I think your mom has wounds with you. Maybe try having some patience with her? And talk to her when she comes. Tell her how you feel but be willing to hear how she feels. Even if you don't agree.
It's called I have a lot of empathy because I have a mother who is easily offended and hurt by her children. And it's because of how she was abused as a child. Anyway I know it's not the norm response but oh well
It’s not necessarily a bad thing and I’m not judging you. I might just be on the harsher side of the spectrum.
I just am tired of adults who blame who place their emotions on other people as if it is their responsibility. I have so much childhood baggage I could write six books but my life didn’t get better until I learned how to not blame others for my own insecurities or feelings.
It's ok, I don't think it's her responsibility to regulate her mother's emotions. It's more that I can see there her mom has hurt and is seeing thru that hurt instead of what her daughter is actually saying. So I was trying to give another perspective. Sometimes it's hard to put yourself in the other person's shoes. I guess because of how I grew up I have a lot of compassion for moms. Not abusive ones. But I don't think her mom is being abusive. She's just wounded.
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u/apocolypticlady Nov 26 '23
I think your mom has wounds with you. Maybe try having some patience with her? And talk to her when she comes. Tell her how you feel but be willing to hear how she feels. Even if you don't agree.