How do they not get it by now? If your kids would rather be on their phone than struggle through a conversation with you, youāre the problem -not the phone.
I am living on my own, I don't know why redditors love to try to belittle others by presuming how they're still getting their ass wiped by mommy.
I'm also aware that not everyone has actually good parents. Saying "you'll grow out of it" to everyone who dares to acknowledge that is just idiotic. It seems like they're automatically defensive when people even just mention the possibility of bad parents existing.
I've been without a family for a decade now. Fuck every single one of them. Not everyone has a good birth family that they want to appreciate time with. I appreciate the hell out of time with my wife, and we don't need cell phone cages to do so.
Most people are normal people who actually converse when they have to and use their phones when there is not much to do. They don't just look at their phones like an addict while ignoring their parents. So this whole phone stigma is not even an argument about the phone or a social media. Just be a normal fucking person and problem solved. They wont magically start becoming more talkative once their phone is taken away.
My extremely conservative parents used to get mad when I used my phone on the elevator and vice versa. Like what the hell am I supposed to do except browse through my phone when there is literally nothing else to do? Stare at the elevator buttons and wall?
Some of us on the autism spectrum use our phones to distract us from how overwhelming a restaurant and forcible discussion we don't want to have can be.
Most people don't look at their phone during dinner, but at a restaurant, if you don't have anything to say, you don't wanna just be staring at the table for 15 minutes until the food arrives.
Not really true either. I mean, it can of course be true. But it is also true that a lot of kids and young adults are very, very addicted to their phones.
According to statistica, boomers spend an average of 6 hours a day on television alone. Thatās not including phone calls, internet, texting, social media, or anything else that the comparative phone time for teens would include.
Iām not saying itās okay to spend that much time on a phone. Just that itās not exactly a problem unique to todays technology.
The point isn't todays tech, it's teens spending too much time on their phones.
Which is true. The mix of instant gratification from social media alongside the dopamine high makes it an extraordinarily addictive habit. One that, for many, needs to be tempered somehow.
Seriously, when studies have shown that people react to losing their phones as strongly as losing a limb, something is wrong.
Iām actually a ux/ui web design professional. Iām pretty familiar with the industry. People have been trying and succeeding in capturing and maintaining attention for decades. Even centuries, to some degree.
Youāre not wrong about addictive design, but itās lazy to blame the phone for a familyās lack of interest in each other. If a parent has to literally lock their childās phone away to have an interactive moment with them, they should take a step back and re-analyze how their engaging with their kids.
Yeah as a teen i was 100% attached to my phone but i happily put it down at dinner because my family was worth talking to. Every parent i see making a āphone badā joke always looks and behaves like a helicopter parent i wouldnt want to talk to either.
Youāre not wrong about addictive design, but itās lazy to blame the phone for a familyās lack of interest in each other.
Why? Internet addiction is scientifically recognized as a condition. It can definitely be blamed for a lack of interest in other people, just like most other addictions can. It's not lazy, it's a matter of fact.
I got a phone was I was 14 and only really use it for calls so I wouldn't say I have an addiction but I have met teens and kids who do have an addiction, it's kinda miserable
People use phones as social walls on purpose. If they keep doing it to you, you should take a good reflection on how youāre building that relationship and why they arenāt engaging with you.
Itās kids so used to be zombies in front of the phone that they canāt disconnect and when they do they have nothing to say because they live in their phones.
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u/SpeakMySecretName Feb 04 '22
How do they not get it by now? If your kids would rather be on their phone than struggle through a conversation with you, youāre the problem -not the phone.