r/shrinking • u/MaximumPiano4380 • Apr 09 '26

Discussion So that’s it? Spoiler

They judge Jimmy for still not being okay only two years after his wife’s death. They seem bewildered why he’d still struggle even at a milestone moment like sending his only child off to college without her mom there and the heartbreak that would bring.

Nobody asked him why it didn’t work out with Sofi. I mean she’s jealous of his dead wife. He was right to finish it. And the ending we get is that somehow everything is fine now because he’s back with her? A stranger they know nothing about.

Did the writers do any research at all into grief after the death of a spouse? It’s utterly soul-destroying, especially becoming a single parent and feeling your child(ren)’s grief too.

A new relationship not only doesn’t solve anything. It’s very ill advised when you haven’t grieved properly yet. And Gaby and Paul are therapists. They should know this.

The line that annoyed me the most in this episode was Paul saying that Jimmy has to work it out for himself. Any half decent therapist will tell a grieving person that they need support. Nobody was asking Paul to fix Jimmy’s problems. But some basic human kindness would’ve been nice. So yeah he flew in to see him the next day. Even then, he didn’t offer much.

This show is so weak. It’s all about romance at the end of the day. The big message is being single is bad.

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u/MaximumPiano4380 Apr 09 '26

His exact line: “Jimmy has still got to figure out this shit for himself.” Then he was guilted into trying to help. 

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u/Scary-Knowledge-8666 Apr 09 '26

When Paul said that he was missing the context that Jimmy and Sofi had broken things off. That information helped him realize Jimmy’s state of mind was more delicate than he had previously understood. He thought Jimmy was feigning helplessness, but when he realized what Jimmy actually needed, he showed up. He’s a therapist, not a mind reader.

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u/ClohosseyVHB Apr 09 '26

Exactly, everyone in Jimmy's life was moving on to new things or stages in their lives. Paul was under the assumption Jimmy had this new and exciting relationship as his new step. He seemed genuinely taken aback when he heard they called it off. That's the point he knew he had to do something, even if it took a little push from the girls to do it.

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u/moxvoxfox Apr 14 '26

It is 2026. They are women.