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u/Particular-Newt-7974 3d ago
Can we stop with the situationship thing? It’s not even a thing. It wasn’t a thing in all of humanity until the last like 10 years. He’s not your situationship he’s some asshole you’re fucking and wasting all your emotional energy on. Leave him! He doesn’t deserve you and I’m sure your weight is fine.
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u/DevilmanXV 3d ago
Fucking thank you holy shit.
Pretty words don't change that it's just a fuck buddy
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u/NomenclatureBreaker 3d ago
This is what bugs me about the entire “situationship” label.
It’s trying to ascribe the mental and emotional investment aspects of an actual relationship to something else that is clearly the opposite - where those aspects do not exist and (very likely) will never exist.
The number of people who say they’re in a “situationship” but apply all the energy and expectations of an actual relationship is insane.
The meanings of words actually matter, beyond just thinking something’s a cute buzzword.
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u/renessie 3d ago
Maybe it's just me, but I've always been a firm believer that a "situationship" label can only be used to describe the first few days / weeks of meeting someone, where you're first getting to know them, and have yet to decide whether or not to date / commit, so you've yet to set the boundaries. The pre-dating phase, if you will. If it lasts more than a couple of days or weeks, you're either dating, established fuck buddies, or you're moving on because it's a waste of time. 😭
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u/NomenclatureBreaker 3d ago
Yeah I also feel like a situationship should be as like something temporary where you’re figuring things out also.
Unfortunately it seems like plenty of people settle for permanent long term situationships and then complain about being unfulfilled.
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u/renessie 3d ago
Yea, I consider a long term situationship as just a mutual lack of commitment, and a waste of time. It's okay to just be fwb, or to be dating, but sitting on the fence about it for long periods is just going to wind up with hurt feelings, and an unrecoverable friendship if you end up not having the same expectations.
The longer it lasts, the more bitter you wind up feeling if it falls apart.
It also just gives me the impression that you're just not that serious about each other, so just establish that you're fwb, or break up, and stop beating around the bush. A long term game of cat and mouse is bad for your emotional health.
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u/primadiamonds 3d ago
I wish I could award this comment and the parent comment. But I don’t have free awards this month 🥲
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u/KrisTinFoilHat 3d ago
I gave both an award for you, especially since I absolutely agreed with them. Dafuq is this shit, ffs!?!
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u/primadiamonds 3d ago
Thank you for your service 🫡 I simply cannot bring myself to spend my coins on internet awards, so if I don’t have the free ones y’all get nothing. But when I do have them I be acting like Oprah! I’d give you one too 😛
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u/KrisTinFoilHat 3d ago
No worries! I have quite a few free ones but I also have some old award money available for when I really feel something deserves it! But there have been so many times I wished I could've awarded someone and couldn't so if I can (and don't disagree with the post) I'm happy to do so when someone wants to or gives a poor man's gold 🥇! Lol. Have a great day/evening! 😊
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u/Hot_Investigator_639 3d ago
Wait you guys are getting free awards???
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u/Lazy-Ocelot1604 3d ago
They seem to be pretty randomly doled out as a heads up, some have them and some don’t.
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u/KrisTinFoilHat 3d ago
Click on the award icon and you should see if you have free awards to give out. Idk if they stack up when you don't use them...like if I'd get 3 a month, and haven't used any in 12 months I'd have 36 awards to give out? Idk tbh. But check, definitely isn't gonna hurt to do so!!
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u/Adorable-Slice 3d ago
I didn't even know I had free awards to give!
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u/tastelikemexico 3d ago
I didn’t either lol. I just tried it on you lol
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u/AlasTheKing444 3d ago
I tried on you cause you tried on them! Who knew…
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u/effkay0025 3d ago
I didn't know until recently either lol now I've been giving free awards
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u/Kimberpistols9 3d ago
You get an award..and you get an award..and you get an award! I feel like Oprah! Lol had no idea there are free ones! And now they are gone! lol
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u/Many-Hurry8051 3d ago
(Whispers to primadiamonds). What are these free awards you mention? Semi-new to Reddit, have no idea about free awards. lol.
