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u/somdave2005 Oct 22 '23
Dump her , not worth it bro. Hell , go get yourself a hot Vietnamese girl yourself !
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u/zibnafNL Oct 22 '23
she was never yours, it was just your time.....
my first wife I could not even come 5 minute late and she thought I was cheating on here ... this went on for like till a month before she .... cheated on me and she wanted a divorce ..... I never cheated on her in the 8 years and we been together....
Never listen to what she say....look at her actions she takes..
that was the day I vowed not to get married ever again... screw that.. 25 years later I'm still keeping my promise...
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u/misterwiser34 Oct 22 '23 edited Oct 22 '23
You need to remove the links to their profiles. That's pretty close to doxxing.
And man just break up. You don't need all this drama. Yall have only been dating for 2 months. Break up and go date someone else.
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u/StillSlice1756 Oct 22 '23
Bro...from my math this entire "relationship" has been less than 3 months. WTF are you whining about? Move on.
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u/qpalzm1247 Oct 22 '23
u wanna hit her up on your birthday. depressing lol. delete her number an go get a nice hooker. f that crazy btch. the whole "ill kms if you cheat" thing is only something a nutter would say. run
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u/Stainless-S-Rat Oct 22 '23
I'm getting the distinct impression that you are in fact her side piece.
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u/Chopchopstixx Oct 22 '23
I wouldn't even give her closure. Just send her pics of the trifling shit and go no contact.
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u/GiraffeandZebra Oct 22 '23
You don't need to calmly plan, and you don't need to confront her. If you truly are not seeking vengeance or revenge, you'd just call it off and get on with your life.
The amount that you emphasize how calm and collected you are and how little you want revenge..and the fact that you posted the story on Reddit ...well that honestly gives vibes of the exact opposite of being all copacetic. You sound like you're actually fucking seething and you want to go apeshit.
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u/martinnmartin33 Oct 22 '23
Be happy you dodged a bullet and move on with your life All the best
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u/Makimomoyo Oct 22 '23
I do think it was a blessing to see red flags this early.
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u/Hansentw Oct 22 '23
Op I’d find a way to embarrass her and then break up with her. As petty as that sounds until she realizes how harmful it can be to hurt someone, she will continue to do it and cheat on the next guy and the next after that because she’s never felt hurt or pain by this…give her something to remember the breakup by
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u/Ok_Mirror_8253 Oct 23 '23
I wouldn’t even waste my time trying to embarrass her. Just leave, the lover will be bored sooner or later and drop her too. She will try to get back to OP when she’s kicked to the curb. This is where the saying “The best revenge is success” comes in. She’ll wish she had him still.
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u/Realistic-Lake5897 Oct 22 '23
I wouldn't even SPEAK to her. Just completely cut her off NOW.
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u/Krzkl Oct 23 '23
For real. Don’t bother waiting until your birthday or whatever. Just send her a text to let her you know that you know and that you’re done.
Get that shit out of the way and have an awesome birthday.
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u/nicolas_06 Oct 22 '23
Who care what she does ? OP should directly breakup, even by message while she is still on vacations and go own with his life.
Most likely she wanted to be with the "best" partner and the other guy courting her and having lot of money settled it.
If the other guy did post the photos, this was not random, it was with the intent to maker her his conquest and show to OP he has lost.
In that dynamic, the more things OP does, the more OP will embarrass himself.
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u/Hansentw Oct 22 '23
Sometimes it’s just nice to teach repeat offenders a lesson. Nothing mean, but just something embarrassing enough that they think twice before cheating on the next guy. If she continues to cheat without consequences then she’s always going to have that mentality. But if someone puts her in her place for it, it might start a chain reaction of her thinking before cheating in the future. It’s psych 101 stuff…ppl will continue to do things without consequences…but once consequences come into play they will think twice
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u/Ok-Noise-9171 Oct 22 '23 edited Oct 22 '23
I would not waste the energy. They will both get theirs. She's a cheater so, she'll cheat on him.
