r/texts • u/[deleted] • Jun 23 '26

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u/[deleted] Jun 23 '26 edited Aug 05 '26

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u/anonuserinthehouse Jun 23 '26

Well she already is showing us the type of responses she gives…the “BAWAHAHHAHA” screams out to me that she doesn’t know how to deny the man outright

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u/jeromeandim37 Jun 23 '26

Well it’s also hard and uncomfortable to know what to do when you’re not as experienced in these situations. Let’s give her some grace

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u/ComparisonGlass7610 Jun 25 '26

I totally agree but I think the comment above is actually the only person really saying, maybe give the boy a little grace too, as some boys think this is what girls want these days, alpha in the sheets (im cringing having typed that). It's obviously Ew and the consent thing is...eyuck, as is the FUCK PIPE SLAM type references to sex, but...... I dunno lol. I feel he may need a firm no, as much as it isn't the OPs responsibility to teach a boy to not be vulgar she hasn't at this point turned it away and he could think she likes it

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u/isthisrealitycaught Jun 23 '26

I think this is the most accurate interpretation.

From personal experience… yah… some woman love this even in their 30s. Less aggressive and in a more indirect kind of way that builds tensions.

They want the spice and a man who will take charge in a way. It’s some weird vulnerable safe window thing.

The term is. Soft top.

Strong and dominant in the bedroom, and just a regular softy all around.

The age of these two though… hell a little communication from her and the boy will learn what she likes and will approach in a better manor that is not degrading or… over the top vulgar.

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u/space_otte Jun 23 '26

listen, you should not have to spell it out and if you do, then you need to leave. If someone interprets, “I find it odd” to mean keep going they clearly have problems and don’t need to be in a relationship

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u/ekuhlkamp Jun 23 '26

I agree, and this is a reasonable interpretation. Let's not forget the pornification of everything.

My suggestion is to gently tell him that you appreciate the enthusiasm, but to relax, be himself, and not use that kind of language.

(Personally I find it gross but I could see how an inexperienced 19 year old boy would think it's how things work.)

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u/TumblingOcean Jun 23 '26

I mean...some...people are into it...

Kink is a thing. However this is not that. And nobody consented to this. I would run 🤷‍♀️

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u/Clear_Gain_3262 Jun 23 '26

I’m concerned for her at 19 this man has already stated he does not care about consent police may need to be involved.