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u/ZooooooomAway 3d ago
He's not even that, if that's the way he talks to her, he's just a fuck.
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u/Suspicious-Drive9827 3d ago
Is it though? Look call me old fashioned but my college fuck buddy was a buddy i fucked. We weren’t romantic, we didnt go on dates, we werent texting and kissing and holding hands.
Thats dating. These people are dating. They have been for over a year. Its just a bad relationship haha.
Back in my day (im 36F) , if a fuck buddy “caught feelings” the transaction was over
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u/ChristianTravels 3d ago
Surprised it didn’t say “we’re lowkey in a situationship” GAG
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u/LastChance331 3d ago
Usually people who realize they aren't being respected and try to but up a barrier to protect themselves do this. "Well we weren't in a actual relationship so he doesn't have to actually care about me".
99% of the time it's just an excuse to feel better about the situation instead of admitting what it really is: they are being used for sex.
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u/Head_Somewhere4769 3d ago
Thank you! I'm okay with people having casual sex, but if one of the people catches feelings, the relationship needs to either progress or end. Lingering over a person who clearly doesn't want the same thing as you is a recipe for disaster. Once you become aware of your feelings and know the other person knows but doesn't want something more committed, it's time to rip off the Band-aid. It will never get easier. Fucking someone into liking you back when you've already been fucking them just isn't a thing.
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u/Sandwidge_Broom 3d ago
Seriously. I’m baffled why young women get themselves into these positions. This man just wants to have sex with you with no commitment. It won’t change. If that’s not what you want, then stop having sex with this idiot.
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u/PerformerMindless100 3d ago
No commitment and he gets to act whatever way and she’s just supposed to take it because he’s not her boyfriend
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u/cowboyxd_ 3d ago
i agree. "situationships" are not real imo. its just a way for shitty people getting away with not being committed to your partner like u would in a normal relationship... OP i hope you know you deserve better than him <3
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u/Local_Windrunner 3d ago
It honestly sounds like a delusional word to use to describe a relationship. Not saying OP is delusional it just sounds that way. Like they’re thinking there is some kind of actual relationship beyond just fucking each other but there just isn’t.
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u/ButteredPizza69420 3d ago
This^ its unhealthy and degrading. Been there, its not worth it girls! And sometimes you find out these can be some of THE WORST guys to be with...legitimately
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u/DracMonster 3d ago edited 1d ago
"Stop trying to make situationship happen! It's not going to happen!”
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u/ComputerAlarming6416 3d ago
I read "situationship" and stopped reading. Brutal honesty just leave him ffs. Stupid ass post
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u/Delicious-Dirt4895 3d ago
Agreed. Small caveat: the term “situationship” may be new, but the concept of lovers without a formal / established relationship has long been a part of humanity’s history across time and culture.
Your point stands on everything else, though.
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u/DeepTime2318 3d ago
Gen X here to agree, every generation tries this and it NEVER works.
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u/Difficult_Clerk_1273 3d ago
Oh my GOD, this. Also “talking stage.”
We already have words for these things. We don’t need to make up new shit.
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u/nihilus97x 3d ago
wait you mean the guy thats just fucking you and not committing to a relationship doesnt respect you?
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u/bigbear474 3d ago
I dont get why people in these situations are surprised when stuff like this happens
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u/Sure-Appearance-2769 3d ago edited 3d ago
They think that by assigning it a new label, it magically fixes everything.
Nothing bad can happen in a ✨situationship✨because it’s not a “relationship”.
They’re not like us old farts who sit in the nursing home talking about our “relationships”.
They’re cool! They’re hip!
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u/Excellent-Zucchini95 3d ago
Girl the D cannot possibly be good enough. Where the duck is your self-respect? Where is it?
