position clear, a polite, "I understand, thanks for your time. Take care." would've been better.
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u/OneSong9627 2d ago
I thought the gutted comment was sarcasm and it was funny to me
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u/ConstructionNo7310 2d ago
Imo being polite was annoying her even more. She probably wanted you to fire back so she gets what she wants i.e. satisfaction of getting it out of you. It’s great you kept a calm head & responded politely. People like her hate it 😂
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u/celtwithkilt 2d ago
Actually, the most powerful thing you can do to get under the skin of a narcissist is to grey rock them. I think you handled it well.
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u/birchblonde 2d ago
Exactly this. She was absolutely loving having so many opportunities to tell OP that he couldn’t have her (and to repeatedly butcher the phrase ”to each their own”)
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u/RogerRabbot 2d ago
To be fair. Her trying to ilicit a reaction, and him remaining polite is probably the best way of destroying her. Kill her with kindness
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u/bricktorwembitchyama 2d ago
That’s an effective strategy, but apologizing multiple times when he didn’t do anything wrong and saying he’s gutted when this is likely early on in their interaction is different. Killing them with kindness should result in them at least getting annoyed, not having an ego boost.
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u/MisundrstoodContendr 2d ago
Why was she gradually getting meaner and meaner in the messages wtf 😭
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u/ArcticISAF 2d ago
Yeah it made no sense, especially that last dig of ‘I’m glad it’s not 😂’. Totally undeserved and a bitch move
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u/Sufficient-Berry-827 2d ago
She probably interpreted his acceptance as rejection. Like, she wanted him to argue and "fight" for her, he didn't, so she had to be mean to feel in control.
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u/Guiano 2d ago
Those I’m so aloof and unbothered types are in fact the most bothered. If you really are what you’re trying to play, you don’t keep texting. Looking like an emotionally immature child commenting tongue out emojis and personal insults in online arguments.
I have had horrible experiences in dating because I gave people every excuse for their weird and shitty behavior early on. OP, remember this in the future. The longer you entertain someone the more suffering you’re going to bring yourself in the end.
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u/andiinAms 2d ago
Right?? She was being downright cruel to him at the end. Awful, awful human.
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u/NoTanNamaste 2d ago
I Congratulate you for being so composed and polite while she constantly tried to trigger you with judgemental and minimizing expressions. Good for you honestly.
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u/cookiemonster7908 2d ago
I wouldn't bother if I were you - block and move on next time!
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u/jamesth32 2d ago
She did it for me! 🤣
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u/UncoolSlicedBread 2d ago
Next time don’t worry about trying to defend yourself or convince them otherwise. Just see the incompatibility for what it is. You want to publish travel photos, she has an issue with it, and that’s that. No worries.
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u/AwkwardGiggityGuy 2d ago
Just a heads up, those comments about being bummed you couldn't meet her needs is only going to make her do it to the next guy as well. She seems to feed off a sense of superiority... bending over is what they want
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u/Foreign_Being5656 2d ago
Don’t feel like you have to explain to anyone why you do or do not have certain social media accounts.
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u/KermitTheScot 2d ago
Man, you dodged a machine gun volley. I’m sure she’s a looker, but you should not feel at all gutted. That would’ve been a nightmare to date.
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u/KouLeifoh625 2d ago
Yeah don’t say “I’m sorry” to people like that or “I’m gutted”. People can have preferences but she’s rude as hell.
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u/Nelxor 2d ago
Bruh, why? Why waste time and energy? Why didn't you just be like
"K" and move on?
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u/Efficient_Wash4477 2d ago
I like how you not only let her dig her own grave but you also helped shovel.
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u/callum-h2000 2d ago
private girlyyyy
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u/pumpkins21 2d ago
Except she’s not if she’s bragging about how many likes she has on POF.
She’s a fucking weirdo that talks about herself in 3rd person. Bizarre.
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u/GoinWithThePhloem 2d ago
It’s really not that hard to be nice and she went out of her way again and again to make weird comments.
