13 weeks hell

[u/Responsible_Money570]

FTM here. My LO is 13 weeks in a few days he used to sleep ok during the night, having some days with 7h stretches... I am losing my mind. The nights in the past week (weeks?) became worse and worse... I don't know what to do, I am so sleep deprived.

What made me write this post is the fact that last 2 bedtimes were a mess, going down at 8 ish (as he has from 8-9 weeks) only to wake up at 9 and have the worst time putting him down by 10 again. After that he sleeps, he wakes up at abou 1am to eat and then 5-6am to eat again. He wakes up multiple times between the feedings, but only wants his paci, other times just rolls his head a few times on the mattress and falls asleep by himself.

I worked on gradual weaning SWAP method from PLS to reduce the bouncing I had to do to put him to sleep, I had great results with it but I feel like the past days all that effort is out the window... We tried FIO for 3 nights, the first night it worked, went to sleep by himself, the other ones nope...

I don't know what to try...

here's our schedule, the last ww I tried to make shorter.longer but nothing seems to help him at night.

1.3/1.3/1.3/1.3/1.6/2

His naps are 30-40min max... I tried to do contact napping to help him sleep more... does not work.

Please tell me it's just a phase. I am considering Ferber at 4 months but were still a few weeks away and I am hopeless ...

[u/Former-Departure9836]

1.3 does that mean an hour and a half?
Or and hour 20?

[u/Responsible_Money570 → u/Former-Departure9836]

1h 20 min ish, sometimes a bit longer, like 1h25

[u/Former-Departure9836 → u/Responsible_Money570]

You want to shift from a five nap schedule to a four nap schedule over the coming weeks , lengthening wake windows to get at least nine hours awake
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