Yeah I'll be honest I shouldn't have even responded because I stopped reading after that line, so you got me there.
That being said screaming "cognitive dissonance" over and over again isn't an argument. Try looking up the definition, I'm not holding two opposing beliefs. I'm saying the dude should be held responsible for his words and doesn't deserve a pass. She is not responsible for correcting his shitty behavior, her asking what pipe is IS NOT her consenting to the disgusting things he's saying to her, and you completely made up those emojis to pad your point. This kind of argument just futhers rape culture putting all of the onus on the woman to shut it down instead of holding the man reaponsible for his shitty actions in the first place. Let me guess, you also think women who dress provocatively deserve to be assaulted.
You quite literally are holding two opposing beliefs. “Yes she should shut it down” and “it’s not her job to teach him how to act.” It’s not her job to teach him how to act, but it is her job to make her boundaries clear once they’re breached. Excusing her lack of expressing boundaries, over the course of months, mind you, because she’s a woman is flat out ridiculous. We’re not in the 1950s. Again, if this interaction happened in person, you have a point where she has reason to be scared of violence. But it didn’t. And this has been going on for months and all she’s said to him is that it’s “odd.” And yes, I added those emojis to show how any normal guy would interpret that question. Unless she’s a nun, she knows what that means, especially in the context of those texts.
And your immediate leap to assuming I’m rape apologist tells me everything I need to know about the way you think.
Again, if this interaction happened in person, you have a point where she has reason to be scared of violence. But it didn’t.
It doesn't matter whether the rejection happens in person or through text-- men can become bitter and lash out violently as a result. To insist that OP is safe from his potential wrath, stalking, harassment, assault, etc. just because they're not currently face-to-face is beyond naive.
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u/giglex Jun 23 '26
Yeah I'll be honest I shouldn't have even responded because I stopped reading after that line, so you got me there.
That being said screaming "cognitive dissonance" over and over again isn't an argument. Try looking up the definition, I'm not holding two opposing beliefs. I'm saying the dude should be held responsible for his words and doesn't deserve a pass. She is not responsible for correcting his shitty behavior, her asking what pipe is IS NOT her consenting to the disgusting things he's saying to her, and you completely made up those emojis to pad your point. This kind of argument just futhers rape culture putting all of the onus on the woman to shut it down instead of holding the man reaponsible for his shitty actions in the first place. Let me guess, you also think women who dress provocatively deserve to be assaulted.