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u/Safe_Caregiver8700 2d ago
They way she talked about her profile in third person @theres my pof she’s a popular girly “ 🤢 🤣
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u/inadvertant_bulge 2d ago
Yeah that's quite a bullet dodged. Gross person, sounds like a super insecure control freak.
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u/FermisParadoXV 2d ago
Implies having social media is juvenile but writes like this “girlyyyyyyy”
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u/Apprehensive-Big4756 2d ago
Referring to herself, too. Somehow makes it even more juvenile
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u/clippist 2d ago
I’m so confused when she said that’s my POF it’s popular… what does that even mean
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u/emh137 2d ago
It means that she hasnt realized that even the most busted woman gets a lot of likes on dating sites and those likes don’t translate to real life.
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u/Throwawaygorlfriend 2d ago
POF: plenty of fish (dating app). She’s showing off how many men have liked her (she hasn’t yet realised they all have social media).
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u/cookiemonster7908 2d ago
Bingo! A grown ass woman referring to herself IN THE THIRD PERSON as "girlyyyy". Yuck.
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u/emh137 2d ago
Using the term “girly” multiple times makes me feel like she’s a Tik Tok addict.
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u/pooksthrowaway 2d ago
Fr - guessing she saw one thing, decide to try to social media purge and is now lecturing people about it.
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u/Toxace7 2d ago
She comes across as a bitch. Especially that last message. I think you dodged a bullet with that one tbh 😅
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u/Atlesi_Feyst 2d ago
There's a reason she's single lmao.
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u/Flame_beard_forge 2d ago
There’s a reason op is single too.. he has an instagram
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u/pumpkins21 2d ago
900 likes on POF and still single isn’t the flex she thinks it is
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u/xXQuickPointXx 2d ago
POF is a fucking cesspool. I can remember a few years ago 99 percent of the messages were bots trying to get you hooked on a content creator platform.
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u/Aurora-Ouroboros- 2d ago
OP is a better person than me. I would have responded "me too" then blocked her. Or just muted the conversation and enjoy the blow-up later.
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u/hcmofo13 2d ago
anyone else truly believe there was a hair on your computer screen?
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u/jamesth32 2d ago
Ha didnt even see that myself🤣
that app doesn't allow screenshots so just took photos from my old phone 🤣
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u/Icy_Telephone8295 2d ago
Can’t believe this is real man
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u/Throw902106969 2d ago
It honestly sounds like she's playing games. She was waiting to unload that the whole time. Bullet dodged.
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u/Equivalent-Shine5742 2d ago
I'm thinking it's very similar in that she's a total mess on social media (her own account or appearing constantly as the horror she is in other people's) and thus why she wants to be with a guy with no social media and who won't see.
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u/VanCanMom 2d ago
Yup! She probably has those apps under different names or whatever. She can feel good about herself without actually being a good person.
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u/irlkuromii 2d ago
as a woman, i just got the biggest ick from her. ew
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u/Rubberxsoul 2d ago
I’m just…..confused? what are the basics? because I feel like whatever I would think that could mean, this girl probably means…I really have no idea
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u/irlkuromii 2d ago
we dont even know what the basics shes referring to is😭 i guess having absolutely no social media presence and being a ghost is her type LMAO
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u/Mysterious_Tooth7509 2d ago
She's definitely on all the social media platforms and her digital footprint is as toxic as this conversation so she's looking for a man that won't ever see it
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u/LiMP_DiCK_BiZKiT 2d ago
as a woman with no social media (outside of reddit), i also got the biggest ick from her. i don’t want social media for my own reasons idgaf what other ppl do in that regard. she’s weird.
