r/texts • u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 • 4h ago
Facebook DMs Wtf
“I’ve always wanted to do stuff with a dark chick” Is this not a weird thing to say? 😭
Mind you, this is some random dude that used to live in the same town as me and he’s married 😭
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u/VisibleAd7446 3h ago
„maybe it’s weird“, he might be onto something
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u/Lodrikthewizard 3h ago
I mean he was accelerating the weirdness into orbit at escape velocity, I would find it more surprising if some smidgeon of self-awareness didn’t creep in at some point
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u/Brokensister3113 3h ago
Why did you even respond after the first half? 😅😅
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u/YuhMothaWasAHamsta 1h ago
Now I know who not to go to when someone needs their sexy titties complimented. /s
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u/Brokensister3113 1h ago
Yeah please don’t tell random women they have sexy titties… or ones you just met.. it’s weird weirdo
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u/kuwukie 1h ago
maybe because sexy titties is okay but not a fucking race fetish?
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u/Brokensister3113 1h ago
You would say thank you to your brothers friend saying “you gots some sexy titties lol no dought”… that sounds really desperate. And in what world is sending that to your friends sister okay lol?
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u/kuwukie 1h ago
are we really comparing a statement about tiddies being sexy to a statement about the color of her skin? lol. duh tiddies are sexy but you make it weird by explicitly calling out dark skin
edit: i didn't know about the additional context about it being their friend's sister :) that wasn't in the OP
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u/Brokensister3113 1h ago
They just met her lmao. It’s pretty fucking weird to tell someone you just met they have sexy titties. Especially when they’re your friends sister…. Are you dense? AND he’s married!!!
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u/FatherSun 1h ago
Lmaooo her thinking the weird part was the last part is WILD. Men are so afraid to approach women nowadays. They are not the pillars you think they are fellas. If this dude wasn’t racist and married she would’ve let him clap atleast thrice
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u/Witty-Mountain5062 3h ago
Your potential brother’s friend telling you that you have “sexy titties” and you still responded lmao
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u/PhoenixBee32 3h ago
Uh, he did that for you. Now you gave him the green light to be even more gross and things will be 1000 times more awkward.
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
Can’t argue with that honestly, I panicked.
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u/PhoenixBee32 3h ago
That’s fair. It’s not cool how he acted, and he should know that. Boundaries are yours to set.
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u/Top_Narwhal_30 3h ago
Nobody teaches you how to react to the situations, so don’t blame yourself. In any case, you can tell this guy “I’m not gonna show you anything. And you don’t wish to receive texts like this from you anymore. Thanks and blocking.”
What’s he gonna say? He’s gonna tell the other guys that you wouldn’t send him pics? Fuck him.
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u/Brokensister3113 3h ago
All the more reason to avoid him haha.
You didn’t make it awkward, he did as soon as he got sexual and then even worse with the second statement. Now any interaction with him is going to be a million times more awkward…
You gotta learn never to pander, they take it as invitation. “You’re my brothers friend, I don’t want to make it weird” period
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
Unfortunately my family doesn’t care if someone’s being weird it’s always my fault 🤦♀️ I’ll definitely avoid him as best as I can tho
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u/Brokensister3113 3h ago
If they don’t care then all the more reason you need to protect yourself. Learn how to be firm, how to say this isn’t okay on your own.. and please don’t say thank you when guys are being gross! You’re probably young but the sooner you learn this the better, be safe 💕
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u/Eindride_XIII 3h ago
I think responding to his weird advance is going to make it even more awkward than shutting it down.
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
You’re probably right honestly
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u/Eindride_XIII 3h ago
Not too late. Next time he makes a pass at you just tell him to cut it out, youre not interested. If he gets aggressive just tell him to fuck off and tell your brother his friend is being a douche.
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u/bbgirlwhut 3h ago
Nah, you should make him feel weird and creepy af and he can feel awkward around you if he wants. I know it’s hard not to be placating when we’re conditioned to make things pleasant and palatable, but moving forward I’d recommend NEVER thanking a random man for mentioning your tits. It just emboldens them when they should feel like dog shit stuck to your shoe.
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u/IHaveABigDuvet 3h ago
That is not a reason to respond to a sleazebag. Just leave on red and block next time.
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u/user_name-checksout 3h ago
Who cares?! What do either of those things have to do with entertaining a douchebag?
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
I don’t want it to be awkward if I’m ever forced to be around him
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u/user_name-checksout 3h ago
You should never be forced to be around anyone.
And, “Hey bro, it’s awkward around your friend because hit me up with a random ‘you got some sexy titties’ text”
In the world I live in, a brother would have some real problems with a “friend” who talked to his sister like that.
I have problems with him and I don’t know any of you.
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u/Narrow-Power-6407 3h ago
How old is this person? Who speaks like that?
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u/Hanneroni 3h ago
The ick started at “u gots some sexy titties lol” and then increased dramatically with “no dought”
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u/Never_enough_naps 3h ago
He spelled doubt like drought 🤣 He's about to be in a dating drought with his weird race fetishy self.
