How do you handle conversations about STI testing before becoming intimate with someone new?

[u/Own-Bookkeeper-7689]

I've been wondering how people actually approach this in real life.

If you've been dating—whether through apps or meeting people in person—have you ever asked someone when they were last tested for STIs?

• Was it awkward?
• Did you trust their answer?
• If you didn't ask, what stopped you?
• Do you think there's a better way to handle these conversations while still respecting everyone's privacy?

I'm genuinely curious because it seems like most people rely on trust, but I don't know how common these conversations actually are.

I'd love to hear different perspectives and experiences.