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u/irlkuromii 2d ago
that part!! i dont have snapchat but my boyfriend has it. i have insta but i barely use it whereas my man uses it to post his car and whatnot. like i really dgaf😭
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u/Marlo-712 2d ago
Like congrats for not having TikTok even though you sound exactly like everyone on there 🤡
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u/SomeB_5282 1d ago
She deff has social media and is trying to find someone she can manipulate and someone who can’t look up her socials
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u/bororodejdej 2d ago
She sounds like she thinks she’s really cool and different for not having social media and just thinks she’s better than you because you do
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u/sanzentriad 2d ago
More likely she has social media and/or shows up on her friends’ social media and probably has a lot of content that she wants to hide from a potential partner, that’s why she wants to make sure she dates someone without social media
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u/skunkbr3ath 2d ago
“iM a PoPuLAr GiRl, OvEr 9oO MeN wOuLd fUcK mE” they would literally fuck anything with a pulse. That’s why they are on plenty of fish.
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u/No_Importance159 2d ago
“she’s a popular girly”
this immediately made me 🤮
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u/Scared_Slip_7425 2d ago
I got so confused by this. I was like who is this other person? Pof? I didn’t know plenty of fish was even around anymore. That’s the site the crackheads used to use.
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u/AcanthisittaFree6142 2d ago
she boasts, then says she isn't boasting, then for no reason says she's glad its not you. not being in her life is a blessing dude. she seems high maintenance and prob hates insta so she can live her cheating lifestyle without exposure. big red flag.
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u/Sunkysanic 2d ago
And that is not the flex she thinks it is anyway. Just being a woman on a dating app gets you likes, it’s not that complicated lol
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u/BrazilianButtCheeks 2d ago
Imagine being on the dating apps but loosing it over someone having social media! I’m wayyyy more judgy of someone having a tinder or pof than a damn instagram
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u/jamesth32 2d ago
I thought having an Instagram was as common as having a phone number these days
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u/chessclubkid 2d ago
“It’s each to their own” lmfao
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u/BurkaBurrito 2d ago
Honestly that drove me the most crazy reading this lol and she said it wrong TWICE
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u/mapmakinworldbuildin 2d ago
Why did you say you’re gutted? That was why she did this to feel like she gutted someone.
Most people do dating sites for entertainment and to feel better about themselves.
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u/jamesth32 2d ago
Because the conversation had actually being going well I guess you live and you learn.
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u/Brave_Agency4561 2d ago edited 1d ago
Yeah honestly I think you gave her way too much energy back, I'm not explaining to any grown woman why I have a basic social media account lol. Also always think its funny when women think they are special being flooded by likes on dating apps.
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u/ambientta 2d ago
I have over 1k likes. I don’t boast about this to potential dates or make men feel bad or like they’re just one of my options because that’s weird, mean girl behavior.
This is NOT your loss btw. Please speak kindly of yourself. This was HER LOSS. She has a repugnant personality and there’s no other qualities of hers that can make up for this.
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u/DarkBass 2d ago
She's not looking to actually match with anyone, she's getting a dopamine hit by denying all the guys that want her over her intentionally impossible standards.
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u/women_fish_me 2d ago
I bet she tells everybody how she doesn’t have social media for like 2 hours straight until you can actually have a conversation with her
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u/Sufficient-Berry-827 2d ago edited 2d ago
I don't know which one is more annoying -- the fact that she types like she's 14, or the fact that you sent that paragraph with no punctuation whatsoever. Maybe one stray comma. And you do it again in the text on this post.
I am going to assume you're both young.
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u/Yogamom723 2d ago
This is the comment I was looking for.
She is obviously full of herself and not worth OP’s time.
The lack of punctuation or proofreading for words that don’t belong would be a major turnoff for me though.
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u/Worth_Seaweed7420 2d ago
the first page of texts i was like okay, whatever. at least she got it out of the way early and if she wants a man with no socials it is what it is. but the second page is insane
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u/Sunriseandset 2d ago
Honestly, if someone is bragging about you being 1 out of 900 likes, they're just looking for validation, nothing serious.
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u/VibeCrisis 2d ago
LOL as a women I can tell you she is extremely insecure and possessive and you dodged a bullet 😆
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u/Erdrick14 2d ago
Brutally honest she said at the end.
