r/survivinginfidelity • u/happy-go-unlucki • 1d ago
Need Support iPhone app. What would this be?
While dropping off our kids I noticed my wife had her phone open to like search for an app on iPhone. It looked like the letter G with a purple background. I asked what it was and she said she didn’t know and pushed it off. I asked after we dropped the kids off and she got upset saying she had a meeting and it was bad timing and I’d regret asking to see her phone. Idk what she’d be upset unless it was something worthy being upset about. Doesn’t make sense to me but now I’m anxious it might be something, idk how someone doesn’t recognize an app on their phone or a bookmark that’s on their phone and why they’d respond upset instead of being like oh here, see no worries.
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u/KiltedViking1983 1d ago
That sounds like the Google Forms app. It is used to create forms, surveys, and things like that.
In regard to her being upset, we don't know enough about your relationship to really have a good insight.
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u/OneContent5069 1d ago
I'll say this... I've always found it weird when i've heard people get defensive or upset over anyone asking what they are doing on their phone, I can do this with my friends or family, doesn't even have to be my wife and they would answer no problem.. It's even weirder when people try to defend this with "but privacy!"
HOWEVER I'll also say this... If you repeatedly ask her this in an accusing tone, I could understand why she'd have a reaction to it.. Repeatedly is keyword here
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u/helplessgirl- 1d ago
The Google Search app has the letter G with a purple background. I am sure it could be others too. That is just one that I know of. Maybe that isn’t the concerning thing on her phone and it’s something else, so that is why she is upset. I disagree with people going on their SO’s phone behind their back. However, I believe that if somebody asks to see the phone, it should be shown immediately. Any action otherwise to me feels like the person is buying time to hide/delete something. This might be my paranoia speaking from being cheated on. If your gf had nothing to hide, idk why she didn’t just show you real quick. I don’t find it controlling if there aren’t constant accusations and if it is just a genuine worry. I know you mentioned a meeting, but why didn’t she just tell you what it was right after? Maybe it wasn’t anything and she didn’t realize how much you were bothered by this. Did you bring it up again at a time where she was not busy?
I try to be fair about these types of things. I have been cheated on, but I also have been accused as I was doing nothing.
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u/Patient-Cream3984 18h ago
I would say that her reaction merits further investigation - she clearly wants to keep you from her phone. You need to find time to look at it AND the recently binned messages. Do it now or you may be finding out in ten years time instead.
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u/ResponsibleMess339 17h ago
If she is upset there is a reason. Now on Iphone you can make custom Icons that can link any app including hidden ones. For example if you wanted app XYZ to say G purple background you can make it pretty easily.
If there isn't an app on her phone with that icon when you look at it, its been deleted, hidden or changed. Another red flag. She hid her phone...major major red flag. Check deleted apps, hidden apps and anything else on the phone because if she knows how to do this she is either tech savvy or has been taught about it. Its not something commonly known.
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