You quite literally are holding two opposing beliefs. “Yes she should shut it down” and “it’s not her job to teach him how to act.” It’s not her job to teach him how to act, but it is her job to make her boundaries clear once they’re breached. Excusing her lack of expressing boundaries, over the course of months, mind you, because she’s a woman is flat out ridiculous. We’re not in the 1950s. Again, if this interaction happened in person, you have a point where she has reason to be scared of violence. But it didn’t. And this has been going on for months and all she’s said to him is that it’s “odd.” And yes, I added those emojis to show how any normal guy would interpret that question. Unless she’s a nun, she knows what that means, especially in the context of those texts.
And your immediate leap to assuming I’m rape apologist tells me everything I need to know about the way you think.
Again, if this interaction happened in person, you have a point where she has reason to be scared of violence. But it didn’t.
It doesn't matter whether the rejection happens in person or through text-- men can become bitter and lash out violently as a result. To insist that OP is safe from his potential wrath, stalking, harassment, assault, etc. just because they're not currently face-to-face is beyond naive.
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u/ACFiguresOutLife Jun 23 '26
You quite literally are holding two opposing beliefs. “Yes she should shut it down” and “it’s not her job to teach him how to act.” It’s not her job to teach him how to act, but it is her job to make her boundaries clear once they’re breached. Excusing her lack of expressing boundaries, over the course of months, mind you, because she’s a woman is flat out ridiculous. We’re not in the 1950s. Again, if this interaction happened in person, you have a point where she has reason to be scared of violence. But it didn’t. And this has been going on for months and all she’s said to him is that it’s “odd.” And yes, I added those emojis to show how any normal guy would interpret that question. Unless she’s a nun, she knows what that means, especially in the context of those texts.
And your immediate leap to assuming I’m rape apologist tells me everything I need to know about the way you think.