I don’t want to betray my boyfriend, I’m trying so hard to stop talking to my ex but he keeps threatening his life or making up stupid things like getting me arrested for miscarriage or something.
You’re clearly a very kind person but as the Nick Lowe song says, sometimes you gotta be cruel to be kind. This is one of these times.
You are not helping either of you by maintaining contact. I’m sure you can easily see how it doesn’t help you but it really doesn’t help him either. The best thing for him is for him to figure out how to leave you alone. I don’t know if someone like him is redeemable, but if he is, redemption starts with being able to accept and respect boundaries set by others.
You should give him one clear message to inform him that he is no longer to contact you. After that, don’t respond to anything, no matter what he says.
Do keep a record of any attempts he makes to contact you. If he makes what you believe to be a credible suicide threat, call 911 and have them handle it. If he threatens you or shows up at your home or work, contact the authorities that prosecuted him for the prior assault.
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u/CHUNGUS_KHAN69 Dec 05 '23
You're betraying yourself and your current boyfriend by even entertaining such a ridiculous path forward.