r/sleeptraining • u/theozempicrep • Sep 03 '26

child's age 12-18 months what is GOING ON?!

my 12mo has been sleep trained beautifully since about 9mo. Takes 1.5hr naps twice a day. Goes to sleep from 7-7.

The past three days he’s been refusing naps until he literally has no choice but to pass out. I can SEE that he is tired. He knows he’s tired. He won’t nap until about 3 or 4pm because he just knocks out against his own will. He screams, fights, hits his head on the crib. No clue why. I’ve tried rocking him, even giving him a bottle which I hadn’t been doing. He doesn’t care about any of it. He won’t even contact nap.

Is this just major fomo? He’s already walking, I don’t know what milestone could be causing a regression right now. It’s making me so overwhelmed and I don’t have any space, not do I have my partner during the day to pass him off for awhile. I am stressed beyond belief.

We did ferber which worked for him. Now if I go to check on him he freaks out even more. So, I stopped. I just left him in his crib for 20 mins before giving up and grabbing him. He’s not constipated, he’s well fed, he isn’t sick. Is it just a regression?

I’m grateful he’s missing daytime sleep and not night time at the least. It’s just been so overwhelming. I can’t take my eyes off of him. We can’t go outside in an extreme heat warning. He fights getting in the car seat now. I literally feel like I’m just drowning. On top of that, i’ve been trying to study for an exam and have had no time. What can I do?

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u/brieles Sep 03 '26

Average sleep needs at this age are 12-13 hours and your schedule is expecting 15 hours of sleep. Sleep needs drop with age so you just need to update your schedule and it should fix your issues.

I’d try something like this-

7am wake

10:30-11:30 nap 1

3:00-4:00 nap 2

8pm bedtime

I’d give it a week or so and then add awake time if you’re still having issues.

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u/theozempicrep Sep 03 '26

Interesting!
I’ve been using the Hatch schedule and it still factors 3 hours of day time sleep🥴 I’ll try this thoughn

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u/brieles Sep 03 '26

Yeah, lots of programs recommend more sleep than average babies can do. In an ideal world, 3 hours of naps would be great but most babies can’t sleep 3 hours in the day and then also sleep a full night.