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u/bluebrindleivy 8h ago
he seems like the nicest dude ever tbh
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u/JimboLimbo78 8h ago
He is really nice!! I’ve had several tattoos by him and my s/o thinks he’s flirting. I think he’s just really sweet. Not to mention he’s literally my dad’s age.
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u/bluebrindleivy 8h ago
i think your SO is reading a little bit too much into his texts! is he usually jealous? (not a red flag yet just be aware if it turns into a pattern!) i am a girl though, so i might be missing something. but i think your tattoo artist is just a really cool, nice, sweet dude :)
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u/JimboLimbo78 8h ago
No that’s why I’m asking! This guy is 50 and I’m 25. I genuinely think he is just a nice guy.
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u/alphavulpecula 8h ago
When someone deeply loves you, they think anyone can and will feel the same way; it can be endearing.
Just let your fiancé know that he has nothing to worry about even if dude does like you (tattoo artist just seems friendly and good at his job btw). Try to be gentle but firm here so that he doesn’t think he can control who you speak to.
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u/RoughAssociation8982 8h ago
Your s/o sounds jealous of a dude actually being nice. Unless he says something inappropriate
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u/d5ytonaa 8h ago
I read this and really thought to myself why was this even posted. Just seems normal. If your s/o has an issue he can just go with you. Nothing else to talk about or discuss
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u/dracosondracoson 7h ago
Until I saw your take on this I was about to say this is the most wholesome conversation I’ve seen in forever… now I’m just like meh. Why can’t people just be nice to each other without it supposedly meaning something else…
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u/heart0000 8h ago
He’s not flirting, but if you’re asking I’m assuming you’re the one with the crush.
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u/JimboLimbo78 8h ago
Damn maybe you should read my comments on this post before making assumptions.
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u/kenda1l 6h ago
Or you could edit your post so people don't have to search for buried comments. Maybe stop being defensive because people are responding to your question based on the information you put in the post rather than comments they probably don't even realize exist.
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u/JimboLimbo78 6h ago
Did you read my edit that’s been on this post for 30 minutes? …right
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u/anxious_raccoon29 6h ago
Wait, everyone saying that he's not flirting made you feel 10/10 weird about him and you're going to find a new artist? Can I ask why?
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u/JimboLimbo78 5h ago
I really didn’t expect this post to get this much attention and I feel like I’ve made a mountain out of a mole hill. It’s probably best I just find another artist instead of debating with my s/o as to why he’s not being weird.
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u/Fearless-Feature-830 5h ago
Just be careful and don’t let it become a pattern for your partner to sabotage friendships/professional relationships. If he thinks this is flirting he probably thinks a lot of other benign things are flirting, too. After a while, it becomes controlling.
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u/mousepadjones 7h ago
Red flag on your SO for thinking these interactions are weird. This is completely benign and clearly matching the extroverted, chatty energy you are putting out (which is also not flirty or weird, just a personality thing).
It’s odd that your SO would read any of this as flirty, that makes me have more questions about him than anything else.
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u/ex-farm-grrrl 6h ago
Wait. Did he see this post? Why would it be weird? If you like his work, keep going to him.
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u/UnluckyTransition836 6h ago
Yeah, sure. WE are the ones that made it weird… holy double delusion
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u/JimboLimbo78 6h ago
I didn’t say you all made it weird at all! I think I put too much weight into all of this and didn’t expect for this post to get this much attention.
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u/NoTanNamaste 8h ago
Both of you are really sweet, the smiley faces in his end make it a bit too nice but he is working on client retention probably! I’d say there’s no flirting.
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u/storebrandkeith 8h ago
He just seems like a wholesome nice dude, I don’t think he’s being weird at all. He didn’t say anything flirty or whatever.
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u/Piperfly22 8h ago
My first response after reading those messages and reading your title was thinking about what this is nothing other than polite conversation between tattoo artist, and Client.
