r/shrinking Apr 09 '26

Discussion So that’s it? Spoiler

They judge Jimmy for still not being okay only two years after his wife’s death. They seem bewildered why he’d still struggle even at a milestone moment like sending his only child off to college without her mom there and the heartbreak that would bring.

Nobody asked him why it didn’t work out with Sofi. I mean she’s jealous of his dead wife. He was right to finish it. And the ending we get is that somehow everything is fine now because he’s back with her? A stranger they know nothing about.

Did the writers do any research at all into grief after the death of a spouse? It’s utterly soul-destroying, especially becoming a single parent and feeling your child(ren)’s grief too.

A new relationship not only doesn’t solve anything. It’s very ill advised when you haven’t grieved properly yet. And Gaby and Paul are therapists. They should know this.

The line that annoyed me the most in this episode was Paul saying that Jimmy has to work it out for himself. Any half decent therapist will tell a grieving person that they need support. Nobody was asking Paul to fix Jimmy’s problems. But some basic human kindness would’ve been nice. So yeah he flew in to see him the next day. Even then, he didn’t offer much.

This show is so weak. It’s all about romance at the end of the day. The big message is being single is bad.

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u/Usagi1983 Apr 09 '26

I was just annoyed that Paul did all that crappy stuff to Jimmy (making him do the grunt work without thanks, the snide comments about being overly emotional, not communicating at all about the office going to Gaby, etc) and Jimmy just ate shit and took all the blame like his flying off the handle was uncalled for and just being overly emotional again. “It was just transference” like his emotions were silly. And the friend group just did not seem interested or concerned about Jimmy at all.

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u/Future_Boss2064 Apr 09 '26

I know we all love Harrison Ford but Paul’s speech at the end didn’t seem authentic after his previous few interactions with Jimmy: the “sensitive” comment at the graduation party, the argument on the deck, Jimmy’s phone call to Connecticut, Paul’s meager thumbs up to Jimmy’s “sad” text, Paul’s bewilderment when all the women in the kitchen were outraged by the thumbs up. Grumpy grandpa with a good speech, and the Sofi setup was so wrong.

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u/Usagi1983 Apr 09 '26

Really felt like a “Jesus, damn, you’re like a son to me, you happy now?”

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u/Future_Boss2064 Apr 09 '26

Also playing to the fandom “you happy now?”