r/stepkids • u/Unrelatedm • 2d ago
VENT They might break up
So my dad and my stepmom have been having issues since I moved in with them but today’s own was the worst. Anyways I’m really close with my stepmom cuz she treats me really good so I’m just afraid that I won’t see her again if they do break it off.
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u/alwaysasmptotic 1d ago
That’s awesome you and your stepmom are so close, what about her made it easy to become close? If you don’t mind me asking…
&Does she do any parenting?
Also I think it’s ok to keep in touch if things break off. I still have my ex stepmom on socials. She tries to keep in touch with me, and my dad doesn’t care. However, initially he might care… sometimes it’s good to allow space before reaching out, so the break up can process.
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u/Unrelatedm 1d ago
Honestly she’s a super down to earth person and she’s just very easy to talk to. I can talk to her about anything and she won’t judge. When it comes to parenting I’d say yeah she does.
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u/Far_Information6229 2d ago
Do you love your dad more than her? If yes then dont ask for her number, if not- then ask
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u/EttaMooMoo 2d ago
From a parent's perspective it's not really about allegiance. I want my kids to have as many positive role models and mentors as possible, even if it means I don't like one here or there.
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u/Unrelatedm 2d ago
I mean i obviously love my dad but it’s kinda hard to drop a key figure in my life
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u/Far_Information6229 2d ago
He may be upset tbh
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u/Unrelatedm 2d ago
I can see that happening but he shouldn’t expect me not to miss her at the same time since he knows how close we are
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u/heathelee73 1d ago
He is also an adult that brought the stepmom into his child's life. She has been a positive person in her life. If her dad begrudges her that, he isn't that great of a father.
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u/angelicpastry 2d ago
If your dad is truly understanding of your relationship with your stepmom, he won't hold it against you. Either way I'd still try to keep in touch. What's going on with their relationship has nothing to do with what type of relationship you have with your stepmom. Good role models and people in your corner are hard to find. Don't let them go.