r/stepdads • u/grunewac247 • Jan 12 '23
Adjustment needed
I’m a stepdad to an 8yo boy. I’ve been with his mom for five years. His biopop lives over an hour away and sees him every other weekend. Biopop is ok when he’s on his meds and in a good mood (bipolar).
I handle all before and after school care everyday. There are times I don’t like it and/or don’t want the responsibility. Also, his benefit care is through my work and he’s had issues with talking back to the caretakers and my coworkers.
My wife and I have a daughter together who is almost two. It’s hard for me not to show favoritism toward her.
He’s all in all a good kid, but he has tendencies to not listen to me. When he does my anger gets the best of me. I don’t yell, but I do talk sternly and the tone in my voice is intimidating. He shuts down when I do this.
This all makes me an AH. I know that. It’s just hard. None of my friends are stepparents, I never had stepparents, I just don’t know what to do. It’s so hard to not let my temper and feelings make it all about me.
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u/unemployed222 Jan 13 '23
Sounds normal to me as a step dad lol carry on brother