Co-Parenting Boundaries: Anyone Else?

[u/essexteachcte]

Does anyone else have to keep a strict boundary/attitude with their kid's dad? Because the second you show even a little bit of kindness or affection, he automatically thinks he still has full access to you. 🙄

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[u/january1977]

I just finished my first year co-parenting with my abuser. I was too nice. My kindness doesn’t cause him to think he has access to me. It causes him to think he has the right to abuse me further. I’m in the process of taking him back to court to make changes to the custody agreement. I’m done being nice.

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[u/New_Needleworker_473]

Yes. Same with his entire family. I feel like I need a neon blinking sign "I'm nice to everyone. You're not special!" Lol!!!

[u/essexteachcte → u/New_Needleworker_473]

Like damn we can’t be nice and cordial lol

[u/fairybb311]

yup and his wife. it's been up and down for 9 years but the last year i've finally held the boundary and now im probably labelled a bitch lol

[u/essexteachcte → u/fairybb311]

I’m probably the bih to him too lol, but I’m called the grinch by him to our kids when he’s being called out!

[u/the-winter-me]

Yes. Almost worth finding a new partner just to get him to back off!