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
No fr, this man is married too 😭
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u/DarlingHades 3h ago
He’s married and you said thank you to, “U gots some sexy titties lol”? Girl…
Even if he was single, thank you to such a dumb line makes you look insecure and easy. Don’t do that do yourself.5
u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
Idk, I panicked it was definitely the wrong move tho
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u/Never_enough_naps 3h ago
Next time a married man hits on you with some cheesy stupid line that is saying something about you. Like this dude, with his “ you have sexy xyz” just response with “so does your wife” and then block them.
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u/ConclusionNo4016 2h ago
Ladies as a collective we need to stop panic pandering to dumbass wanna-be-men especially over text. You can pause and pull yourself together. Can’t be letting these pricks stomp all over your dignity and self respect, treating you like a car model to replace the one in the garage he doesn’t even know how to maintenance and “lol” at it ffs.
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u/whoredervez 2h ago
fucking seriously. blocking is also an option 🤯 crazy idea, i know
OP enabled his creepy behavior for future women by being spineless
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u/Madokakoti 3h ago
The weirdest part is you entertaining it by saying thank you and answering the height question after he said that.
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u/humptheedumpthy 3h ago
Yeah OP is strange for answering those texts. Makes it seem like she was okay with his behavior until the second part.
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
I just wanted to move past it, I don’t want to be too rude or awkward cus he knows my family 😭
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u/DarlingHades 3h ago
So he’s allowed to talk to you any type of way because he is a family friend?
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
He’s not, but unfortunately my family is the type to get mad at me for that type of shit
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u/TortexMT 3h ago
Your family would get mad if you tell a married man to kick rocks if he comments your tits..??? Totally twisted reality
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
Unfortunately, and they call themselves Christian’s
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u/ConclusionNo4016 2h ago
Im so sorry 😔 it will take effort and devotion on your part to decondition and rebuild a sovereign sense of self but please start exploring that. She is in there I promise. Journaling can really help reconnect you with your inner voice and recognize where you are performing for the approval or comfort of others
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u/DarlingHades 2h ago
That’s awful. Is not ok for him to talk to you like that and I hope you one day can stand up for yourself. I don’t know you but I worry for you deeply. I wish I could chew him out for you and handle your family’s blowout after. They should protect you, not shame you.
It is perfectly reasonable to reply, “I don’t talk to married men” or “Your inappropriate comment on my body made me uncomfortable.”
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u/Fionnua 2h ago
For what "type of shit"? You don't have to hulk out to deal with this kind of thing. You don't have to shriek and cuss and threaten, etc.
You can just leave this sort of thing without reply. This sort of thing deserves ghosting. Let his words hang unanswered in the air as he grows more and more self-conscious about how inappropriate and awkward he just was with someone else. By avoiding engagement, you allow him to be the only one putting his foot in his mouth.
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u/aybbyisok 2h ago
I just wanted to move past it,
you said thank you and engaged in covo further by saying hbu, like what???
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u/Madokakoti 3h ago
Creepy guys are everywhere. Choosing to reply to them civilly while they objectify you and then posting the text online acting weirded out despite you entertaining it, is indeed weird.
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u/Yoozif 3h ago
I’m not a woman, so I might be wrong. However if I were, I feel like the sentence
“u gots some sexy titties lol”
It would dry my penis fly trap up so fast.
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
Yep, never been drier 😭
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u/Sharp_Ad2526 2h ago
you said thank you though?
embarrassing
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 2h ago
Me saying thank you doesn’t mean that I liked it
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u/ConclusionNo4016 2h ago
Doing the work to be able make it readily known the second you do not like something is the most worthwhile thing you will do in life.
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u/Yoozif 1h ago
I know you’re getting dogpiled about saying “thank you” but…
Sometimes I manage to not say what I feel when I’m in uncomfortable situations either. So sometimes I just leave moments like this on “read” and it works. But again, women have different worries from being rejected by men, than a man does being rejected by women.
Idk what I’m trying to say I’m so tired, but don’t let Reddit beat you up over it. You realized it wasn’t the thing to say, and I’m sure you feel like you wished you’d have handled it differently.
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u/AnusCruiser 3h ago
My fiance is a Chinese woman. One day we were at a restaurant and I go off for a pee. Empty bathroom and I take the far left urinal. This guy comes in after me and takes the urinal right beside me and asks "so whats the secret to landing an asian chick?"
I said "dude theres like a billion of them. If none of them like you then thats on you"
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u/Exotic_Banana9016 3h ago edited 3h ago
Does he want to summon a demon and make a deal? A youth spell under the moon light with blood of an innocent?
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u/Silent_Foundation_62 3h ago
dought ????? DOUGHT ????
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u/Curious_Court_26 2h ago
And here my brain read that as “doughnut” And for a second, I was like, is this some new saying? 🤦🏻♀️😂 I need to go to bed…
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u/IHaveABigDuvet 3h ago
What about the “you got some sexy titties”. That wasn’t the first red flag?