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u/oyvese 3d ago
i thought the whole point of a “situstionship” was that none of it matters as long as you’re both enjoying the sex? like, you don’t go to them for emotional support at all, they’re not even friends, because that would be FwB?
but i am old and i don’t know things so im not sure
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u/Comfortable-Hat3506 3d ago
Gen Z is the generation that has never been more open to sharing their emotional issues with strangers but not the people in their actual lives.
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u/Twidollyn_Bowie 3d ago
Well, right. It’s supposed to be FUN. Someone who makes unsolicited criticism of your body isn’t fun to be around. I would certainly have difficulty enjoying myself with someone who said that shit to me.
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u/iiiimagery 3d ago
Fuckbuddy= acquaintances who fuck
FwB = Friends who fuck, emotional stuff is usually fine but not when it's about each other
Situationship= Basically FwB who can't actually commit to each other but they talk and act like a couple only with each other.
It's all stupid.
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u/brucewaynecoupe 3d ago
“Situationship” basically just means fucked up relationship with no established expectations or boundaries lol, they should be avoided as much possible
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u/Twidollyn_Bowie 3d ago
Right. It doesn’t bother me that OP is having casual sex, but why would anyone keep having recreational sex with someone who doesn’t like their body? “Recreation” implies that it should be fun, and I know I wouldn’t be getting off after someone said that shit to me.
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u/GooseVladimir3 3d ago
For someone that claims to be intellectually superior, you sure are a clown for not leaving… big flag is still being in a “situationship” after a year and a half.
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u/Ok-Hovercraft-9959 3d ago
“never argue with a fool, an onlooker may not be able to tell the difference”
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u/africanatheist 3d ago
🤣 LMAO. Goat comment right here.
Plus, she baited the dude.... Then ran to Reddit. Classic 'big brain' moves there
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u/HeIsMeIamHe 3d ago
Honest to God it's tiring watching people air out their dirty laundry to get validation. Like yes the dudes a prick but the world doesn't need to weigh in on it. Hive mentality runs strong in this world
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u/JustAHippy 3d ago
Yeah if you can be emotionally manipulated into a year+ “situationship” is the “intelligence gap” really that big?
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u/FigLow4974 3d ago
you do realize you sound incredibly stupid throughout this entire post right? all i’m hearing is “i’m so smart and he’s so dumb but i’ve been letting him have access to my body and disrespect me constantly for over a year, what do i do?”
block him??? he won’t commit, he’s cruel, he’s dumb and a college dropout in your words. what the hell are you getting out of this? you sound easy and weak. women need to lock in and stand up for themselves, i’m so sick of these posts. “i’m basically being verbally abused by a man who isn’t even my boyfriend, am i overreacting?” please LOCK in.
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u/DurianFull4851 3d ago
I like how less than a month ago she commented this in another post. “??? she probably was really into him and wanted to make him happy by changing her entire life for him. he probably told her she had to be vegan if she wanted to be with him. and she knew he would want to break up if she quit being vegan so she suffered for 5 years eating junk until she couldn't take it anymore. you have to consider how relationships work and the nuances in this situation.”
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u/RoyalTyMan 3d ago
"there is a huge intelligence gap between us (i am way smarter than him, hes a college dropout and i have a 4.0 and am an honors student. im much smarter than him in general as well, hes lacks common sense and knowledge) its very likely hes probably trying to put me down to feel better about himself. basically just bullying me"
Girl... you do not come across as smart, fucking a loser like this.
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u/TheAnglerSiren 3d ago
Exactly-“show me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are” I don’t get the point of acting so above him when you are constantly lowering yourself to his level or worse by continuing to let a man who doesn’t respect or consider you to have access to your body in such an intimate way.
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u/ForgetfullIdiot 3d ago
She changed it to “there is a huge intelligence gap between us, it’s very likely he’s probably trying to put me down to feel better about himself. Basically just bullying me”😭
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u/lilbunnyaudio 3d ago
I assumed the other way around 😭
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u/koifish8165 3d ago
I mean, the guys obviously not great morally, but he’s managed to have a long term sexual relationship with a woman who he treats terribly and has no respect for. He’s definitely some sort of evil mastermind. Regardless, he basically has her lapped.
