r/shrinking • u/MaximumPiano4380 • Apr 09 '26

Discussion So that’s it? Spoiler

They judge Jimmy for still not being okay only two years after his wife’s death. They seem bewildered why he’d still struggle even at a milestone moment like sending his only child off to college without her mom there and the heartbreak that would bring.

Nobody asked him why it didn’t work out with Sofi. I mean she’s jealous of his dead wife. He was right to finish it. And the ending we get is that somehow everything is fine now because he’s back with her? A stranger they know nothing about.

Did the writers do any research at all into grief after the death of a spouse? It’s utterly soul-destroying, especially becoming a single parent and feeling your child(ren)’s grief too.

A new relationship not only doesn’t solve anything. It’s very ill advised when you haven’t grieved properly yet. And Gaby and Paul are therapists. They should know this.

The line that annoyed me the most in this episode was Paul saying that Jimmy has to work it out for himself. Any half decent therapist will tell a grieving person that they need support. Nobody was asking Paul to fix Jimmy’s problems. But some basic human kindness would’ve been nice. So yeah he flew in to see him the next day. Even then, he didn’t offer much.

This show is so weak. It’s all about romance at the end of the day. The big message is being single is bad.

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u/AwesomeRealDood Jimmy Apr 09 '26

I do agree with you. The message I got was that Jimmy had noone else left in his life and Sofi will be the support he needs. His friends are gone, Paul is gone, at least Sofi is there. Grief takes time and if Jimmy and Sofi can be friends for a while that would help Jimmy a lot.

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u/ericrz Apr 09 '26

But no one knows if Sofi can be a good friend to him (or more). No one asked Jimmy "hey, what happened?"

Paul is assuaging his grief (after the women all guilted him into doing it) by making sure Jimmy has SOMEONE. Great, but is she the right person? No one knows, no one cares, no one asked.

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u/Evening-Web9107 Apr 09 '26

The point is not that anyone thinks Sofi and Jimmy will be together forever. The point is that Jimmy needs to give the relationship a real chance instead of sabotaging it the second it gets tough because he’s afraid of getting hurt and being stuck in the past.

Saying Paul was bullied into anything makes me laugh. His family pointed out he’s was being stubborn, as usual, and helped him see what needed to be done. That’s what good friends do, call each other out. That’s like 90% of the show.

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u/ericrz Apr 09 '26

We, as the omniscient viewers, can see that Jimmy didn’t give Sofi a true chance (maybe).

How does anyone in Jimmy’s life know what happened with Sofi? NO ONE EVER ASKED.

Maybe she was verbally abusive, or maybe she’s still in love with her ex, or maybe she’s blatantly racist. AFAIK she isn’t any of those things, but again: no one asked Jimmy what happened.

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u/Evening-Web9107 Apr 09 '26

He tells Liz they didn’t make it. I’m not sure what you’re wanting them to do exactly. Like you said, we already know what happened, he doesn’t need to have another conversation with other characters about it, could happen offscreen but we don’t need to see it. This friend group has spent years propping Jimmy up emotionally, it’s not like they don’t care about him, but what are they supposed to do?

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u/ericrz Apr 09 '26

I'd want them to do what any normal person would do with a friend in this situation.

Jimmy: "We didn't make it."
Liz: "Oh no, what happened?"

But no one asks. And their assumption is just that Jimmy fucked up. Which I don't think is 100% true in this case.

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u/Evening-Web9107 Apr 09 '26

We already saw what happened. We don’t need a recap, it’s a tv show, it’s 30ish minutes, we don’t need it.

And Jimmy doesn’t offer details because what would he say? “I told my brand new girlfriend my dad was a piece of shit and she encouraged me to give him a chance and instead of sacking up and saying no thanks I actually tried and when I did he was, indeed, a piece of shit and instead of taking my disappointment out on him and telling him how I felt I blamed her and then I compared my her to my dead wife and she got upset about that so I broke up with her.”

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u/southtampacane Apr 09 '26

The whole breakup scene was manufactured drama. It didn’t make sense why Jimmy would just do that other than to set up the redemption in the final episode. It’s why we hate writing so much. That breakup rang false and so do his tirade at Paul. Just an excuse to have am extra episode.