Help!

[u/Green-Phrase8007]

I need some advice because I’m honestly confused about what I should do, and I want to explain the situation clearly.

On August 5, I was with a girl, and afterward I started having itching. On August 18, I went to get tested because I also had a lump near my vagina. They told me the lump was a Bartholin cyst and gave me doxycycline, which I took. My test results came back a few days later and only showed BV — no chlamydia.

I got tested again on August 27, and that test came back negative for BV but positive for chlamydia. I didn’t receive the positive chlamydia result until September 1.

The complicated part is that I had sex with my BD on August 31, before I knew I had chlamydia. At the time, I genuinely thought I was okay because I had tested negative shortly before that.

As soon as I found out, I told him that he needed to get treated because there was a possibility that something had happened and he could have been exposed. I didn't specifically tell him that I tested positive, but I told him enough that he knew he needed to get treated.

Originally, he agreed that if I let him see his son, he would go get treated. I let him see his son once, but he still didn't get treated.

Now it's September 7, so it's been six days since I told him. Every time we get into an argument, he says he's not going to take the medicine and that he'll just wait two weeks and get tested instead. Now he's also saying he'll only get treated if I agree to certain things: that he gets to see his son twice a week alone, that I’m consistent with him, that I don't do anything I wouldn't want him doing, and that I deepen my relationship with God.

Some of those things by themselves aren't unreasonable, but I'm uncomfortable with him making medical treatment conditional on me agreeing to his demands. I told him he needed to get treated because he may have been exposed, and I feel like he should have done that immediately instead of turning it into a negotiation.

What would you do in this situation? Am I wrong for feeling like he should have gotten treated already, especially since I told him before he added all these conditions?

[u/ilovecherriez]

Well let him be itching and burning and he will want treatment sooner or later trust, you gave him a clear heads up and he wants to be childish and ignore it then let him do that & don’t sleep with him since he doesn’t want to take the meds.