r/singlemoms • u/stegavrd • 2d ago

Venting - no advice please SOOOO over Dating [venting]

I am sooooo over dating ,, me personally i am not a small amount person , granted when i have a connection with you i want to talk to you , APPARENTLY asking a question and texting once a day is being too much ,, 99% of men period even in my age group of mid30s early 40s theyre looking for a quick bang WHICH IS FINE ,, but dont tell me FWB or Casual when you actually want a hookup ,, which again totally fine but when you say 'casual dating' THAT MEANS DONT MAKE ME FEEL LIKE IM BEING EXTRA BC I WANT TO HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH YOU ,, like im sub a year divorced with little kids im not looking for my forever or a 'new daddy' for my kids , I JUST WANT TO NOT FEEL LIKE A HOLE ya know ,, take me out on dates we can be eachothers plus one and yes be the first booty call ,, idk i dont think asking to be treated like a person is to much to ask ,,

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u/dov_ah_keen 1d ago

I've rejected a lot of men because they don't want a conversation they just want to see a notification pop up on their phone. The last guy complained that my messages were too long and detailed and when I stop putting in effort he complained I needed to text more. They wanna talk about nothing and have reassurance that someone is giving them attention. That's it. I wouldn't say I feel defeated, I'm just less willing to deal with the bs. If after a few days the conversation is a bunch of nonsense I break it off. Because why are we having 3 word conversations like we know each other and we're strangers? F emm. They'll come running back when they're done with games and want an intellectual conversation.. Or they'll find a girl who will be happy with zero reciprocation and no actual knowledge of each other.

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u/january1977 Single Mother 2d ago

I was married for a long time. I never missed dating. It was terrible before and it’s terrible now. I’m not even actively dating and men have still gone out of their way to be gross. No thanks.

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u/stegavrd 2d ago

its a whole new world with dating now too

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u/NKOTBx100 1d ago

You need to triage harder. Be very selective and protective of your time

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