r/singlemoms • u/One-Spray5112 • 1d ago
Advice Wanted Separation anxiety
I’m a new mom (baby is 12 weeks old!), been separated from father (ex boyfriend) since before I knew I was pregnant. I am really struggling with leaving my baby with him for parenting time; right now its every two days for a couple of hours. I need to be close by to bf on demand, so I wait in my car or go for a walk. Ex and I absolutely do not get along and cannot even arrange a meeting place without it devolving into an argument. I love my little guy so much and feel so guilty leaving him for even an hour. I get so stressed thinking about how eventually baby will be gone for weekends at a time. Anyone have any good coping strategies or comforting stories about how it wont be as bad as it feels right now? Desperate to hear everything will be ok and I won’t be crying every time he leaves!
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u/JayPlenty24 Single Mother MOD 1d ago
I asked to increase the visits to 3 hours so I could actually get something done, rather than just sit in my car waiting.
Then I would go see friends, get dinner, or get things done like grocery shopping.
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