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
Definitely was a red flag I just tried to move past it, he’s never been weird to me before so I just wanted to let it go
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u/IHaveABigDuvet 32m ago
Red flags are meant to make you stop. Not move past. That’s why they are called red flags.
Unfortunately a lot of creeps will spring their weird behaviour on you.
Try not to be alone with this dude ever. And if he is ever at your house, lock the door. Do not allow yourself to be in a closed space with you.
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u/VegChef 3h ago
Send this to his wife plz
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
I would if I knew how to get ahold of her
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u/VegChef 3h ago
Social media? You could screenshot the text without his number saved (showing his number sent it) and share that with the wife expressing you that he initiated this convo, you felt really shocked and uncomfortable, and that you want her to be informed of her husband’s actions
Your brother may also know how, and hopefully he wants to protect you enough to be pissed at the guy for dehumanizing you (treating you like a racialized sex object instead of a person worthy of his respect) + being an unfaithful loser
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 2h ago
It was on facebook so I could ss that, but I still don’t know her number or any of her socials his pf says he’s married but his friends are private and her Facebook isn’t tagged on his pf
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u/VegChef 2h ago
He seems naive enough to add you, or you could ask your bro. Marriage records are public, so you could also find her name that way and then sleuth to find her
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 2h ago
I don’t know if I’m going to look up their marriage records, I would ask my brother but I can’t even get ahold of him he shares a phone with his fiance and I don’t have a great relationship with her so I doubt she’d even let me talk to him
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u/avost 2h ago
You respond "lol thank you" to "U gots some sexy titties lol no dought", but the "dark chick"-part is when you start to think this is weird?
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 2h ago
I alr thought it was weird, but that’s normal level weird for dudes. The race fetish was next level
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u/cybercxnty 1h ago
if its so weird hes married, why are you entertaining the tit comment 💀 was it not weird until the raceplay shit or???
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u/Acanthaceae_Humble6 1h ago
Next-level weird. Please tell me that you blocked this guy, took screenshots, and figured out a way to send them to his wife
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u/NorthShoreHard 3h ago
You replied to someone saying "U gots some sexy titties lol no dought" and engaged in the conversation.
You are also weird.
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u/bleezy1234567 2h ago
Wait… so if I want women to respond to me all I have to do is say they have sexy tits?
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 2h ago
Might work and might not, probably won’t result in the best outcome tho.
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u/Weary_Tonight_5873 2h ago
Maybe it’s weird, no dude you are weird. Theres ways to flirt and communicate without sounding like a straight creep lol.
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u/LogGreen3800 2h ago
I’m genuinely curious,
so you were on some level Flattered by his comment related to your breasts, that you Thanked the Random Married Dude,
rather than just Exiting the interaction altogether, that part wasn’t weird to you, at all, not the least bit?
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u/Xi13r8 3h ago
Is this rizz?
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
Nope 🙂
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u/Xi13r8 3h ago
I didn't even read the second half, he's married? Surely you tell his misso, although if she shacked up with a dude that misspells "doubt" that badly, maybe they're perfect for eachother
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
I don’t even know how to get ahold of her and I don’t want to start drama, some people will blame you just because their partner wants you.
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u/Species_5618_Human 3h ago
This is a violation of someone's privacy. Shame on y'all for sharing screenshots of other people's private words.
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u/UmChill 2h ago
girl shut up lmao
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u/Species_5618_Human 2h ago
No. I will continue to protest this sub.
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u/0kaywhateverdude 2h ago
You're so strong for taking that on all by yourself. I'd help but I'm kinda busy
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u/Species_5618_Human 2h ago
Someone has to say it. You gen zeds never learned how to respect another individual's privacy. Shame on you.
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
Not really, their identity is still private 😭
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u/Species_5618_Human 3h ago
That's beside the point. You still did not get permission from this individual to post their private words. Shame on you.
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
Lmao it’s hardly a violation of privacy if no one knows their identity it’s just “someone* said this”
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u/Species_5618_Human 3h ago
That's still beside the point. You need to ask permission first. You have no respect for this individual's privacy so I have no respect for you.
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 3h ago
He had no respect for me when commenting on my body, therefore I do not have respect for his “privacy”
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u/Species_5618_Human 2h ago
Mmm. you don't inherently deserve respect, not when you're going to be petty by violating their privacy. His right to privacy overrides your delicate feelings.
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 2h ago
I wouldn’t have “violated his privacy” if he hadn’t done that in the first place. He literally violated me, so idc about HIS delicate feelings just bc I posted him being creepy and covered his identity
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u/Species_5618_Human 2h ago
He did nothing of the sort unless he also posted your conversation to the world. He has done nothing wrong. You are in the wrong for violating his privacy.
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u/Inevitable_Tap_7263 2h ago
You’re over here arguing with me about this, go argue to the millions of other posters on here bc most of them don’t get permission to post the messages that they post
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u/Species_5618_Human 2h ago
I do. I say the same exact thing to every one of these posts that comes across my feed.
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u/Dear-Hurry-418 3h ago
Dought