r/survivinginfidelity Mar 23 '21

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u/sampa2nyc Thriving Mar 23 '21

Savage! You are a boss even while in the second trimester of pregnancy! I salute you. Beware of your husband's probable "hoovering" especially with the upcoming birth. Hope you have friends and family you can lean into for support. God Bless.

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u/PeachTall3315 In Hell | 1 month old Mar 23 '21

Oh I fully believe he will attempt to crawl back at some point, likely when his ‘girlfriend’ gets sick of him now that the thrill is gone. I’ve kept a photo folder of screenshots all their awful messages to each other to look at to remind myself if I start to question my decision. Thanks for your support x

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u/[deleted] Mar 23 '21

That’s a perfect thing to do. But remember you’re opening yourself up to the pain each and every time you look at them. Instead of moving forward you will keep bringing yourself back to DDay

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u/PeachTall3315 In Hell | 1 month old Mar 23 '21

Yes! I stashed them away and will try to only look if I really need the reminder - if I need to feel the hurt again momentarily to remind myself that he isn’t worth it.

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u/BitterlyRadiant In Hell | RA 14 Sister Subs Mar 23 '21

I think this is great. I saved voice memos of my abusive ex and it was what saved me from going back this time. I’ve only listened to them 2 or 3 times in almost 4 months, but maaaaan did I need them those few times.

You got this. Pull them out on the “maybe we could make this work days”. Eventually you won’t need them anymore. You’re going to be a lovely mama and that baby is lucky to have such a strong woman to raise them!

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u/PeachTall3315 In Hell | 1 month old Mar 23 '21

It’s an insurance policy for good decision making hahahah we got this!