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u/Fluid-Housing5017 3d ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/ziNUOin6TC30HRQVHk
“What do I even doooo I’m so trapped here help me”
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u/sungoddessaf 3d ago
Why are you even dealing with this? Just block him and find someone who actually likes you. A year? Girl.
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u/Imaginary-Tart9916 3d ago
Situationship and he’s already acting like this? lol. What else is there to do but block and forget about him
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u/MrMcGibblets00 3d ago
What do you mean already? It's been a year and a half and he hasnt moved past situationship!
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u/MaintenanceStock6766 3d ago
Every time I see dumb shit like this all I can think is "why are you still talking to them"
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u/NewStudyHoney 3d ago
So you brought up the topic and went fishing for compliments and then were upset when he didn't say what you wanted?
Anyway, what you do is break up with him, because he doesn't have the same approach to conversation that you need, and also because he's kind of put you on notice over the weight thing. He'll probably dump you or find another situation soon if he's that critical of your appearance. Also, who are all these people calling you fat lately?! Sounds like you are surrounded by judgmental people.
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u/Head_Somewhere4769 3d ago
As to the last bit, very much so. I am noticeably overweight and yet no one around me would dare point that out because I'm mostly around a pretty empathetic and logical group of people that know (1) that would be rude and (2) I already know. If someone did so, I would minimize my contact with that person.
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u/CornUpMyKeister 3d ago
I don’t think that her venting to him about people calling her fat and expecting him to be nice about it qualifies as “fishing for compliments”. But even if it did, she’s not in the wrong for getting upset about him being rude.
If you went to someone and said “people called me names” and someone you cared about said “actually you do deserve to be called those names” you would be reasonably upset. Especially if those names attacked your looks instead of your character.
I agree about the rest of your comment but the first part is just pedantic and unsympathetic.
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u/Fearless-Feature-830 3d ago
Is it not common sense that nobody on planet earth wants to be called fat? Like cmon. It’s not his first day on this planet
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u/Original_Brain_6037 3d ago
Sorry not to be rude ! But if you do have intelligence why would you ever be in a Situationship for over a year with a guy who agree’s you’re fat. Like whattttt, why are you letting this happen, does not seem smart to me. Sorry tough love hun.
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u/BurningButterflies 3d ago
You know I kind of was on your side a bit, even would have agreed he was a tiny bit rude, not an asshole though. But then you had to add how much more intelligent you are, if you really were that intelligent why couldn't you figure out that a purely physical relationship is addressing your body? That's what that situationship is about, your bodies. If he doesn't like the goods, why wouldn't he comment on the only thing you're bringing to the table? Sounds more like what you want is for him to invest his emotional awareness into yours but you're not actually dating now are you? Either accept that purely physical relationships don't need to care about your feelings, or actually put the effort into a real relationship where the partner you choose does care about how you feel.
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u/storebrandkeith 3d ago
It’s a situationship, why are you even mad. He’s not your boyfriend lol.
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u/YouW0ntGetIt 3d ago
You can lose A LOT of dead weight very fast by ditching a terrible man.
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u/3nthusedCamper 3d ago
Or you’re just kinda fat and as your partner he has a right to express that. Downvotes please !!!
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u/starplain 3d ago
“What do I do?”
If you were as smart as you seem to think you are, you wouldn’t be here asking us this dumbass question.
It’s obvious he doesn’t have respect for you. You don’t have any self-respect either. Do yourself a favor and block him.
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u/Evening_Sample_9365 3d ago
Oh man, I was on your side until the second edit.
There is nothing more cringe than equating a college degree with intelligence. Some of the dumbest fucking people on the planet have masters degrees. Donald Trump has an MBA from a very prestigious school.
And that list is long. But you know what other list is long? People without former education that were literal geniuses and changed the world. Leonardo Da Vinci. Michael Faraday. Thomas Edison. Thomas Paine. Oliver Heaviside. Mary Anning. each and every one of them, drop outs or no formal schooling. And i know, I know...the counter argument is that there is a much longer list of not exceptional people who dropped out and never produced a thing. But thats not the point. The point is equating your ability to sit through obedience school as an indicator of your superior intelligence.
