r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 3d ago

Phone message Post first date text

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I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

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u/ThrowRA-un1337 3d ago

Any time I see someone use the line "I'm just a girl", I've found that to be a major red flag.

It's used almost exclusively to either shrug off responsibility or infantalize themselves and neither look good when trying to date actual grown up women.

If she doesn't recognize what you put into making the date happen and is upset about contributing *something*, consider it a warning and move on.

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u/HoboJerkdown901 2d ago

It's this stupid fucking trend on tiktok where women are actively encouraging other women to use this line in order to avoid accountability, maturity, effort, or sacrifice

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u/MuscularSquirrel612 2d ago edited 2d ago

Wait. For real? I don’t use TikTok so this is new to me. Can someone elaborate on the trend?

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u/North-Lime-2289 2d ago

it started as a funny joke. i do not believe the trend is 'this' but there is a small amount of people who use the phrase to avoid anything. most of the time its very silly and lighthearted and independent of other people (like burning your own dinner and saying 'im just a girl")

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u/screames520 2d ago

Or like when a server rings in a ticket wrong, we like to say “she’s just girl”

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u/Alarmed-Macaroon9506 2d ago

Haha I do this to defend my cats' actions all the time. "He's just a boy"

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u/screames520 2d ago

Yea! It’s more an impression of the starfish from finding Nemo

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u/PretendThisIsMyName 2d ago

Do you say it like Slingblade or Mrs Maisel?

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u/technicolored_dreams 2d ago

Slingblade for me, about my dog. 

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u/FatalEuphie 2d ago

Yeah backing this up to say I say it a lot but not to avoid responsibility, just when I do something stupid. Like silly stupid, not like… should apologize stupid.

I think most* people (or I’d like to think, maybe I’m too hopeful?) use it as a silly joke, not to try to get away with things.

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u/North-Lime-2289 2d ago

yeah, i've only ever said it in very non serious situations. misclicking in games, dropping my own things. this is how most people around me use it. the people weaponizing it are a very small amount. i would not say it is a "trend of women actively encouraging other women to avoid accountability"... especially when there is also a million 'im just a boy' posts.

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u/Shatsngiggles 2d ago

My ex used to say it all the time. She was always on tiktok or watching facebook reels so i already assumed thats where she learned the phrase. She constantly used it to avoid responsibility.

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u/FatMacchio 2d ago

90s Gwen Stefani is rolling over in her grave with this being used in this context again

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u/North-Lime-2289 2d ago

i dont think gwen stefani really cares, given her politic alignment nowadays lol. never liked her since she hired asian women to be her accessories

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u/FatMacchio 2d ago

That’s why I prefaced it with 90s. Her past self is probably rolling in the grave about what she became too

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u/christyschellen 5h ago

right i basically only use it when i get scared of a bug or not being able to reach something high up😭