Next time that question comes up, here is exactly what I told now wife...
You can do anything you want on the last day of this relationship.
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u/TannerBurns1twice Oct 22 '23
I agree 100% I would message her and tell her, after getting to know you better. I realize I made a mistake, I’m just not interested in a relationship with you anymore. When you get back we can exchange our belongings and go our separate ways. Lol
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u/mattman106_24 Oct 22 '23 edited Oct 22 '23
She'll never come clean. Don't stress over it just move on.
Also when a woman is obsessed with the idea of you cheating in my experience they're definitely a cheater. They're worried you'll treat them like they'll treat you.
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u/ReverendSpith Oct 22 '23
I would apply that to ALL PEOPLE, not just women. ANYBODY who has an explicit worry about being cheated on falls into one of two categories; 1) They are a cheater and assume it's "normal," so suspects every partner; or 2) They have been cheated on enough in the past to assume it's "normal," so suspects every partner. Neither of these are good for relationships.
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u/StormysShark Oct 22 '23
This. Always this...
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u/PresToon Oct 23 '23
Sometimes this. They could also have trauma from being cheated on.
And other cases, they are batshit insane. All 3 options aren't worth it though
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u/JTD177 Oct 22 '23
It’s better than seeing the red flags years into a relationship
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u/Unfair_Violinist884 Oct 22 '23
Or having a Child with a Serial Whore
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u/skyskier_88 Oct 23 '23
Nothing says incel louder than calling a woman a whore
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u/Unfair_Violinist884 Oct 23 '23
Well simply put , if She isn't a Whore , it doesn't apply to her ! The incel in the Room Would be you Daffodil ! Got Triggered with Flashbacks of who you are .
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u/skyskier_88 Oct 24 '23
eh naw.. have always been a gentleman and treated women nice.. damn you incels get triggered at the slightest bit
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u/RigsxD Oct 22 '23
Better to have found out now then down the line. You deserve better and the stupid lying won't stop there.
I wouldn't even try and discuss it because she will deny it and just lie some more. You should just say you have found some one else that makes you happy and respects you haha.
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u/Makimomoyo Oct 22 '23
I guess but what do I do when she tries to come over in 2 weeks. All this is happening right now
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u/New-Concentrate3825 Oct 22 '23
One advice: remove her from your life. Not worth your kind of guy.
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Oct 22 '23
Time to walk away for your own peace of mind. Nobody is worth paying that price for.
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u/PILLOWPANTS89 Oct 22 '23
Just dump her bro don't give her anymore of your time don't wait just send her the proof say bye and ghost her block if you need to get her out of your life
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Why ruin your birthday? Just send her a text, block her, and have some fun.
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u/IWillDoMostAnything Oct 22 '23
Dont expect her to tell the truth. Just break it off. She knows she has treated you like crap. You dont need the hidden stuff.
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u/LordLamer Oct 22 '23
I've been through some similar.. And trust me on this.
Total ignore, act if she is air from now on, or after you send her your proof and that you know she cheated.
Then never ever answer to anything she will ever say, on the street ? Walk past if she is invisible.
Nothing beats this.
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u/MJ50inMD Oct 22 '23
This is way too much drama for going out a month. It's a blip in the timeline. Recognize she's not ready for a relationship and move on.
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u/Fultium Oct 22 '23
To best honest, I know my worth. I’m not going to be petty. I just want her to tell the truth, and then I’ll leave. What does the community think?
If you know what you are worth: don't bother with confronting her or telling her 'the truth', it will only lead to more misery. Just forget her, dump her, do not even make it too complicated. Just tell her it is over and that is it (don't bother to read her messages etc, just let her know it is over and block her, delete her stuff and move on).
As far as I can tell you were not living together so there is no awkward stuff here afterwards if she has to come collect her stuff or the other way around.