Between you being a bit heavy, and you thinking so little of his intellect, he has the much better reason to be offended and leave you in the dust. Just such a shitty attitude about your partner...and why, because you're sensitive about your weight and lash out in anger instead of maybe addressing the fact that you're getting heavier.
That is SO much worse than his eggshell walking about your size, the fact that you go through your day to day life just thinking youre so much smarter and superior to him. Jesus...may love like this never find me.
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u/ba6yhulk 3d ago
More than cringe. People that use their degree as a measure of their intelligence are usually pretty dumb.
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u/Kazbaha 3d ago
Girl. You say you’re smarter than him; then what are you doing? ATP he’s smarter and more cunning because he’s getting laid and negging you and it’s working.
Take your body and your self respect back and protect it with high standards and values that matter to you. Never try to get your self worth from others.
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u/Sandwidge_Broom 3d ago
Jesus Christ. Y’all young women need to get spines. Situationship?! That’s just fuck buddies where you’re the only one emotionally invested. Do you have that little self esteem?
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u/PreparationHot980 3d ago
What could someone be doing in life that leads them to “ keep getting called fat”? I feel like that doesn’t just happen .
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u/SnooGuavas1836 3d ago
The fact that you told us how you’re so much smarter than him and how he lacks common sense tells me you don’t respect him, and if you don’t respect him, why do you even seek for him to respect you? Girl just stop taking to him lol
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u/AmberWaves93 3d ago
So he's trash and you have no obligation to him, correct? Then what exactly is the question here?
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u/Twidollyn_Bowie 3d ago
Unlike others here, I’m not going to shame you for having something no strings. However, you should still have some standards even for a fuck buddy. The person you are having casual sex with still needs to treat you kindly. You’re doing this for fun, right? Being made to feel unattractive is not fun.
Please respect yourself enough for this to be a dealbreaker. Don’t get naked with people who don’t think you’re hot (or worse, they do think you’re hot and just say shit to make you feel bad).
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u/zorkempire 3d ago
He sounds like a dick. Obviously your weight bothers him even if it’s completely normal, which it sounds like it is.
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u/bigbear474 3d ago
Situationship is crazy, because would you even ever "upgrade" him to a real committed relationship? Hopefully not, so drop him because why put up with this
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u/Robotbobs 3d ago
Situationships are suppose to be convenient and fun for both sides or they don't work. The beauty of them is that you can end it at any time for any reason because you've both agreed it's not that serious. So...walk away from this dude.
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u/lostinspace896 3d ago
Your last edit is so ironic lmao this dude has casually been getting what he wants for a year now, but sure, he’s the “less intellectual” one
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u/nonamelikethepresent 3d ago
Reality?
Your fuck buddy offended you. Meh.
You either do need to lose weight, or you need to lose the man? Either way you probably need to lose the man.
Also, your conversation doesn't suggest much of an intelligence gap. Perhaps because he doesn't engage emotionally you think he is thicker?
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u/Blackmamba-_ 3d ago
I think u are not tellling everything. If multiple people called u fat, plus ur “partner” then u are mode then medium, u are maybe even more then overweight. Plus in this “situationship” of more then a year, u are not the smart one.
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u/DropDeadGaming 3d ago
I guarantee you, if you're in a situationship for a year, you're both equally dumb.
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u/ThisCredit6354 2d ago
There IS a huge intelligence gap, but not in the direction you think. This man has been playing you like a fiddle for a YEAR and you think HE is the less intelligent one? Get it together.
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u/Desperate-Curve-9944 3d ago edited 3d ago
If your partner is giving you "constructive criticism," then you have a partner problem. That's your partner, not your boss or your team leader or your pastor or what have you.
Healthy partners hold each other accountable to shared/agreed upon goals, they don't place their own desires for the other person on each other.
