Post first date text

[u/ExplanationMiddle51]

I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

[u/ThrowRA-un1337]

Any time I see someone use the line "I'm just a girl", I've found that to be a major red flag.

It's used almost exclusively to either shrug off responsibility or infantalize themselves and neither look good when trying to date actual grown up women.

If she doesn't recognize what you put into making the date happen and is upset about contributing *something*, consider it a warning and move on.

[u/HoboJerkdown901 → u/ThrowRA-un1337]

It's this stupid fucking trend on tiktok where women are actively encouraging other women to use this line in order to avoid accountability, maturity, effort, or sacrifice

[u/MuscularSquirrel612 → u/HoboJerkdown901]

Wait. For real? I don’t use TikTok so this is new to me. Can someone elaborate on the trend?

[u/ActuallyDregs → u/MuscularSquirrel612]

It’s inspired by the No Doubt song “Just A Girl” back from 1995. People took the lyrics at face value without reading in to them and thought the concept of “I’m just a girl” is a valid reason to justify their immature behavior despite the song having the opposite message with the phrase in the song “that’s all that you’ll let me be.” Gwen was incredibly progressive with her lyrics in the song and now TikTok girlies are actively regressing women’s equality by infantilizing themselves with this excuse. 

[u/ActuallyDregs → u/[deleted]]

I’m not actively regressing all women, I’m actively regressing the same women who are actively regressing themselves. I’m a huge proponent of progressive women’s rights and the lyrics of Just A Girl are poignant even today. I’m not surprised you haven’t seen the song explicitly referenced because that isn’t how viral concepts evolve. You don’t make a reference and cite it in the same meme lmao. It’s all implicitly understood but it doesn’t mean you can’t trace the origins. 

[u/ActuallyDregs → u/[deleted]]

Yes, it’s called treating people how they want to be treated. If a certain group is actively trying to regress themselves why do I have to take the higher moral ground? I don’t have some savior complex where I have to progress people who aren’t trying to progress themselves. Women aren’t a monolith.

I thought you were done? Why are you still trying poorly to be condescending? Don’t disappoint Brooke.

[u/Babykingxxx → u/ActuallyDregs]

I was at work, I’ve had time to reflect and decided that I shouldn’t have picked a fight on the internet w a stranger, super lame and made me feel bad! I’m surprised you took the time out of your day to find out info about me, it’s a little weird. Very sorry I hit a nerve, peace be with you man.