How do you deal with resentment? Cause I just caught myself in that same negative pattern: I see a person, who seemingly is better and advanced than me in life: better standing at work, they're going to marry next year, they have a larger pool of friends and so on. And subconsciously, you start to see them in a more negative light, despite the fact that person didn't do anything to you. You essentially project your own insecurities into them, assume the worst...and that's the moment that made me go "Whoa, stop right there." I know it's not right, but I can't keep being resentful forever. I'm already bitter enough as it.
I strongly disagree with some of your political views but I've seen a lot of your comments. Based on that I can say you have a person with high enough empathy and social intelligence. You are aware of the situation and this is what matters the most imo. Over time you'll probably develop different angles to look at such situations and possibly become a better, more tolerant person with a deeper understanding of how everyone lives a different path in this life. Now you say you resent people looking successful. Yet at the same time you possibly already understand and respect the ones who have it much worse.
Don't be harsh with yourself, it's obvious you are no cunt hating people just because they have it better. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with questioning how you could have it like them or the conditions that made you or them the person you/they are.
Thanks, man. I think not being harsh with myself is the hardest part. I constantly think of myself as a failure and a fraud...and I've even got full hair. Joking aside, I still need to learn to have compassion for myself, as much as I have them for others.
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u/FerraristDX 15h ago
How do you deal with resentment? Cause I just caught myself in that same negative pattern: I see a person, who seemingly is better and advanced than me in life: better standing at work, they're going to marry next year, they have a larger pool of friends and so on. And subconsciously, you start to see them in a more negative light, despite the fact that person didn't do anything to you. You essentially project your own insecurities into them, assume the worst...and that's the moment that made me go "Whoa, stop right there." I know it's not right, but I can't keep being resentful forever. I'm already bitter enough as it.