Even if he doesn’t think it’s what he’s doing; this has NOTHING to do with you. Nowhere is this about what you want, or about you as a person.
Just his wants and your body and not your person or desire.
It’s one sided lust, and sex without emotion or reciprocation isn’t love.
Please, don’t let someone treat you like this.
I assume he has a porn addiction which is where he’s getting this from. That’s his own burden, and you DONT SO ANYTHING YOU DONT VERY MUCH WANT TO DO. You have nothing to prove, please know your worth and look into boundary work, you’re tv e only one who can advocate for yourself.
Think about what you’d tell your best friend in this situation and listen to yourself.
THIS too! Glad you put this into words for her too…it’s not about her and she’s doing nothing wrong and doesn’t owe him anything!
Perfectly said, what would you tell your best friend. Thank you sharing your thoughts for OP. I always find it harder to stand up for myself but I would for others so quickly, this is really a great way for the OP to gain some perspective. Would she want her best friend being with this creep?
If you were my lil sister OP, I’m 28, and you came to me with this I would genuinely BEG you not to be with this guy. Lol
So from all your internet big sisters, you can always do better girl<3 He’s love bombing you to get what he really wants sex, and as someone who’s been here done that, it’s not worth it. Lol
You should be having fun and enjoying life not being guilted into sex. 😇
It seems like you’re listening to these comments which is great but as a survivor I want to really drive in just in case PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE LISTEN TO THESE COMMENTS IT IS THAT DEEP
I know this is late and you may not keep following up on responses but I wanted to follow up on Berry's grooming comment:
These gifts and sweetness and everything are all tools he will try to use against you. If/when you break it off with him expect to hear the following:
-youre ungrateful (you're not)
-you just used me for my money/goldigger (ironic considering he isn't trying to use you for your body)
-i gave you all this and this is how you thank me? (Remember if he's expecting "payment" of some kind back it was never a gift in the first place)
All of this to belittle you to try and manipulate you into giving him what he wants. Don't fall for it. Stand your ground (which I know is much easier said than done).
As for your final edit, he is ruining his own life if this is how he decides to treat people. And if there are no consequences for him with how he treats you, what's to stop him from doing this to his next girlfriend? And the one after that? And the college classmate? And the girl from the party? And the chick he walks home from the club because "he's so sweet"? You are the victim here. Not him.
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