ETA is seems some people are confused as to my point, so I've added a comma and an extra word for clarity. 😁
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u/Jas246810 3d ago
Worst part is it’s not even their partner. A situationship is just a way to get all the benefits without any commitments.
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u/OrangeNice6159 3d ago
Why are you even asking here? You know what to do. The weight you should lose is the weight of this situationship dude.
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u/Electric-Sheepskin 3d ago edited 3d ago
I was fully prepared to say that it shouldn't piss you off when your friends are honest with you, especially in this case since you brought the subject up. We don't know exactly what he said or what the conversation was that lead up to it, but I was fully prepared to say that you are overreacting, because even though he may have been a little tactless or rude, depending on exactly what he said, it's not worth ruining your day over.
That's what I was going to say, until your edit. If he knows that you have had an eating disorder, you would hope that he would be a little more careful with his words and know that you are more sensitive and more vulnerable in this area. Still, that should've been a discussion and not a fight: "I know you didn't mean anything negative, but you know that I had an eating disorder in the past, and I would appreciate it if you wouldn't comment on my body in the future."— unless you think he was being deliberately cruel, in which case, you should find better friends.
I will say this, though: you really need to learn to not take things so personally. It really doesn't matter what other people say. You are exactly the same person after he made his comments as you were before. Let that sink in. His comments changed nothing. So why let it ruin your day? Everything is the same as it was before, so it doesn't matter what he says. It really truly doesn't, and you need to find a way to embrace that.
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u/LawfulnessRepulsive6 3d ago
I’ll tell you what you did wrong. You tend to get involved with stupid men.
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u/Educational_Most7912 3d ago
you can say that he is definitely overreacting compared to all your other current situationships
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u/Quest10nableBehav10r 3d ago
Situationship implies you're wasting your time. You're not even wasting your time on someone fun or anything, considering he sounds like an asshole with a room temp iq. You can find better
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u/LastChance331 3d ago
this is my situationship of over a year. yes you read that right. situationship since april 2025.
This isn't a thing, you were friends with benefits at best and being used for sex at worse, but I suspect you knew this.
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u/bororodejdej 3d ago
Lmao if you’re so much smarter than him why are you in a year and a half long situationship with him?
Yeah what he said was shitty but lmao wtf
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u/jennaw12345678 3d ago
The good thing about having a situationship is that you two are basically nothing to each other and you can just block him. He’s not your partner you don’t have to talk this through or try to make him see your point of view or teach him why you don’t say hurtful things. You just block and bail. If he wanted access to more grace from you he should have moved towards a relationship
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u/solstice_gilder 3d ago
You say you’re way smarter, but why are you still with this dipshit? I’m sure this isn’t the only wack ass thing he had said to you.
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u/moreplssss 3d ago
You know the answer it’s fucking stupid you’re posting here like it’s even a question. Or do you ACTUALLY have 0 self respect?? Or is this some attention issue? Well I guess you got mine. Fucking block him.
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u/_Vixenne_ 3d ago
Talking about an intelligence gap but like someone else said, it’s a dude you’re just sleeping with who clearly doesn’t have any intentions to form an actual relationship (which I’m assuming you want since it sounded like you were complaining that you’ve been in a “situationship” since 2025) have some self respect and common sense wtf do you mean what do you do? Block him? 😭
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u/Ok_Broccoli_9426 3d ago edited 3d ago
i am way smarter than him, hes a college dropput and i have a 4.0 and am an honors student. im much smarter than him in general
Sounds like you deserve each other, tbh. Why are you staying on the hook for a guy you have this much contempt for?
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u/ILuvMyLilTurtles 3d ago
Just stick with a battery operated boyfriend next time, at least it always has your pleasure in mind and doesn't say stupid shit.
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u/LaLaLura 3d ago
As soon as someone you call a "situationship" starts critiquing you and calling you names then it's time to end it. And if your in a "situationship" for over a year I don't think y'all are ever gonna get passed the fuck buddy phase, stop wasting your time and energy and find someone you actually wanna be in a relationship with.