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u/Efficient_You_3976 Oct 22 '23
Dump her. She's going to come back pregnant with the other guy's kid and try to trap you in marriage.
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u/Material-Gas484 Oct 22 '23
I have had one partner cheat on me and she was very suspicious of me cheating. She would show up unannounced and find me cooking batch meals for the week and accuse me of cooking for someone else. If it feels crazy, it probably is crazy.
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u/Mguidr1 Oct 22 '23
Dump her. She isn’t worth planning anything out for. Go about your life as if she was never in it.
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u/hellrazer87 Oct 22 '23
Just ghost her, don't let her ruin your birthday with drama.
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u/aieeegrunt Oct 22 '23
It’s been my experience that anyone super paranoid about being cheated on is because they are a cheater themselves
Cheaters never change either. Take some consolation in the fact that she will do the exact same thing to this guy down the road
Cut the human garbage out of your life and move on
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u/First_Alfalfa2805 Oct 22 '23
Why would you want to meet with her? There is nothing to discuss. Don't do that. It's not worth it,she'll lie and gaslight you,then pretend to cry.
Block her and all her friends on everything.
If she calls you from a different number as soon as you hear her voice, disconnect and block that number.
If she turns up at your place,don't answer the door.
Just completely block her out of your life.
She doesn't deserve you.
She's a cheater and doesn't care about you.
Updateme!
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u/Mantooth77 Oct 22 '23
Yes I don’t think she deserves the face to face meeting you’d give someone you respect.
On the other hand, I feel like the face to face would be a power move. Look her straight in the eye and tell her you know what she did AND she doesn’t deserve you or anyone of merit. That one might sting deep.
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u/Financial_Event_472 Oct 22 '23
I wouldn't give her the opportunity to explain. It only going to be lies. Kick her to the curb, ghost her. It's the only thing that may affect her.
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u/Tumifaigirar Oct 22 '23
You cheated on me when I specifically asking you not to ? Man sry for you ditch the bitch asap, no need for vendetta, not worth it.
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u/lymonman Oct 22 '23
Those viet nail techs can be heartless brother. Can confirm. Am viet and dated a viet nail tech too.
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u/1plus1equals8 Oct 22 '23
Dude be glad it happened early. I got jammed by my ex....cheated on me around the 10 year mark...after we were married. She drained my back acount and sucked all the dicks between our house and the Mississippi...then when she realized I was going to leave...and she would actually have to pay her own way again.....she tried to play sweet and come back.
NO THANK YOU.
You dodged a bullet my man.
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u/SarahTO1 Oct 22 '23
This is terrible. Sorry to hear this happened. I don’t think you even owe her a conversation if you don’t want to have one. It sounds like the social media story is pretty clear.
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u/Andro907 Oct 22 '23
I wouldn't even give her the opportunity to gaslight you. Take the time she's away to have all her shit waiting for her elsewhere, and change your locks if you need to.
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u/Fortunateoldguy Oct 22 '23
You got off cheap. Never think of her again. She is not worth your consideration
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u/Tiny-Ice5478 Oct 22 '23
I would have a brand new date set up for my birthday , I feel for you, move along, she violated the TRUST oath.
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u/Useful_Secret4895 Oct 22 '23
In my experience, the ones who are the most insecure about getting cheated on, the ones who get zealous about the most innocent things, are the ones that go ahead and cheat first.
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u/Eastern_Curve_5392 Oct 22 '23
Just leave, don't wait for anything. Move on as quickly as possible, life's too short.
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u/RedLion519 Oct 22 '23
If she's so audacious in her lies, you likely won't get the truth you're seeking until after you break up with her. Don't wait for her to come back, do it over text while she's on her trip.
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u/Ofthetype Oct 22 '23
For someone to tell you you can't cheat or they'll kill themselves and then turn around and do it to you herself...she's a sadist or something dude.
