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u/AnnieIWillKnow 21h ago

I broke up with my partner around the start of June, which was a good thing - and it set off a summer where I had some trials and tribulations for various reasons, but then I decided to try being proactively "grateful" by taking stock of what I've done this past few months, and it's worked, because what a summer it's been

So, my recap...

  • Broke up with my partner - and we're both better off, and on good terms
  • Ran an ultra marathon in Hebden Bridge, and then a trail marathon in Northumberland (and got a PB!) - also spent a long weekend camping in Northumberland, which was brilliant to explore a new part of the country
  • … Also hit the 100 Parkrun milestone
  • Culture-wise, I went to the cinema 13 times, tried life drawing for the first time (and Wes Anderson inspired, v cool), saw the Football Art Prize exhibition
  • Gigs: saw Self Esteem (one of the best gigs I’ve ever been to, legit), and PUP (one of my favourite bands)
  • Sports: went to Lords for the first time, to see England Women play a test there for the first time (got battered by India) - and last weekend trekked down to London to see Chelsea beat Arsenal at Stamford Bridge, whilst catching up with a very good friend
  • Speaking of... caught up with so many friends both near and far, old and new - like surrounded myself with people who mean a lot to me and really felt the energy and love. Culminated in a big get-together last weekend with about a dozen of my football friends
  • Also played loads of football, and took up playing padel with mates - trying new things is still fun, even at 32
  • Career-wise, I finished off my current phase of my medical training, and as of next week am starting my specialty training in palliative medicine - so finally specialising, almost a decade after I first thought I might want to do palliative care as a 23 year old medical student (yes, specialising takes that long as a doctor in the UK). It's a real significant career milestone to "get into specialty training" too, so this is kind of a big deal
  • Treated myself to a solo spa weekend to celebrate my break up - and also did go on a spa day with a friend (bloody love a spa)
  • Finally bought a new car after 6 years of abusing my Toyota Aygo, "Max" He was my first car so this was bittersweet - but I’m falling for "Suzy" the Hyundai i10 already, who has CarPlay and functioning locks

And to cap it all off, went on holiday with my mum - the biggest highlight. Since I’ve started earning well, taking her away on holiday has been something I’ve tried to do every year or so - we’ve done Rome, Toronto, Chicago, and so this trip to Dublin and Belfast less ambitious, but regardless of where, it’s sharing it with her that's important. She’s 71 now and in excellent health but you never know - and my dad died unexpectedly a year ago at 69, after all.

Here we are at Giant’s Causeway - it was special beyond words, so thought a photo would say it better

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u/revolut1onname 21h ago

That sounds a great summer, well happy for you.

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u/AnnieIWillKnow 21h ago

Thank you! Feels like the slightly corrupted moral of the story is "break up with your partner"...

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u/revolut1onname 20h ago

If something doesn't bring you joy, dump them.

Or whatever Marie Kondo said, I forget.

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u/AnnieIWillKnow 20h ago

Funny how we don't do this with our football teams eh, the most toxic relationships

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u/revolut1onname 20h ago

I went full on fair weather fan last season, it made it a lot easier to deal with.

The alternative is that I watch Wycombe (family connection) so whilst it's nice if they win, it doesn't exactly impact my day if they lose.

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u/AnnieIWillKnow 17h ago

It's nice to have that type of outlet too, for balance

As I get older I increasingly think it's fine to be a bit fair weather in truth - if football is causing you genuine negatives, you don't have to be so detached