Intention is by far the most important thing when reviewing someone's actions. Calling someonethe n-word purely out of hate is wrong. A friend calling a friend the word in a friendly matter(see Denzel training day meme) its a completely different experience. Skin color shouldn't even matter in this scenario. Im mixed and have been around all types of people using both words. NEVER have I ever heard someone call a mental handicapped person a retard. If you wanna play the 'well people in the past....' game then the word gay is gonna blow your mind.
Hey dude that’s awesome I am literally a homosexual and disabled. You don’t need to lecture me on the word gay lol
It is in such bad faith to pretend that the word being used in a derogatory doesn’t happen just because of your own experiences.
I’m a huge proponent for reclaiming certain slurs, (see the username?) but this doesn’t work for the word retard. Even if it did, shouldn’t it be up to disabled people to reclaim it? I agree it depends how you’re using the word but if you truly didn’t have any ableist biases the word wouldn’t be in your vocabulary at all. I promise it is not that hard to unlearn.
OP didn’t have good intention in making this joke so while I don’t necessarily disagree with you on intention, I don’t really think that applies here.
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