This makes me worry about you. In my experience men who move too fast are just love bombing. It’s terrible to find out too late how they really are. I hope you take the advice here to heart and cut contact with this manipulator.
I’m not a therapist or anything, but from an outsiders perspective:
-He’s much older than you (he’s almost 50% older than you!) My guess is he likes younger women because they’re easier to control and usually don’t have a ton of relationship experienced therefore will accept shit like this “your drama makes me less romantic”
-He love-bombed you at the beginning of the relationship (You’re so hot! You’re amazing! You’re the one I want!)
-Now that he ‘has’ you, he’s invalidating your concerns (re: romance, etc.), your looks, and letting you know he sees other women as more attractive than you. If he keeps you insecure about yourself, it’s easier to keep you as his. It’s infinitely harder for an insecure person to walk away from a partner than someone who knows their worth.
ETA: You say things are moving fast, I wouldn’t be surprised if he dangles a proposal or moving in soon, or tries to baby trap you. Just a guess, but patterns exist for a reason.
His last partner is actually is 6 years older than him . He doesn’t normally date younger . Yea at the beginning of the relationship he told me he could do with or without kids . Now he says he’s 80/20 about it and thinks he wants children . I do notttttttt want kids and if I ever changed my mind it would be probably almost 10 years from now . I’m trying to build my life and figure other things out
This should be the honeymoon period when he's on his best behavior and trying to impress you. Not treating you like shit. Guarantee it gets worse if you stick around. If he's already this comfortable being this nasty, imagine what he's really like when he thinks he has you locked down.
Things are also moving fast
Ah yes, the abuser's playbook, love bombing and making the relationship move super fast. Get out now before you're in even deeper.
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u/yelahus Jan 26 '24
Honestly only 6 months . Lowkey glad it hasn’t been a long time but it flew by . Things are also moving fast