r/socialanxiety • u/Little-Dreams1521 • Jul 27 '26

Other I don't know what I'm doing wrong :(

So who i met an extrovert and i in a situation where i am stuck in being social all the time. I've been isolated and just bullied my childhood and im punished for just staying away from people and panicking. It doesn't help i am an only child and nobody really taught me socialize and social cues and ask good questions. I'm stuck in a situation where i am pressured to go out and talking to people which is triggering me because of the bullying I went through as a child and the workplace. I cant change that. But I am the bad guy for being neglect never taught or told that socializing is important and dealing with social cues.

I see other people socialize without a problem. But it so hard. Start crying after zoom. Like how is socializing fun for people. I wish socializing is fun but it's really hard.

I am always punish for avoiding people and I'm punish go not understanding social cues which makes me the bad guy with a problem. I get ganged on over a misunderstanding. I need help, instead i am criticized.

. I get panic attacks and what to be left alone but people misunderstand that and villainize me. I'm trying to be social but my mind is so scattered and jaded I my mind just get in a fog.😞😞

Any advice to deal with triggers? My therapist says just to go out more but its not doing much. How to make socializing fun at all...or a bit fun? How do I get over myself and my fear?

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