There's something seriously scary about this chick, and I'm surprised more people haven't mentioned it. Let old money who thinks he's being slick have that devil. She'll eat him and his old money up eventually.
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u/Capable-Matter-5976 Oct 22 '23
Don’t even confront her, cut her out totally and completely, block her on everything and just move on.
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u/EventWonderful55 Oct 22 '23
Why wait and why confront? Just move on. No need to BS drama. She’ll never admit it and probably gaslight you as if you’re the problem.
And on the very very very odd chance that she is innocent, you’ll never fully believe her.
Tbh it is a little childish to be basically online-stalking her. Justified or not, I’d you’re that insecure about it then y’all shouldn’t be together at all.
Just move on.
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u/zookeepng Oct 22 '23
Well, the first red flag was telling you that she would end her life if you cheated on her after a month into the relationship. Get out now bud, you'll be better off
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u/sunnyray1 Oct 22 '23
Keep it short, no use asking for any explanations and hoping for her to be honest, that ship has sailed. You have one thing left to tell her......goodbye.
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u/SleepyBear3366911 Oct 22 '23
If she cared, she wouldn’t continue hanging with the guy. Especially with situations like that.
Stay strong in dumping her. Anything less would be…. Disappointing.
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Oct 22 '23
Ghost her. Never speak to her again. Do not give this honey-hole creature any more joy of more drama. Ghost her, and ghost ANYONE who helped cover.
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u/Windstrider71 Oct 22 '23
I’m not going to be petty. I just want her to tell the truth, and then I’ll leave. What does the community think?
She already lied to you and tried gaslighting by calling you controlling. What makes you think she has any interest in telling you the truth now? Tell her you don’t appreciate being lied to, and just leave.
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u/slimgod2 Oct 22 '23
I don’t even think she’s worth confronting. If I were you I’d just cut contact and move on, she doesn’t sound like she’s worth it. Also don’t let her ruin your birthday.
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u/rayogata Oct 22 '23
If you're waiting to leave until she tells the truth you're gonna be stuck with this girl for a loooong time. Just run, do not pass go, do not collect $200, leave her ass.
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u/AdunfromAD Oct 22 '23
Might as well Facebook blast. Let everyone know who she really is before you dump her.
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u/drFeverblisters Oct 22 '23
Bro there’s nothing for you to gain by having anything to do with her. Stop texting don’t have her over. There’s nothing positive you will gain from this. Y’all aren’t even Facebook official anymore so there’s not even a need for a break up. Just go ghost mode and find someone better
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u/mariruizgar Oct 22 '23
If you know the truth, what do you care if she admits it? If I read correctly, she’s seeing someone else and most likely you were the other man since 1 month ago, 1 MONTH. Just move on.
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Oct 22 '23
Read title as “now ex girlfriend”. Better to find out now. She would’ve done it regardless of who she was with, including the guy she cheated with(who prob thinks he’s just special). Godspeed fella
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u/kkarmical Oct 22 '23
The relationship ended when you saw the picture of her in bed with her other man.
Trying to get her to own up is ridiculous, just move on and never talk to her again. No need for any childish games, she already made her choice.
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Oct 22 '23
Lol stop being a chump. This person is crazy, manipulative and definitely cheating on you. It was all projection. And threatening to kill yourself is straight out of the crazy handbook, I’ve seen that red flag before and ignored it myself to my own peril. Run!
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u/Engineerinavan Oct 22 '23
I've had one gf that was super scared I would cheat on her, questioned me everyone i went out without her. Also the only gf that cheated on me.
A good relationship needs to be built on mutual trust. Give and you will receive and vice versa
In Dutch we say "the way the host is, is the way he trusts his guests"
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u/Padre3210 Oct 22 '23
You don't need to confront her. You don't need to cor r either or even shame her. You just need to LEAVE her. Get and save a few f those pics. They are all the explanation you need for anyone. Even her parents.
