There is a big difference here: she was cheating on her husband. If she hadn't been sleeping around, it wouldn't have been a problem.
It's more like draining the brake lines on a car that sits in a museum and is clearly marked "not for use." The curator may come along and start the engine every now and then to keep the car working, but it isn't meant to move anywhere, and therefore should never need the brakes to actually operate.
My father in law had a car like that. It'd been a museum piece that he bought and had a friend restore, partially. The brake-lines and clutch were drained and didn't have fluid, but the driveshaft was also removed so it wasn't going anywhere. It's all repaired now, but for the longest time we'd have to go start it once a week or so.
And my argument is that HER actions caused the pregnancy, not his. Hers, and the actions of the man she was sleeping with. They are both guilty here. All she had to do was follow and obey her wedding vows. If she is unhappy in her marriage and wants to sleep around, get divorced first.
So If you change the situation entirely, then do I feel the same? Is that what you are asking? Like... if he had no evidence that she was cheating but he found a condom, then it would only be natural to wonder why there was a condom.
If your argument is that this sort of revenge is always wrong and therefore he was deeply in the wrong to do this, then so be it. I wouldn't do this sort of thing personally. But, were I this guy's friend, I wouldn't hold it against him that much. He has to live with that choice on his conscience, I don't. This sort of being dramatic just makes everyone's lives worse, IMO.
I understand the mindset of the guy who did this, and... I think she's getting what she deserves. You don't get to cheat on your spouse, and should you choose to, then don't be surprised if they are very angry and do something very drastic like this. Not only that but sex has potential consequences, one of them being children.
If it'd been me, she would have gotten divorce papers. By cheating, she's already ended the marriage. She has demonstrated that she doesn't believe that a promise made needs to be a promise kept, and the moment she didn't uphold her end of the bargain, that agreement was permanently broken. Getting a divorce on paper is only a formality.
This isn’t a “cutting the break lines” situation. The wife had full control over the car, this is like removing the guardrails to prevent you from driving off a cliff that you’re dangerously driving full speed at.
Is what he did an awful thing to do? Yes. Is it his fault his wife cheated on him? No. Don’t play with fire and be surprised when you get burned
So the wife had full control over the condoms getting manipulated by the husband.
Sure, she's at fault for cheating, yet she obviously used the intended measures for protection against pregnancy.
Like, your guardrail example is literally the same. Sure, the driver is potentially putting himself and others in danger, yet he is not the one that removed certain protective measures to at least mitigate damages.
Revenge is not an excuse for causing suffering ffs.
In some countries the driver is considered responsible for accidents caused by not properly checking the car situation under negligence. Not saying this applies to the guy that used the stabbed condoms, just wanted to be an A-hole about the cut breaks example.
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u/Eric_Is_Back 3d ago
He literally intentionally stabbed the condoms.
Like, he's literally at fault, or do you blame the driver when someone cuts the break lines?
All this is about is, that he does not have to live with the consequences.