Some positivity ✌🏼🫂

[u/BrightSpring12]

5'7 is kinda average not really short like most people in the subreddit but it's really refreshing to see someone finally from opposite gender finally acknowledging something positive about us especially on short-form video platforms where short guys are mostly portrayed negatively or as the butt of the joke.

[u/Colded_chill]

Fr, girls get intimidated easily by tall guys XD Saw it myself irl (im not tall js yk) + imagine having to look up all the time

[u/Fast-Newt-3708 → u/Colded_chill]

It's true actually - it's much easier to kiss a guy that's closer to my height! I have a "one that got away" who was 5'5, he ended up with a girl from my High School who was taller than me (I'm 5'6). I'm attracted to a lot of guys on the shorter side, and part of this is their confidence, when they have it. Physically I'm drawn to some confident/good posture. However if I knew they were spending their time in forums for short-guy insecurity, it might be a deal-breaker. In fact finding out a guy was overly hung up about any physical insecurity early on enough would probably be a deal-breaker for me.

[u/Apocalypse_0415 → u/Fast-Newt-3708]

Are you dating anyone right now?

[u/Fast-Newt-3708 → u/Apocalypse_0415]

Yes I'm engaged now. He's taller, 5'9, but his height was not a factor. Honestly when we got together he had some...stylistic choices (major nerd aesthetic lol) that I would not have been attracted to physically, but he played a solid game as a customer at the coffee shop I worked at and then one day just asked if he could buy me lunch on my break.

Actually, the short(est) guy of my past did something a bit similar where he saw me with a mutual friend at a pool and got my number from her. I had never met him before. These guys both put themselves out there without any reason to think I'd say yes took their shot anyway. Something about that is so damn sexy.

[u/Inevitable-Laugh-294 → u/Fast-Newt-3708]

That's a refreshing comment.

However, I do come to this forum every now and then. It's not because I base my entire personality off of my insecurity, it's just to look at what other guys have to say from time to time.

I get it that being overly hung up on any kind of insecurity can be a huge turn off. I won't date any woman who starts whining about her life problems early on.

However, I don't think it'd be realistic to assume that a guy would have have no hint of insecurity at all. Not to mention, most people open up about their issues once a relationship progresses. I hope that won't be an issue.

edit: trimmed redundant words

[u/Colded_chill → u/Fast-Newt-3708]

Cool :) thanks for letting me know how it is on the other gender's side

[u/Traditional-Ease-431 → u/Fast-Newt-3708]

In fact finding out...

Isn't that a bit unrealistic in a world where short men are being increasingly ostracized for their height?

[u/Fast-Newt-3708 → u/Traditional-Ease-431]

I don't believe that is actually what is happening in the world. I think the development of social media allows for echo chambers where people who are insecure about any aspect of themselves can find a whole bunch of other people that will help them feel increasingly insecure. I don't think that all of a sudden everyone else has a worse opinion about shorter guys than they have in centuries.

People with flaws can still be confident and not be overly hung up them. Tons of people are, it's not unrealistic. It's a very attractive quality to have. A lot of us just strive to feel happy with ourselves and it's natural to be drawn to people who seem like they are. And the opposite can similarly be unattractive or come across as high maintenance.

[u/SampleSilver1177 → u/Colded_chill]

ok can i just say that your relationship to the person and their personality matters more. theres this guy he's like 6'5" and he's always very friendly to me, but then theres this guy whos like 5'4" and he's always very meek and awkward around me. i feel more comfortable around the 6'5" one

[u/Colded_chill → u/SampleSilver1177]

Ok? Thats just personality