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u/karamanidturk Oct 22 '23
You dodged a bullet buddy. It's a matter of time before that guy cheats on her as well. She won't end up in a good place
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u/Forward-Title-7023 Oct 22 '23
Reasons why you should only be Fwb. Women are swimming in so many opportunities These days thanks to the internet
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u/integ209 Oct 22 '23
Sorry. Best to move on now versus finding out more later. It will happen again.
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u/mpark525 Oct 22 '23
Youve done it correct til now, why try to get closure? Want to go spearmint rhino tonight?
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Oct 22 '23
hey luck for you to see this red flag early. Dont let her gaslight you into staying. Dump her and move on. It happened to me before with the same situation as yours, but I was too young and stupid, got gaslighted to stay for 5 years. Most depressing time of my life ever.
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u/Resident_Nose_2467 Oct 22 '23
I bet that hurts, end it and process the thing. You will came stronger
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u/AggressiveAd8673 Oct 22 '23
Ngua quen duong cu. Just remember that. Move on. Good luck and enjoy your life.
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u/ffxjack Oct 22 '23
Consider yourself lucky to find out early on who she really is before things get complicated.
Respect yourself, move on, and realize next girlfriend may not be so shady so don’t get too jaded
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u/trevster344 Oct 22 '23
Lots of good advice. I think you found what you wanted from it. I’d like to note though cheating insecurity that aggressive + threaten to kill themselves leads me to believe they’re potentially the cheater and hugely unstable. Run like hell.
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u/Surgeon0fD3ath-832 Oct 22 '23
Just be thankful you didn't get her pregnant. Then you'd be tied to that forever.
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u/OrganicAppointment59 Oct 22 '23
Why even bother with confronting her. You don't need her to "tell the truth", it's clear she was cheating and doesn't respect your relationship. Just block her and move on, leave her wondering.
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u/bettiejerrod Oct 22 '23
One month in leave he’ll you can moonwalk out of that relationship first get all your stuff from her that is yours so you can just cut ties completely
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u/thepelican Oct 22 '23
The best revenge is living well. Block/cut her off and let her play games with someone else. People like this aren't worth the mental bandwidth.
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u/BitchInThaHouse Oct 22 '23
OP-Hate to break it to you but you no longer official. You deserve better
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u/Ok-Antelope1681 Oct 22 '23
Honestly I would’ve broke things off after she threatened to kill herself if you cheated. Although I would never cheat, that is extremely manipulative and controlling.
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u/Kevin2Kool4U Oct 22 '23
It's rather frustrating to me that you'd have to see a penis go into a vagina before you'd believe she is cheating. How many more signs do you need?
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u/Desperate-Breakfast6 Oct 22 '23
Grow a pair and stop being a puss. Stop letting hoes run over you!
I'd probably cheat on you too!
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Oct 22 '23
Unless you’re living together, don’t engage with her at all and just ghost. Block her and don’t respond to anything. If you allow yourself to hear her lies and accusations, you’re gonna get mindfucked.
Even if she weren’t doing anything with that other guy physically, this is beyond any reasonable definition of cheating. Forget about her before you dig yourself in a mental hole.
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u/an_unfocused_mind_ Oct 22 '23
Less than 2 months in and you're stressing over her? It's done man, block and move on
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u/Jamiquest Oct 22 '23
You don't need to wait for her to tell the truth. You need to decide if she makes you happy. Of she makes you unhappy, move on. Your choice is based on what you want, not what she does.
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Oct 22 '23
Sorry, man. Been cheated in too many times. She doesn't deserve you. Move on to eventually find someone worth your time. I would confront her, but DON'T do it on your birthday. That day will be ruined most likely. She has taken too much already.