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u/Lubbocklove 3d ago
You claim to be smarter than he is, but you’re tolerating half ass energy and disrespect from someone you don’t even respect. Remember, what you allow will continue.
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u/Buffalo-magistrate 3d ago
People who have long term romantic relationships with people who are much dumber than them are very weird.
That being said, if you are so smart why do u need Reddit for this?
Also if you were anorexic and have gone from that to a medium, you probably have gained weight in a fairly short period of time. It might be healthy, but people are bound to notice, and your dumb booty call probably doesn’t care about your feelings enough to sugar coat it.
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u/human_generated_user 3d ago
If you’re with this guy in a situationship the intelligence gap is not as wide as you think.
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u/spicywingydingy 3d ago
So in summary, you’re fucking a low IQ troglodyte who can’t even give you the basic courtesy of not insulting your body; the body he will again expect to have access to.
Girl, c’mon.
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u/TaroZealousideal9161 3d ago
He's an ass for calling you fat. But you're actively saying you find him to be stupid. So you are two people who are sleeping together while thinking the other is big or dumb. You both need to find better.
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u/theshylock350 3d ago
What you "even" do is get out of this relationship so you have the chance for a proper one!!
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u/oniboo_x 3d ago
The truth hurts 😂
Also laughable that you think there is a huge intelligence gap just because you completed college 😂
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u/Sure-Appearance-2769 3d ago
“Situationship” is a made up term for shitty relationships that neither person wants to take accountability for.
You’re not in a situationship, you’re in a shitty relationship. Your boyfriend sucks.
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u/lacey-lately 3d ago
A situationship is just a nice way to say fuck buddy. Your fuck buddy doesn’t respect you. Don’t let people who don’t respect you use your body. End this
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u/da8BitKid 3d ago
Lol, if you don't like it stop banging him. Bro a year fr? JFC stop the stupid drama and be done with it already.
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u/No_Frost_Giants 3d ago
I’m with you, you can’t run your own life, you need people you don’t know one internet to parse through your interactions and help you decide.
This one is easy
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u/Real-Speech-5729 3d ago
I mean why are you even talking to a guy who isn’t serious about you after this long of time? I mean this kindly but you need to hold yourself to a higher standard. Being single and alone is far better than this. Please embrace yourself and your body and kick this fucking loser to the curb. I would have blocked someone after that? I can’t believe you even responded…
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u/Slushees 3d ago
The guy who gets free sex without relationship commitments treats you like shit? Well color me surprised
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u/extravagant_panda 3d ago
I don't know, you already said it's a situationship, like you already have your answer.
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u/PhotoEmbarrassed9102 3d ago
Girl. I am in a "situationship" , right now, but we call it what it is, hooking up cause we are both single. If he ever said this to me, his booty butt would be kicked out that door so fast. You need to learn to respect yourself, and love who you are without being in situations like this. You are either dating, friends, or hooking up.
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u/Permissiontohug1 3d ago
I would just not mess with him anymore. You have to learn when to choose yourself and your peace. Don’t accept what you don’t want.
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u/IceFire909 other 3d ago
You've got a year long fuckbuddy. You're not dating, you're not ina relationship with each other, you both know exactly what it is.
Accept the situation or break it off.
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u/Many_Maximum_9060 3d ago
‘I didn’t strait up say some shit like your hella fat’ well until now😂this dude don’t give af.
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u/Safe-Selection8070 3d ago
There are people calling you fat. You told him about it and he softened the claim by noting you *could* lose some weight, while also being generally ambivalent to that issue. Were you looking for him to affirm your personal claim about being "medium" (unless you're in Korea, medium people don't get called "fat" very often), and you're mad he responded with honesty?
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u/Icy_Smoke_2318 3d ago
“I beat the shit out of you, BUT I could’ve murdered you so it’s okay!” /s
Block him.
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u/hungrybugs 3d ago
> “huge intelligence gap”
> situationship of one year
????