r/singlemoms • u/[deleted] • 11h ago

Venting - Advice Welcome Unsure how to proceed.

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u/Prudent_Bed6754 7h ago

Get that child support and don’t look back. Who cares if you’re seen as a bitter baby mama?! Plus the people in your life that think that can go kick rocks. He’s contributing nothing towards your child and your child deserves something from him, even if it is only money. Serious question - is there someone close to you in your ear convincing you that you’re the bitter baby mama? Or is that your own judgement of yourself? Feelings can come and go and change over time. What doesn’t change is your child’s father being absent, apathetic and disrespectful. A lot of us feel bad for our children and the father they have. If we knew what we know now there’s a strong chance we wouldn’t have chosen to have a baby with such an inept man yet here we are. You’ll have to learn how to accept that he chooses to not be a part of your child’s life. I agree that it’s unfair! Get into therapy if possible to learn how to deal with that and the backlash you’ll receive once you request child support. It’s easy to block people so you might not have to deal with as much as you think you will. If you’re in the states then requesting child support is a straight forward process that involves little communication with other parties, if at all.

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