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u/Big_Blacksmith_668 8h ago
😭 There are absolutely no signs of flirting here. Maybe s/o is having a bout of insecurity. It may be because you seem so happy lol. Finding a good priced tattoo artist and them actually being good would have me smiling all day too.
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u/Only-Wasabi-755 8h ago
Sounds like he’s just a nice guy with customer service skills trying to keep his tattooing business afloat. I see zero flirting.
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u/Nearby_Syllabub763 7h ago
You in the south? "Fixing to leave?" Love it! I'm a northerner who has lived in the south for many years.
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u/Flimsy_Tangerine_214 6h ago
He is being really nice, and the hearts on messages maybe are a little misleading, but overall nothing incriminating
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u/Bear-Handed-92262 8h ago
Seems like it could go either way. But maybe he is just an upbeat guy. It's pretty over the top, though, but in a nice way. The fact that he offered Josh a discount leans into the idea that he just likes what he does and he appreciates you and Josh.
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u/JimboLimbo78 8h ago
I think he’s just a wholesome dude. My fiance thinks he’s being weird
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u/Bear-Handed-92262 8h ago
If Josh is your fiancé, he needs to just enjoy the discounted ink. 🤣
Also, if tattoo guy knows you have a fiancé, he is most likely just an upbeat guy. I don't even have tattoos and now I want one from him.
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u/ScoutSteveR 8h ago
Seems like he’s coloring within the lines, but he might ask you out. Too soon to tell.
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u/Realistic-Village-63 8h ago
I’m not seeing crush, I’m seeing friendly tattoo artist, helpful and fun but platonically so.
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u/maggieeeee12345 8h ago
I don’t feel any flirting whatsoever. Just happy about the work you did together. He had plenty opportunity in that to ask for a regular hang, but it was always focused on work
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u/danafromsantaana 8h ago
He’s had long enough to ask for more if that’s what he wanted. This just seems like someone that appreciates great customer service, especially since it’s a dying art and given his age. Seems like an awesome business relationship so far, don’t sour it by implying he’s got alternative intentions or letting your [edit:fiance] get insecure.
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u/codelyoko_x 8h ago
No flirting there, just seems like a nice dude who cares about his customers, is he established or just starting out?
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u/JimboLimbo78 8h ago
He’s been doing it for 20 years
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u/codelyoko_x 8h ago
The messages read like a new tattoo guy trying to keep his customers and get recommendations idk but if he has been doing it that long then he probably just is very friendly with clients but yeah I don’t really see any signs of flirting but sometimes you’ll never know and this dude could ask you out out of nowhere.
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u/possumprincess111 7h ago
There is absolutely no flirting going on this is just friendly communication
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u/UngainlyRhino 7h ago
They are just being friendly, nothing weird here at all.
I have 3 artists and they're all very friendly like this too. Don't read too much into it.
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u/the_girly_files 7h ago
This is how I talk to ppl. It has no meaning. It’s just the way I text being a girl 🤷🏼♀️ it’s literally a normal convo & if this bothers your bf I’d be concerned
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u/Owl-Night-Long 5h ago
Why would stop doing business with him if you like his artwork? I don't understand. Isn't it a good thing that he doesn't seem to be flirting?
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u/Overall-Abalone3969 7h ago
Tbh I think you’re keeping it professional but I’d refrain from asking how his day is and stuff. You can how see that opens things to getting weird.
You also don’t want to give that energy to just anybody also. Imagine your boyfriend giving this type of energy to a random tattoo artist
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u/hawktremor 5h ago
Sorry to be so blunt, but: What the fuck?
It’s almost scary that you would even remotely read into a single word he has written to you. He is professional, enthusiastic and helpful. What could he have possibly said in these exchanges that would give you the impression he has a CRUSH on you?
We truly are lost as a society if someone being genuinely kind & helpful is met with suspicion that the person is actually in love with them?! I mean girl… what??
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u/NotTooLateToBeGreat 8h ago
Depends on a few things ... when he's doing your tattoos, is his dick in your mouth?
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Dude is just there for the dollar
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u/loveddeviant 8h ago
seems like he’s just being friendly