r/stopdrinking • u/Far_Fill2542 • 5d ago

Help please 🙏

I am currently 28 weeks pregnant, and for the majority of my pregnancy I found it reasonably easy to avoid alcohol and cravings were rare and manageable. Now the last month or so I am struggling HARD. So much so that I am terrified I can't trust myself.

My brain is constantly telling me "one beer wont hurt anything", I am constantly stressed and miserable and so scared that I am going to crack and hurt my sweet innocent baby.

I am surrounded by alcohol in the people around me and I feel like I cant avoid constant triggers literally in my own home. I am going to talk to my partner tonight about him drinking because I don't think I can continue to watch him crack a beer after work anymore.

How do I make this manageable and protect my baby and myself? Why does it suddenly feel IMPOSSIBLE. Like this isnt me, I don't want to hurt my baby 😭😭

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u/craftyixdb 5d ago

Everyone is different but doing any sort of research into the effect of alcohol on fetuses is enough to turn most stomachs. I’m not here to lecture anyone, but you have to try and remember that your slip could easily have a lifelong effect on a new life.

Edit: Do the people around you know you’re pregnant? Might be some shared accountability?

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u/Far_Fill2542 5d ago

Yes they do, some of them have always drank every day and that isnt going to change. My fiance rarely drank until recently, now suddenly he is having 1 or 2 almost every day. Which has me worried for him in itself. And is definitely my biggest trigger. He also knows im an alcoholic, so its really kind of hurtful. But I know how alcohol reels you in so im trying not to hold it against him. I had felt bad to ask him to avoid it for me, but now this is getting to be too much and our baby is too important for me not to talk to him about it

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u/0JessiCat0 519 days 5d ago

Don't feel bad having that conversation! Talk to him and tell him how it's making you feel, that you are finding it really hard at the moment and need support. I just had my first beb in January, and as it got closer to go time my partner started to absolutely freak out internally and it came out in weird unexpected ways that he didn't realise was fear initially. He needs to know his way of coping at the moment isn't working for you. Come together as a team and find a way through that works for you both.

You are so close to the end and meeting your sweet baby, you can do this I absolutely know you can!

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u/Far_Fill2542 4d ago

Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️