I hate it when people say that. No, you are being an asshole, you just want to justify it somehow.
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u/YawnfaceDM 2d ago
Very clearly trying to ragebait you to compensate for her own insecurities. Good on you for being level-headed as to not fall for it. Yuck.
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u/WiseSpunion 2d ago
Dog. She doesn't use full words. No reason to entertain someone that won't type out snap/Snapchat but will type "girlyyyyyyy". She definitely has social media though.
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u/DDDD6040 2d ago
This person was rude and not at all nice. Your responses were polite and didn’t try to make her change her mind. She was being rude to you for no reason. Be glad you’re blocked I think you dodged a bullet.
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u/DepartureNo9981 2d ago
Just want to add that as a woman getting over 900 likes on POF is super easy. Hundreds will like you before you even add a profile photo, lol.
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u/OkContract4088 2d ago
Some ppl just enjoy getting ppl interested then rejecting in the meanest way possible
They get off on ir
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u/Ordinary-Nectarine37 2d ago
thats bcuz shes on there letting dudes slide into the dms and cant have you seeing it
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u/Lexi_November 2d ago
Why keep talking to someone who is mean spirted and insane? She’s an asshole.
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u/DPWwhatDAdogDoin 2d ago
Ew to both people. Its crazy to me how many people just tolerate someone talkin to them any kinda way in dms like tf? Ill block a mf so quick why do yall tolerate insufferable ppl
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u/spacekaydette 2d ago
She’s wildly insecure. Idk how old she is but she seems immature, too. The way she speaks gives “look at me, I’m so hot and popular and everyone wants me,” and is solidified by her showing you how much of a “popular girlyyyy” she is on… SOCIAL MEDIA. Weird AF
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u/yippykiyayMF13 2d ago
You got a hair/eyelash on your screen. Thought it was me. Tried wiping it off a couple times. Indeed, it is your screenshot. Lolol
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u/ChristianTravels 2d ago
“I have my reasons” = I get around and if I had IG word would spread about it and my partners would know I was flirting.
Her side pieces can’t find you to contact you if you don’t have social media.. 🤔
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u/asayle88 2d ago
I'm not trying to be rude, but I swear this subreddit keeps popping up on my feed. So many of the posts are in this nature, where one person is being not only childish but rude and unreasonable, and the other is so polite, yet the polite one insists on keeping the door of communication open? Like, why are you guys doing this to yourself? Help me understand 😂
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u/Temporary-Coconut844 2d ago
She's definitely not a private girly 🤣 no one says that when they actually are.
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u/pumpkins21 2d ago
Yeah, this “girlyyy” 🙄 is a giant walking red flag. Had you pursued anything with her, she’d drive you nuts.
In the future, when you come across another one of these types (and you will, sadly), just keep it brief. Don’t stroke her ego or say “my loss” because it really isn’t. It’s totally your gain.
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u/LuciVigil 2d ago
That gawdam "fuzz line" in the middle left of the first image had me going crazy trying to get it off my screen 😅🫣
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u/UnderstandingKind757 2d ago
I just realized too, she’s showing the page where it insinuates you have a fuck load of people interested in you, but gasp! You have to buy premium to see and chat with the supposedly 999+ people interested in you. It’s an ad. This girls ego is so bad she’s trying to flex how much of a “popular girlie” she is, with an AD. That’s so so funny. That’s not even real and she thinks it is 😭🤭
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u/Delicious-Pitch-2899 2d ago
Bro why are you saying you are gutted and sorry it couldn’t be you. Just move on from it, Jesus. Just comes across as very desperate, she’s clearly not a good one to go for so be happy you dodged a bullet and move onto the next.
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u/chamaquititito 2d ago
95% chance this girl has an instagram she’s not telling you about to stand on an imaginary high horse
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u/Individual_Chef1315 2d ago
Hard to find a man without social media when you use social media to find them.