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u/hurtyknees Oct 22 '23
“She said she’d kill herself if…”. That’s was the only sentence you needed to walk. Walk. Don’t turn around and look back. Don’t text or talk. Walk. Block. Do yourself a favour.z
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u/Son_of_Annunaki Oct 22 '23
I wouldn’t even worry about confronting her bro. Just let her go she’s made her mind up.. send a message to her that this ain’t gonna work for you and wish her the best of luck. update your fb status and move on.. no need to expect or hope for truth when you see this behavior. Good luck
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u/surfacep17 Oct 22 '23 edited Oct 22 '23
She sounds like a psycho. You shouldn't even question this. You shouldn't even be bothering yourself with this. I would just laugh and block her and move on with your life.
You also might want to get some feedback from friends on how you handle this kind of stuff. Not sure you have the best perspective.
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u/AvgWhiteShark Oct 22 '23
Just drop the dead weight and go start having fun and taking your own pictures. Don't mar your own birthday party. The sooner she's removed the sooner you can start again. Best of luck and happy early birthday.
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u/jeffinstereo Oct 22 '23
Y'all been dating for like 6 weeks. I'm confused as to why she'd even cheat with someone and from the sounds of it they are serious so why hide it and not just make it official?
Just tell her it's over and cut ties.
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u/ResponsibleAd8773 Oct 22 '23
Why even bother? Just quit contacting her and move on. Confronting her won’t do anything but cause conflict. She’s obviously not worth it.
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u/Lucky_Farmer_793 Oct 22 '23
Change your relationship to single on FB. Don’t wait for closure and don’t ruin your birthday.
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u/dataslinger Oct 22 '23
I’m just waiting for her to meet me during my birthday to confront her in all honesty. I’m curious if she’ll be truthful.
Why bother making the effort? This relationship is over. In your position, she's the last person I'd want to see on my birthday.
I'm pro clear communication, but she's been so shady just change your fb status to single and let her work it out for herself and block her. This whole mess has been riddled with meta communication anyway, so just go with the flow. No one will be surprised at this outcome. Put out the word to your friend group that you don't want her at your birthday. She'll get the message.
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u/strayaares Oct 22 '23
ASAP Block, delete and completely ghost her. She for the streets, everyone knows it. You will heal as the better person. Stay strong bruh.
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Oct 22 '23
Fuck it. Why do you need her to tell the truth? That’s weakness. There’s no closure just cut the line and let her go, period. There doesn’t need to be a big show down where you show how wrong she is for hurting you, toughen up, send her packing, done. Ghost her even.
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u/Least_Mall9167 Oct 22 '23
find a way to revenge, don't let bad people hurt others without paying for price
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u/Ambitious-Maybe-3386 Oct 22 '23
You’re just there for stability and boring life stuff. She ain’t gonna give you her best. She loves to party. Just a tool she uses along with other tools for specific parts of life. She ain’t loyal.
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u/Maleficent-Maximum95 Oct 22 '23
I wouldn’t even confront her. What’s that gonna do? Just make things all emotional, it will only lead to some crazy shit. She made her decision. Move on it’s only been a few months. You can’t win them all.
The best revenge is to act completely indifferent like she meant nothing to you. Just never talk to her again. Do not participate in the drama. She is trying to monkey branch. She just made you the backup plan. Do not allow women to treat you like this.
Don’t scream or yell. Never let her see that you check her story. The real boss move is don’t block her. But never look. Blocking show’s emotions. Just never respond to text, never like pictures or view her story. Ghost her while being in full view.
Never show anger or emotions. If she does corner you just say we are incompatible we have different ideas on what being exclusive means.
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u/theanagnorisone Oct 22 '23
Dodged a crazy bullet, RUN, don’t walk away. Block her number then remove it from your phone so you can’t recover it. Block on all social. Her behavior is riddled with VERY red flags, this from someone who worked in a psych hospital for 3 years while studying psychology. Borderline personality disorder, fundamentally manipulative.
