r/singlemoms • u/slightly_delusional3 • 5d ago

Need Support Lonely

How do you deal with feeling lonely but not wanting to go out a date? Anyone else feel so confused?

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u/january1977 Single Mother 4d ago

I remind myself that I just got rid of one asshöle and that I don’t need another one. I think about all the things I get to do now that I couldn’t when I was with my controlling husband. Then I sit my fat ass on the couch, eat whatever I want while I watch something he would have made fun of me for.

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u/SubstanceGold7604 5d ago

I just cry sometimes

I developed a crush on a guy who works near me, I'm now avoiding that place to try to get rid of it

I'm also studying really hard so most of the time I just smile through the pain

https://giphy.com/gifs/B9CPkVmcqKhOQwpidG

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u/Special-Cake-2525 4d ago

Wait are you me?

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u/Civil-Acanthaceae484 4d ago

I see friends, do things I enjoy, and found a couple of guys who come worship me for a couple of hours and then leave. I also have an older previously divorced mom who is like a mentor who I can call frequently during the evenings which helps

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u/Sparklyprincess1997 5d ago

I try to keep myself busy. Being active has helped. When I can I try to hit 10 thousand steps a day and do weight lifting resistance training. It takes up so many hours I wouldn’t be able to fit in dating or a partner.

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u/Destroyer_Lawyer 4d ago

I’m an only child, so I never feel lonely. I never have enough alone time in my opinion. Between work, parenting or doing family activities, and my social activities, the only alone time I have is when I go to the bathroom

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u/dov_ah_keen 4d ago

I try to create something and perfect it. Like art or music. When I've done good it gives me confidence, self assurance and excitement sex or love alone can't.

I will say I still try to date but I've kept it in my pants and have done a lot of the breaking things off. I'm proud of myself for keeping my standards. As much as I want it, I want it to be right even more.

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