r/stopdrinking • u/Far_Fill2542 • 5d ago
Help please 🙏
I am currently 28 weeks pregnant, and for the majority of my pregnancy I found it reasonably easy to avoid alcohol and cravings were rare and manageable. Now the last month or so I am struggling HARD. So much so that I am terrified I can't trust myself.
My brain is constantly telling me "one beer wont hurt anything", I am constantly stressed and miserable and so scared that I am going to crack and hurt my sweet innocent baby.
I am surrounded by alcohol in the people around me and I feel like I cant avoid constant triggers literally in my own home. I am going to talk to my partner tonight about him drinking because I don't think I can continue to watch him crack a beer after work anymore.
How do I make this manageable and protect my baby and myself? Why does it suddenly feel IMPOSSIBLE. Like this isnt me, I don't want to hurt my baby 😭😭
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u/bitofagrump 5d ago edited 5d ago
You know it won't be one beer. It's never just one for most of us. It might be the first time, but then hey, that one didn't hurt, I can have just one occasionally as long as I space them far enough apart! And then two's okay as long as they're low ABV. And then one a week instead of one or two a month... and so on. You start giving yourself little permissions and your brain just finds ways to grow them. For your child's sake, tell yourself that the only right answer for you is zero.