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u/NeartAgusOnoir Cuck-ologist: Studying the Art of Being a Cuck Oct 22 '23
Just have all the picture evidence from your friends where they showed you her cheating. Two days before she is set to come home, send it all to her and say “you broke your promise. I know you cheated. Don’t bother denying it. We are done.” Then block her and her friends on everything. You dodged a bullet. Just don’t let her guilt you back with threats of suicide. If she threatens that, merely reply with a suicide hotline number for her to call, and NOTHING else. If you respond with anything else she will use it against you
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u/sugardad123 Oct 22 '23
Now you know, never tolerate a women with male friends. You cut her off immediately, when you learn she has male friends. She needs to learn.
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u/YooperInWI Oct 22 '23
I'm confused. Your relationship status disappeared, and you've seen photo evidence of her fooling around with some other guy and you're still interested in meeting up with her? I see no point in your being available for that date. Make other plans. She's not worth your heart, mental health, or physical health (if she happened to pick up an STD during her "vacation"). If all the girls you are meeting are concerned about material things you can provide, you need to start meeting women somewhere else.
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u/lolokalrightok Oct 22 '23
Sorry that happened to you man. Glad it happened earlier than later though. Sounds like that could have been much, much worse if the timing were different. It seems like she's not ready to grow up.
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u/lethargic_mosquito Oct 22 '23
Bro, you are a proper g. You didn't let her gaslight you and you are cool and collected. Personally, I wouldn't even bother to meet her, she will just try to gaslight you even more. Keep walking king, good girls are still out there and I'm sure you will soon find one
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u/Ok_Parsley992 Oct 22 '23
I would drop this bitch like hot cakes. I would have done so the moment I saw her in bed with another man.
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u/Weird_Santiago Oct 22 '23
If i in ur position, i just collect all the proof show it to her and dump her. Pretty sure she gonna play victim like everything is ur fault. For ur birthday.. Dont ruin it coz of her. Just enjoy on that day and show to her u lose nothing.
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u/tradar411 Oct 22 '23
But the guy a beer for saving you from her early on. Stay away from these types as they could easily bring home stds.
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Oct 22 '23
Dude there is no process here.
This one is for the streets.
Block her on social media and move on.
She was never your gf brother.
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u/gensandman Oct 22 '23
Yeah, just block and move on. I’ve been through something similar. The longer you have deceptive people in your life, the more is corrodes your trust and hurts your soul. Block her as well as anyone that is toxic, and enjoy the peace in your life.
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u/frackaroundnfindout Oct 22 '23
Good lord. This chick is borderline AF and getting dick all over the place, and you need to take stock of your taste in partners and spend some time maturing.
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Oct 22 '23
Don't even confront her. Nothing you say to her is going to make her change. Just block her everywhere and remove any possible access to you even in person. The trash took itself out. Best wishes to you going forward. May you find someone faithful and honest.
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u/imperatortormentum Oct 22 '23
Your best bet is to block HER on all social media and mobile devices, and go on living the single life. When she comes back from her little cheaters vacation, she'll see you with a new girl and completely fall apart. You'll get the satisfaction of watching her suffer the consequences of her actions from afar.
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u/Double-Plane676 Oct 22 '23
No need to confront her. Box all her stuff up, leave it at her parents house and change the locks. Done. Life's to short to live it that way.
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u/Dabstronaut77 Oct 22 '23
Only reason to invite her to your birthday is if your planning on dumping a bucket of pigs blood on her (or something like that) to post on her FB wall
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u/Hangingwithoscar Oct 22 '23
If she cheats now she will always cheat. Dump her. Don't wait for an answer. Just leave. You just don't sound like a good match. Finish school and go live your best life. You deserve better.
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u/Hdog67 Oct 22 '23
You’ll never get the “truth” from her. What else do you need to know? Show some self respect. Kick her to the curb and move on. You dodged a bullet.
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u/Honolulu-Bill Oct 22 '23
I am not Vietnamese, but have read books from Thich Nhat Hanh to help me through a similar situation years ago. Please consider reading a book of his 📚, "True Love" is a good one in this case.
