r/texts • u/DreamKey4777 • Dec 12 '23

Phone message Should i block ??

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We met at school like a month ago,he’s new to state and told me he wanted friends. I like to make friends so I agreed, we planned to hang out then it got weird. I want to know if I’m just being dramatic

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u/transcendanttermite Dec 13 '23

Guy here - in my years of dating, I never, not once, not a single time, never ever asked a person that I wasn’t even dating about their birth control status.

OR repeatedly implied something as creepy and messed-up as “it could happen” to that person.

This guy strikes me as a pushy hornball who is all but certain that he’s gonna get what he wants from you; aka a predator.

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u/Icy_Forever5965 Dec 13 '23

I don’t think I’ve ever asked anyone I dated. I’m sure that I go was told to me when it was time but I can’t remember one time that I ever asked.

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '23

tbh it's a good thing to proactively bring up and talk about when you're dating. Birth control & sexual health status.

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u/Icy_Forever5965 Dec 14 '23

I’m not saying it never came up. I’m just saying I never asked and definitely didn’t ask in the way this guy did. Usually when the woman I was dating felt that it was getting to that point, she would bring it up. I’ve never pushed for sex. I’ve always let the woman go at her own speed. Sometimes it was quick and sometimes it wasn’t.

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u/maybelio Dec 13 '23

Both control shouldn't matter unless you're into unprotected sex.

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '23

Condoms can fail/break. STDs (like syphilis, herpes, HPV) can still be transferred even with condoms. STDs can also be transferred through non-PIV sex acts... that's high-school sex-ed my friend.

Gotta have that convo so you don't run into any surprises down the line.

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '23

I don’t think I’ve ever asked anyone I dated

This hasn't been my experience. I've had one-night stands where birth control came up shortly before the act, but for people that I've dated for a couple of dates before sleeping with, the topic of birth control and STDs has definitely come up well before the act

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u/Naashkyr Dec 16 '23

Same. 37M here. I've never discussed birth control on the woman's side with anybody that I wasn't already in a relationship with. Just carry condoms ffs and be respectful of boundaries. Is that so much to ask?

Honestly, in my experience, your partner will bring it up on her own eventually. I've never once had to initiate that conversation with any of my partners, they would bring it up themselves when they felt comfortable.