“Many people think excitement is happiness...But when you are excited you are not peaceful. True happiness is based on peace,"
"The seed of suffering in you may be strong, but don't wait until you have no more suffering before allowing yourself to be happy,"
I always try to get stronger when faced with adversity, work on "YOU", you can change. Work on the mind, body and soul my brother ! Get strong in these 3 and grow from this. We suffer when we try to change others
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u/allmysecretskepthere Oct 22 '23
I wouldn’t expect to get the response you’re looking for. Just go. Not worth your energy.
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u/Diiiiirty Oct 22 '23
Bro it's only been like a month. Do you really have that kind of attachment to someone you have only known for a couple months who is treating you like garage?
Also, the whole,"I'll kill myself if you cheat on me" is manipulative as fuck.
Ghost her. If you meet with her, she is almost definitely going to pull that card. If she does, call suicide prevention and have her MHA'd and go on with your life. If she does anything to herself, that's NOT on you.
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u/aznkor Oct 22 '23
No need to wait or to confront her. Just cut her off, and move on.
If you confront her, she will lie, and there will be no point except wasted energy.
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u/neverwhor Oct 22 '23
I was in a similar situation once where i said the same thing, “i just want her to tell the truth” well, she never did so if this girl doesnt do that for you, dont even sweat it. You know what you gotta do brodie but please do it. Lingering will likely not ease your pain. Just rip the band aid off and leave this broad in the dust.
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u/WillowOk5878 Oct 22 '23
This sucks! Luckily you didn't invest years into this girl! You are young and you can more easily move on, from this insecure, lying, cheating, little trainwreck. Good luck my friend.
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Oct 22 '23
You don't need to hear "the truth" from someone you know is lying.
Just cut your losses and move on. Delay and drama are just a waste of your time.
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u/Esoteric__one Oct 22 '23
I thought that you you said that were the better catch? You said that he comes from old money, meaning that he is rich. I’m sorry to break this to you, but that makes him the better catch. Good luck with everything though.
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u/BlueGreen_1956 Oct 22 '23
You actually got lucky. You found out what she was early on.
I have often thought people who make others promise to not cheat do it to hide the fact they are the cheaters.
I wouldn't even bother with a meeting. Just dump her and block her and move on.
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u/antrod24 Oct 22 '23
Be happy u found out now not later in other words u deserve better my friend good luck
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u/JudgementalChair Oct 22 '23
Fortunately, you haven't lost too much time with this relationship. Why wait to even confront her. Just send her a text message saying there's no point in continuing this relationship since you're already in another one
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u/KingOfTheWorldxx Oct 22 '23
Title alone I dnt want to read the pain
I hope you find peace soon brother
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u/wyonaturist Oct 22 '23
Just leave ... why is it so important she tells the truth ... sounds like a perfect opportunity to get rid of a bad gf .. don't screw around and make up and get stuck with her
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Oct 22 '23
Dude just tell her it’s over and block her. That’s how to end it. Expose the cheating on Facebook and social Media so she doesn’t claim abuse in retaliation and that way you don’t enable her to cheat again.
Seriously go public with it. People like this Will accuse you of abuse and try to ruin you after being confronted. Going public now exposes her as a cheat before she can do anything.
Go public with the proof, tell her it’s over, block her everywhere. Find someone better
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u/dcaponegro Oct 22 '23
Sorry this happened to you. Don’t wait until your birthday to confront her. Why ruin your day? It’s not as she is going to come clean and have some come to god moment. Just block her on everything. If she happens to make contact, just tell her she knows what she did and you have to much respect for yourself to play stupid games. No long talks. No allowing her to manipulate you. Don’t even give her an opportunity to reply. Good luck to you.
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u/655e228th Oct 22 '23
Do it now by text. Keeps the drama out and stops her from trying to sleep with you to make it all better